I've been dating my boyfriend for about 3 months and we've been sexually active for about 1 month, or at least we've been trying to be sexually active.
I can't seem to get him to come. The strange part is, I can orgasm very easily but he is always unable to come whenever we make love. I know that usually it's the other way around, that the guy comes early and the girl never does but no matter how long we fool around and have sex, he can not come for some reason! We even tried sex without a condom (of course I'm on the pill, don' want any kids yet..lol) and still, he cannot come. He was a virgin until he started dating me, not sure if that matter or not, but I think it might be of some significance.
Anyway, thanx for any help you all can give me.
2007-12-26 19:25:55 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
He needs to see a doc...something is "broken"......
2007-12-26 19:30:50 · answer #1 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't go so far to say that's it's normal for a 22 y/o guy to go soft while he's getting a BJ but it might be if the BJ is taking too long to make him come. I think most normal guys 22 y/o or even 42 y/o would stay hard until they came or at least for 5-10 minutes. If he goes soft before 5 min I'd say something is wrong. Hey, I'm no stud by a long shot but I've done 69's with my wife that lasted 20 min or longer and I stayed hard as a steel crow bar.
2016-04-11 02:38:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, don't blame yourself. It's not really your duty to make the other party orgasm lol. There can be many factors causing this problem. It could be psychological or something more simplistic. If he's having any majors stressors in life or is not feeling satisfied in life period, this can greatly affect one's sexual performance. It could also be the routine. If he's putting all the effort in satisfying you he might not enjoy the sex as much. Also, if he's uncomfortable and relaxed, that can have an impact. If someone's mind is on other things that are bothering them, or if they feeling self-conscious during sex, that will have an impact. Also, he might not want to admit it, but find out how often he's masturbating. If he's jacking off the night before he sees you or that same day, chances are he probably hasn't recovered yet to orgasm when he's with you. Hope this helps.
2007-12-26 19:35:16 · answer #3 · answered by bsinfinite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's performance anxiety? Since he was a virgin before hand, maybe he feels insecure about performance? He may just need to vent the anxiety and stress. Let him know that you're both learning how to be together as a couple in that physically intimate way. Can he have an orgasm when he masturbates? If he can, I'd guess that it's his mental state keeping him from having an orgasm from intercourse. If he can't, then he may want to check things out with a doctor.
2007-12-26 19:50:34 · answer #4 · answered by Serpentine Fire 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2015-11-23 05:03:03 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he feels stressed. I dated someone like that and he had this motto that "My grandfather taught me that a woman's pleasure comes first." I think that was a BS story. Some guys just take longer than others. If he is concerned, he should see a doctor.
2007-12-26 19:30:29 · answer #6 · answered by Helena 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to do your best to get him, which means you should always be his princess, take care of your body and consult him when you go to buy your cloths especially the under wares. If you are taking care of the previous then try to go for vocation to free your mind and his mind and think only on your time at that time.
Sometimes the men has a tepidity in sex appeals ,, you should help him ,,sometimes the man think you are not satisfied , try to make him feel that he is the only one he can please you especially in the sex ,,
Always the men likes the honey words especially when you have love ,,,, and when you have love try to make him feel that you are the only one who can please him.
And finally never ever be after him to get love with him ,,, always let him ask you especially if he is virgin as you said, he will think it’s easy and he can get it at any time he wants.
2007-12-26 19:45:17 · answer #7 · answered by shunnaq 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are creams that will make him more sensitive and perhaps get him to ***. Does this bother him or just you? If it does not bother him, I wouldn't worry about it. Don't pressure him to *** (don't make it an issue), you would be putting stress on him to perform.
2007-12-26 19:30:57 · answer #8 · answered by Lovely H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First it is not you. I have the same problem; not with you of course...LOL.
Tell him to masturbate into a condom. It will give him the same sensations as a vagina and will teach him to do so.
This is what Playboy recommended to me and what worked.
2007-12-26 19:32:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he may still be nervous. nerves can get the best of you and keep you from relaxing and actually enjoying yourself. Or he might have a problem... I'm going with nerves though.
2007-12-26 19:30:02 · answer #10 · answered by My cat drinks bong water 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can be anything, for instance the (psychological) pressure on him 'he has to come' . dont bother too much he will come once.
2007-12-26 19:31:55 · answer #11 · answered by gjmb1960 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋