Last night, we had an argument on the phone over something ridiculously stupid. She hung up on me and refused to answer her phone when I called back. So I though f*ck it.
She's called me at least twice today and I did not answer the phone. I'm tired of being taken for granted and treated like crap. I feel bad about ignorning the calls. Should I keep avoiding her calls or have a conversation with her? After all she is my mother even though she usually doesn't wanna talk to me on the phone.....
2007-12-26 17:37:44 · 13 answers · asked by Fly girl 7 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Thanks to everyone for your great responses!
2007-12-26 17:51:12 · update #1
I suppose it's better to clear the air and have a talk with her. Let her know how it makes ya feel to be hung up on. Mom's sure know how to push the right buttons on us right? Like you said-she is your Mom and as much as they can irritate, they also love and care unconditionally. Better to just get your feelings out and maybe that's one thing she won't do to you again. Hope all goes smooth, good luck!
2007-12-26 17:44:22 · answer #1 · answered by debijs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering the coldness you have been experiencing from your mother lately, I completely understand your response to her hanging up on you this way. It was respectful of you to try and call her back, even though the argument would probably have continued if she had answered. It is understandable that you don't want to keep going through this with her over and over again, and ignoring her calls is one way of stopping the behavior towards you that is making you feel treated so badly. At some point you really need to talk with her though. Yes, you may be opening yourself up to more of the same ill treatment, but she is your mother and I'm sure she loves you very much. Maybe she is going through something that is very hard for her and she is taking her hard times out on you. That still doesn't make this acceptable behavior for her. Tell her how this is all effecting you and how you feel it is bad for your mother-daughter relationship, as well as tough on your level of morale. In as much as you can, let her know that you do love and respect her because she is your mother. She needs to know how you feel and knowing all of these things may change her attitude towards you. My mother never liked much that I did in life, although I know she did love me. We never really got along and now she is gone. I miss her dearly and wish I had put more of an effort into resolving our relationship problems now, but now is too late. It bothers me a great deal so I share this with you in hopes of helping you see somewhat into the future. Maybe this way I can feel better about my past, by helping you with your mother. Keep in mind that it may not work, but know that it is worth the effort. You will miss her when she is gone. Do something now while you still can, and if it doesn't work, at least you know you did what you could to make it better. Keep your chin up no matter what and be the best you can be to make yourself proud. If you realize your own self-worth, this is most important. Your happiness will come from within you.
2007-12-27 11:36:32 · answer #2 · answered by froggsfriend 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you about my mom :) She use to be very negative and put me down all the time, the only thing she ever cared about was my loser siblings. This summer she had surgery and even though it was not that major, I think that she saw that I was the only one that truly cared about her. I called her at least 3 times to make sure she is okay because she's my mother, however I no longer take any verbal abuse or crap from her because that's not okay.
2007-12-27 01:43:06 · answer #3 · answered by dreamyfairy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do it or else one day you're going to regret it. My father called me on his death bed when I was at school one day to tell me that he loved me and I hung up on him and told him not to call again. He passed away that night. I was only 14.
So you never know. If it was something stupid then forget about it and move on. She's not a friend, but your mother.
2007-12-27 01:42:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Better answer the phone and talk to her before you don't have the opportunity to ever call her, hear her voice, hug her, let her hold you, or smooth your hair out of your face or hold it back off your neck when you are sick and throwing up again !!! You only have one Mom !!!! Don't throw her away !!!! You can't replace her !!!!
2007-12-27 01:46:55 · answer #5 · answered by Diana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her. Just be honest about how you feel without being judgmental. Keep the conversation about your feelings instead of pointing out what she did wrong. Let her know you love her, and that's why you won't to work things out.
2007-12-27 01:41:44 · answer #6 · answered by trapeze 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it's over something stupid talk to her again. Don't let something stupid interfere with your relationship with your mother. There are bigger things to be mad at your mother at and atleast you have a mother that cares about you enough to try to talk to you.
2007-12-27 01:42:59 · answer #7 · answered by ♥c0c0puffz♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be an adult and have a conversation with her. Avoiding problems with others doesn't solve anything.
Hope this little tidbit helps.
2007-12-27 01:41:10 · answer #8 · answered by Lichelle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think ignoring people solves anything, just be honest and say how you feel. I know its annoying when people advise you to do that cos its easier said than done, but it really is the best thing to do..
2007-12-27 01:48:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just let her know what's on your mind and let her know you that you love her but you're not be taken for granted i hope this helps.
2007-12-28 23:33:17 · answer #10 · answered by Cool Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋