Is it a good idea to get married a year before you finish college? me and my boyfriend are planning this and by that time he would already had finished college and i would only need 1 more year.
2007-12-26 17:33:30 · 18 answers · asked by cowgirl09 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't see anything wrong with it. You should hold out on getting pregnant though, until you have all your affairs in order.
2007-12-26 17:36:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I always advise young couples to wait at least 1 year AFTER graduating to marry and I'll tell you why. It's never smart as a woman to go from being dependent on your family to being dependent on a husband. You need at least a 1 year period (preferably more) in which to invest in a career you like, find your own independence, learn how to live on your own, etc. Learning how to support yourself is a HUGELY important skill that every man and woman should have before getting married. Not only because of today's divorce rates, but also just because it's a skill everyone should know in case something were to ever happen to their spouse. You see it all the time. 1 spouse suddenly passes away and the other has NO CLUE how to pay bills, manage a budget, understand the impact of credit, understand investments, etc. You need to be able to take care of YOURSELF before you can wisely take care of another person or children. So, I would recommend you waiting until 1-2 years after graduation.
2007-12-27 02:19:30 · answer #2 · answered by bestadvicechick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never a good idea to get married if you're not financially comfortable. Marriage is about more than just being "in love". Make sure that you can start a life together, have your own place to live, you should be ready to have children if the occasion should arise. Marriage is overrated these days and has become a spectacle. If you decide to get married, so it for the marriage and not for the wedding. Make sure you're ready. I would tell you to wait until you're out of college and have a steady income. In case it doesn't work out (50% chance) be ready to go it alone, don't rely on parents to help you through, once you're married that's it...you've started your own family. Its a huge step and should be taken VERY seriously.
Don't do it unless you can be financially stable.
2007-12-27 01:39:28 · answer #3 · answered by theatre_rat_7583 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes! Get married as fast as you can! You're behind according to the timetable we all got. You do still have yours right?
How else will you know when the time is right?
You wouldn't actually think for yourself would you?
Key-risties....where did you get the idea the is a right or wrong time to get married, and what the hell are you doing asking a bunch of complete strangers for advice on a matter like this???
What's wrong with you?
And you're in college?
Before you get married, you should retire - right away.
Then you'll have all the time on the world to get married.
Oh, you should probably have children before you do anything else.
Right, so it's kids first, then retire, then get married.
Got it?
2007-12-27 02:08:46 · answer #4 · answered by willie pheeler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a bad idea to get married at all!!! If you are ever lucky enough to fall in love don't ruin it by getting married. The
second both of you say "I do" your loving relationship is over. Some people realize this in weeks and get divorced other lie to themselves for years. Marriage even destroys
soul mates. Take an honest look at all the married couples you know!?? Are any of them still truly "in love"!??! NO. What do they have in common? They all got married. I have
seen couples that are not married still head over heels in love after 15 years and going strong!!! If you are happy stay happy and don't change it. Good luck!!!
2007-12-27 09:26:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not a good idea. If you have waited this long, you can wait one more year. He should have a good job and both of you can prepare a home together. Then you get your job and then you can marry. Many women have gotten married before they got their degree and never finished. Education first, job, then marriage.
2007-12-27 01:38:05 · answer #6 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You finish college first and then get married. One thing at a time and you will always win.. Good luck !!
2007-12-27 01:47:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would finish school first.
This way he can get out of college and find a job and work it for at least a year and start saving more money for you both.
Just my opinion.....
2007-12-27 01:41:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i say wait till u finish that one more year of college will fly by so fast,then u can focus on your wedding and your soon to be husband who wants to do lots of homework with a new honey around ?
2007-12-27 01:40:28 · answer #9 · answered by cocoa 4 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it takes a year+ to plan a wedding big or small so even if you set a realistic date to get married you will be close to graduating or just graduated.
Its your decision do whats best for you and your boyfriend.
good luck
2007-12-27 01:40:43 · answer #10 · answered by tricia123 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this is completely up to you, just ask yourself and be completely honest. are you ready to get married? and if your not what the big rush, your going to be with this man forever right?
2007-12-27 01:37:48 · answer #11 · answered by fluffythefatfrog 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋