my 3 month old will cry a lil cry in his sleep from time to time. i feed him and change his diaper after the first time he does it. then i wait 3 hours and do it again. durrin the night. but in between he can make lil whiney noises and i'm okay with that but my mom seems to be jumpin up for every lil sound he makes and i feel like she's makin me feel like i'm not bein a good mom or something. and if he goes past 3 hours sleepin without a bottle she says he's not gettin his nutrition he needs and that he should have the bottle even if it means wakin him up to give it to him....? i can't wait till i move out. so that way i can jus hang up on her instead of hearin her constant naggin.
2007-12-26 20:50:27 · 8 answers · asked by i love marco c. 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Never wake a sleeping baby expecially overnight, you want to get your baby into a good sleeping habit which means sleeping totally overnight. As for the jumping up at everysound your baby makes, I think your mother is being to paranoid, with my son I was like that for like the first month, he is 10months old and sleeps in my room and yer I do awaken to the sounds he makes but i dont check on him I just go back to sleep, I only check on him when he starts actually crying or whinging and I just resettle him. I would try not to feed your baby overnight either unless your child is underweight.
Tell your mother polietly , that if she mothers your son how are you going to learn how to do it and also that because he is your son your maternal instincts are more intuned to his needs then her maternal instincts.
2007-12-26 20:59:07 · answer #1 · answered by Jemjems_Mummy 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Once you get past a certain point, you no longer wake the baby to feed or change diapers. At 3 mos, you are WELL past that point. She is merely messing with his sleep now. Let him sleep. Let him tell you when he is hungry or needs changing.
The old saying "sleeping like a baby" is not at all true. Babies are very busy and noisy sleepers. Their growing bodies are busy all the time. I had to move my girl's baby monitor across the room and turn it all the way down because her little noises were keeping me up all night. Even dogs whimper in their sleep! Leave that poor little boy alone. You can tell when he is awake and crying for you. That is the only time you need to go in. Just imagine how pissed you'd be if someone woke you up everytime you made a weird noise while sleeping! Even short little cries that last a few seconds or a minute need to be left alone so that he can learn to go back to sleep by himself. He's probably not even completely awake then. Just don't do that whole "cry it out" thing. It's just mean.
2007-12-26 21:07:36 · answer #2 · answered by ladybug 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well my son was sleeping through the night from 6 weeks and I certainly did not wake him for a bottle and he is thriving now at 4 months old. I even asked my health visitor about it as I was worried that such a young baby should not go that long without milk but she said it is fine just as long as he is getting what he needs throughout the day. I guess you must be quite young as you still live at home so maybe that's why your mum thinks she knows better than you but you are his mother and I'm sure you know what is best for your son. Listen to your instincts and politely tell your mum that when you need her help you will ask for it and ask her to give you the chance to be a mother to your son.
2007-12-26 22:31:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
At 3 months of age, your baby will wake up on it's own and cry for real if it needs to be changed or fed. You are the mother and you need to tell your mom to just let you do your job, your baby needs a good sleep schedule and your goal is to have that baby sleeping through the night. A baby will not starve over night, and when it's hungry it WILL let you know. A baby crys to let you know it's needs. If it's just wimpering or fussing a bit at night it's ok, babies dream like we do, and I have actually watched my son cry for a minute and stay asleep many times, I have also seen him smile, laugh and grunt in his sleep. It's very cute to watch. Let that baby sleep, tell your mom just to back off a bit (nicely of course) You know what's best for your baby, and you need to learn how to mother your baby without your mom nagging you. I know her intentions are good, and being a grandmom is overwhelming, but she needs to just chill out and give you some room to breathe. I hope you can work this out, your in my prayers. Try to get some sleep. God bless
2007-12-26 21:17:03 · answer #4 · answered by Angi 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
stick to your guns and do what you feel is best.
NEVER wake a sleeping baby, they will wake when they are hungry and have had enough sleep. Be thankful that he is sleeping!
If he does whine a little during the night don't worry about it. Never interupt a sleeping baby and certainly don't worry if he goes right back to sleep. Tell you mum the same.
Tell your mum that you don't appreciate her butting in and you understand she means well but you intend to do it your way and if you want help and advice you'll ask for it then. (say it nicely of course but with enough confidence that she know you mean business!!)
good luck! I lived with MIL for 1st childs 18mths but thankfully she never tried to take over.
2007-12-26 21:15:05 · answer #5 · answered by Cindy; mum to 3 monkeys! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly what you are going through. when my 1st child was born my husband and i stayed @ my parents for 5 days. her great idea was for us to stay for a while, that way i could get some "rest", ya, right!! any way, every time the kid made a noise, she would wake me up and tell me to tend to him. i was in the same room. when he cried i could hear him. then i would get up and feed and/ or change him. his little sleeping noises weren't loud. i think she sat in the hallway and listened. 3 years later # 2 was born. i didn't stay @ her house. i got more sleep taking care of a new born and our 3 year old at our own home. GOOD LUCK. i hope you can move into your own place real soon.
2007-12-26 21:10:08 · answer #6 · answered by chapes 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
that is exactly what I'm experiencing right now. I tried to politely explain to my mother in law about baby's sleeping schedule and feeding routine, but she ignore me and keeps going on and on about giving a bottle to the baby cause he's not getting nutrition enough (I breasfeed at night coz i'm working) Thank god we already bought a house and will be getting the keys anytime soon. I can't wait to move from that house
2007-12-26 21:28:30 · answer #7 · answered by cwwmom 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she raised hers, this baby is yours and you dont want to be 5 years down the road going to a specialist because your child weighs 300 lbs!!
2007-12-26 21:39:02 · answer #8 · answered by dreamsofanangel00 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋