I feel so hard to forgiving somebody I trust coz this person cheating on me, and I thought it's normal and it will heal by time.but after time run out I still upset and I lost my intention to communicate with this person no matter how. I still feeling hurt, and I try to start a brand new star but I still hard to believe in this relation. It's just like I lost my trust on somebody, and I always be suspect them. How can I change my feeling and how can I change the way I think ?Does anyone of you have the similar experience like mine? So how you deal with it ? (especially when there's a child between us)
2007-12-26 17:43:43 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
this is typical. it's understandable too. however, you should probably should be telling him these things and how you feel instead of others. talking through the problem in a civil way could get things moving at least, if he is willing to listen and doesn't take offense to the subject matter or see himself as innocent. after such an event, i could only imagine how you must feel, but i do know how it is when starting up again as if nothing happened, and i know that that is the most difficult part because both of you want that but that event is always in your mind, so my advice, to say it again, is to vent your feelings. about the situation, about how you feel about him and about what he did, make a distinction if there needs to be one (ex: that you don't like what he did and how it has weakened your trust, but you want to trust him and still care) make your feelings clear and ask him to do the same. if it's too difficult, leaving for awhile might be an option, not permanently if you don't want, but being away might give you time to heal yourself and see the situation from a point where it might not have as much sifnificance as it does now for you.
2007-12-26 17:59:03 · answer #1 · answered by Flabbergasted 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree completely with the above, but, would add he also needs to something extraordinarily special for you (that you specify) in order for you to feel special. Know no limits in what you're worth.
2007-12-27 02:06:58 · answer #2 · answered by Blue Hues 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the child is the one to pay for ur and his games..never down the father of a child in front of the child and try n have a good relationship for the child......................it may hurt n u dont have to b best friends but be cordial.....u cannot b forgiven if u cannot forgive
2007-12-27 01:57:31 · answer #3 · answered by Psychologist In The House 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you want AIDS?
????
Forgive this loser.
ForGET this loser.
I do not want to attend your funeral.
2007-12-28 13:22:43 · answer #4 · answered by NC_Pianist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
agreed
2007-12-27 01:47:48 · answer #5 · answered by Rana 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋