Please can you help me?? I was looking through my internet history when I came across cookies from porn sites. Then I checked the history on explorer and it lists about 5 different sites on there. When you click on them they show another few pages. I have asked my husband if he has been looking at porn and he says no, he wasn't even on the computer at that time. What gets me more than anything is that he is lying to me. Is there anyway these things could be on there with an innocent reason??
2007-12-26 20:45:20 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Computers & Internet ➔ Security
Edited once answered: the thing is when it is teenage this and teenage that and you have a teenage daughter you have to worry.
2007-12-26 20:55:21 · update #1
There are plenty of porn sites that pretend to be non-porn so that they will be includedi in search results.
I would not worry.
2007-12-26 20:50:19 · answer #1 · answered by Chief BaggageSmasher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now that it's pretty much been established that he is looking at porn, I guess the question is whether or not you would be as upset about it if it weren't teenage girls he was looking at? If you wouldn't, well then I think you should sit down with him and calmly explain to him why you are upset. If he is a decent guy he will more than likely understand your concerns make an effort to respect your feelings by not looking at it anymore. If he doesnt seem to understand why you are concerned about this behaviour, well then I think it's a problem that couldn't be solved by yahoo answers! It'd have to be something you had to work out on your own, basing your decision on the wellbeing of yourself and your daughter.
Good luck :)
2007-12-26 21:06:53 · answer #2 · answered by beejay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that it shows a few more pages after clicking the individual sites in the history seems like that the sites were browsed. I don't think there is no "innocent" reason for those showing up.
2007-12-26 20:58:29 · answer #3 · answered by Dave R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you found it in your cookies then someone was there...period. They don't just pop up from out of no where.
My ex-husband started doing that and ended up having a sex problem from it (so he states) I divorced him after 13 years regardless.
I read all the responses to your question...typical male answers. Want their cake and eat it to. For me this is the most disrespectful thing you can do to your woman or your man unless it's mutual. It's obvious it is not in this case.
Furthermore if the man has to lie to you about it then he knows he is doing something wrong to offend you. Will this stop him? No sadly it won't. Once they get away with it they just keep going. I agree with one of the posters, although I wouldn't show him how to do delete the cookies I would let him know everytime I find something. He will get sick of it.
For all you men out there viewing women as personal pleasure objects hear this: We are not here for your personal enjoyment nor for your entertainment. When you grow up and hopefully you will you will understand what a meaningful relationship is and how to care for and respect it in order to KEEP it. A woman who respects herself doesn't have to show herself to any stranger to feel wanted or loved. To the woman who does, learn to love and accept yourself, question why you need another's approval of your own body.
I also apologize if I hit any nerves. When I read this question it reminded me of my own divorce and how I thought we were truthful with each other and we were not. How can you be committed to a man who isn't committed to you?
Anyway be strong and stand your ground and don't let him bull you.
T
2007-12-26 23:47:25 · answer #4 · answered by treorai22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be from somewhere else, but you never know. It's not very easy for a guy to confess something like this. Don't assume the worse, just see if it happens again. If you find out anything, you should talk to him about it. Any relationship will be tainted without honesty.
2007-12-26 20:49:09 · answer #5 · answered by guru 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your excellent instincts! It's important that you protect yourself from a misogynistic pervert. Look at the time log on the computer, for the pornographic sites: was he home then?
Ask an IT expert whether it's possible to track who logged on at those times, using their personal password (you don't have to say that it's to track pornography). Try changing the password, if you both share one. Do you have children or anyone else living with you? If not, then the answer is clear.
A loving man would not support misogyny, but express his respect for his beloved wife.
Rather than portraying sexual relations as a beautiful and intimate expression of love between a man and a woman in honorable relationship, pornography demeans and distorts the sexual act. Casual and perverted sex are portrayed as exciting and desirable. Personal gratification with little or no regard for the other person is highlighted.
On the contrary, Love "does not behave indecently," wrote Paul. "[It] does not look for its own interests." (1 Corinthians 13:5) The Bible exhorts men to 'love their wives as their own bodies' and to 'assign them honor,' not to view women as merely objects for sexual gratification. (Ephesians 5:28; 1 Peter 3:7) Is someone, who regularly feeds on sexually explicit images of other people, truly behaving decently? And is that person really showing honor and respect? Instead of love, pornography cultivates self-centered, selfish desire.
Only in a misogynistic society, is it considered "normal" to watch pornography. It teaches men to view the female sex as toys that only exist for their prurient interest, essentially training them to be future misogynes. It also exploits the poor women in the movies, who often have already been sexually abused as children. Despite the publicity given to sex in this country, many people still find it difficult to talk about sex in a serious, dignified way.
Are there certain changes in your husband's behavior? Has he become more moody, sullen, secretive, or withdrawn—perhaps without even knowing it. Does he sometimes lash out at you or other family members for no reason? These men's behavior is probably telling on them. Friends and family members have noticed that something is wrong. They just don't know what it is—yet!
Looking at pornographic material constitutes adultery: "Everyone that keeps on looking at a woman, so as to have a passion for her, has already committed adultery with her in his heart."—Matthew 5:28. If you watched naked men in sex acts, how would your husband feel?
It takes a really loving, strong woman to stand up for herself. You may want to go to a marital therapist.
Don't settle for a misogynist. You'll find someone who is truly worthy of your love, as soon as you makes room in your life for him.
2007-12-27 06:21:50 · answer #6 · answered by Rodolfo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would give him the benifit of doubt because even some of those filthy avatars we get on here from time to time...like tonight is porn... & yet we didnt choose to look at it...& filth can pop up anywhere like you can innocently click onto a site & it can just happen..so dont blame him just yet!!
2007-12-26 20:52:59 · answer #7 · answered by ausblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take your husband to the computer and show him how to delete the cookies and history, i guarantee it will scare the s**t out of him so bad he wont be doing it anymore. I know it would work on me
2007-12-26 21:09:17 · answer #8 · answered by jbaer619 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless someone else uses your computer, then prob. not! my hubbie did the same thing. Took him 2 days to fess up. Best I can tell, most men would lie about this. !
2007-12-26 20:49:27 · answer #9 · answered by Hopeless Romantic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its on the internet history it means that someone typed the internet address directly onto the address bar. so unless someone else has access to the comp i think its pretty safe to say that it was him.
2007-12-26 20:50:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋