tonite i have showered, and wearing tight tshirt and pjs, but hubby doesn't get the hint or just isn't into me im tired of making the first move. what may be going on i guess he doesn't get turned on by me?
2007-12-26 17:27:30 · 15 answers · asked by coco1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honey, I have been married to mine for 8 1/2 years. He came home tonight after working from 11:00 last night till 11:00 this morning, slept for 3 hours and went back and worked from 3:00 this afternoon until 11:00 this evening. That's 20 out of the last 24 hours. I've been with him long enough to know that he'll want a little drink, sometime with our daughter (who I kept up past her bedtime to see her Daddy} and a meal. Then he's gonna want some time to just CHILL. Trust me , regardless of what I'm wearing or not wearing, he gonna "want some".
You said you're tired of making the first move. For a lot of guys this is such a turn on that they never stop to think about coming after you because you beat him to it!
Men, God bless 'em, tend to be a bit dense. Spell it out if you must. Sometimes they just don't get it.
2007-12-26 17:41:52 · answer #1 · answered by On My Own 316 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the signal isn't as strong as you think. Do you usually shower and put on a t-shirt and pjs? If that's the usual routine it might not be a big enough "hint" for him. Maybe he likes you making the first move. Mine does and that's okay by me. If I want him to make the first move I put on a thong and a tank top and it gets him every time. Men are really not mind readers and they sometimes don't understand that we want to be chased a little. Make the first move tonight and after, when he's his most open, gently explain this to him and ask him what would turn him on. Listen to what he says and you'll know what to do next time! Good luck :)
2007-12-27 02:11:46 · answer #2 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He gets the hint his mind seems to just be elsewhere, pump the hints up a little more maybe ask him how do u look, or bend over in front of him if those things dont work he could be tired or doing things elsewhere just ask him if he is tired communication will definitely help.
2007-12-27 01:44:50 · answer #3 · answered by cocoa 4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old he is but I'm 48 years old and me being a man at this age I find myself wanting a woman however it isn't like when I was 18 to 30 I'm not at my sexual peak but older women are, That's one of the many reason you'll see older women with younger men. You must be quite a woman.
Good for you Ask him how he feels about having sex with you let him know that you like it when he touches you! I'm sure that this could work out and he will be able to tell you what's going on I don't think he's cheating or anything. So don't be concerned about that.
2007-12-27 01:36:03 · answer #4 · answered by Tony Burke 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Could he be tired?
I make sure I switch it up a bit and the teasing starts from the moment he walks in the door.
He loves to be pampered and he becomes the king for at least a 1/2 hour :)
Then I make sure I change in front of him.
If he is tired though I let him sleep/relax and snuggle him on the couch.
Also when I feel less attractive I go get my hair done.Self confidence is very sexy.
2007-12-27 01:33:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how old the both of you are but I do know age has alot to do with it. Me and my husband backed off each other alot. Maybe because we are now in our "settled down" zone and no longer in the "exciting" zone. Best thing to do is ask him why he stopped making the first move, and tell him how u feel about the whole attraction thing.
2007-12-27 01:35:39 · answer #6 · answered by ~SweeT~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should stop making the first move, back off and let him come to you. When he will see that you have given him some space and you are not desperately seeking his attention , you will make him wonder. Sometimes we may think that its our fault but believe it or not maybe its his work that gets him tired. Let it go and it will come to u . G-Luck
2007-12-27 01:47:52 · answer #7 · answered by smartgrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe he isn't into sex anymore, because you wore a tight t-shirt and pjs in front of me they would ne off in a second. But maybe to make him relaize what your trying to do just go to teh store and buy your a nice sexy nightie and put it on and come out with it and see what happens. And if nothign happens probably you need to have a talk with him. but want to chat more about this just IM me anytime
2007-12-27 01:46:20 · answer #8 · answered by John S 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
stop throwing hints and threw some actions his way. maybe he would like for you to take it sometimes and make him get into it. but when you give the hints and he doesnt respond the way you want than you shut down and your mind start to wander and than you come up with this. and you know what assume means. its called COMMUNICATION. talk to that man see where his head is, where he feelings are. he maybe just tired, or cheating. but you getting mad it not going to get the results you are looking for. GodBless
2007-12-27 01:37:32 · answer #9 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to marriage hell and reality. The second both of you say "I do" your loving relationship is over. Some people realize this in weeks and get divorced other lie to themselves for years. You just realized it!!! Marriage even destroys
soul mates. Take an honest look at all the married couples you know!?? Are any of them still truly "in love"!??! NO. What do they have in common? They all got married. I have
seen couples that are not married still head over heels in love after 15 years and going strong!!! If you are happy stay happy and don't change it. Good luck!!!
2007-12-27 09:27:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋