When families are all miserable?
2007-12-26 17:18:26 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Marriage is an antiquated tradition that, for most people, is symbolic of love and romance. In reality though, it is a legal contract and should be taken very seriously. If one party doesn't live up to the contract, then it should be made null and void.
I agree that not all families are miserable, but no one should worry about honoring the marriage vows if they're being beaten on a daily basis. If that's happening its not the victim who is breaking the marriage vow, its the abuser. If a couple is not happy, staying together for the kids is not usually the best option. Kids want to see their parents happy, and if thats alone or with someone other than their other parent, they'll understand. Kids are pretty strong and smart.
2007-12-26 17:53:03 · answer #1 · answered by theatre_rat_7583 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think all families are miserable - I think you take things and interpret them based on where you're coming from (not you personally - I mean everyone). If you think - OMG this is awful and there's nothing worse then it's going to be that way. But if you think - well, this isn't great, but could be worse - how does it really impact me and how do we move on - then it puts it in perspective. Have to find the goodness in life and people and that makes things alot better. Marriage to me is a commitment - someone who is there thick or thin and you're there for them. I waited to get married and I'm glad I did - I wasn't too young or idealistic and now I'm happy. Don't think all families are miserable - in the real world there are ups and downs but if someone is there to share it takes the weight off when things are down and doubles the happiness when things are up!
2007-12-27 01:38:44 · answer #2 · answered by iam 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Families are not all miserable, so lets get that straight first!!! People want to get married (WHY I DON'T KNOW) because they don't want to grow old alone!!!
2007-12-27 02:10:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because I'm an old-school kinda gal.
I believe in the foundation of marriage, and believe that it's not for the faint of heart. I believe families can be kind and connected, with the proper parenting. I believe we are all good people inside, and our worst enemy is often ourselves.
I also believe that the people who have recently had their heart broken have the worst outlook on love.
Good luck
2007-12-27 02:36:24 · answer #4 · answered by kiki 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because people are stupid!!! If you take an honest look at all the married couples you know they have one thing in common none of them are "in love" anymore. That ended when you said "I do". The reason they stay married is because they are scared and lie to themselves. Watch all the lies you get about how happily married they all are but you never meet these people in real life LOL
2007-12-27 09:31:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I want to. A person who is married has certain rights that an unmarried couple does not have. I would feel more important in the relationship with my BF if we were to marry. He could have medical rights in my care. I am sick of being at my age and not being married. The man I am with is the one I want to be with forever.
My aunt had a BF of 20 years and when she got sick he just up and abandoned her. I think that had they been married this would not have happened. They would have had the protection of marriage to plan for her increased care and her significant other would have to pay for her care.
2007-12-27 01:33:17 · answer #6 · answered by adobeprincess 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
we aren't miserable at all and I think every family has it's malfunctions but that should bring everyone closer.
I love being married and having a family but I don't judge people who don't have any interest in marriage or having a family. I am sure they have their reasons too.
2007-12-27 01:26:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
Don't blame everybody for your mistakes. Marriage and family are the reason we are here.
2007-12-27 01:49:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Insecurity.
Conformity.
2007-12-27 01:26:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes people think that marriage is going to solve whatever misery they are going through when in fact it is going to make it worse.
2007-12-27 01:24:32 · answer #10 · answered by ~SweeT~ 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋