i had a screening test that gave me a 1in4 chance of downs.
and now a cvs chromozone test come back positive for downs....
i have been told it was a strong result so the downs will be bad, is it wrong of me to want to terminate, i know some will say yes it's a human but we are looking at a bad case.
2007-12-26 17:18:06 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
This is a decision that is yours and yours alone. Some people like to say that having a Down Syndrome child is a great blessing but you also need to think about the other aspects of having one such as lack of family acceptance. I have a relative who has a boy with Down Syndrome. This child has relatives who regularly allow his older sister to come visit them but never want him to come over. A lot of people are afraid of children with this problem and don't know how to handle them. Then you have to try to figure out who will take this person in after you're gone. They are not really capable of living independently and a lot of the time, other family members don't want them and then try to pretend they don't exist. Those are things you need to think about when making your final decision. Good luck to you.
2007-12-26 17:42:09 · answer #1 · answered by RoVale 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, it's not wrong. If it was me I would only because of what I have seen. I have a sister in law with downs. She lives in a group home and is now 25. Her mom died last year. She picked her up Evey weekend. Prior until she was 18 yrs old took care of her 24/7. Never vacationed, or went out as no one would help watch the child, she could not afford care as no regular babysitter would do it. Not 1 family member lifted a hand to help. They also did not want her around their children. It's not an easy life. The father looks at her with discussed, It's a freak-en shame. Only you know if you can handle it or not. It's like having a 2 yr old that never grows up. Good luck to you and what ever you decide do not worry what others will think as it's easy to judge when some one else when your not in the situation.
2007-12-27 02:26:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, they always prepare you for the worst. So most of the times its not as bad as they say. My cousin just had a baby. And with her screening test they told her the baby will never beable to walk, sit or do anything for herself. Well she has a healthy beautiful baby girl. She isnt as strong as she should be, but that is being corrected with therapy.
I have twin brothers who are handicapped. The doctors told my parents they will be vegtables.Well 23 years later, they are living normal lives, with only ADHD.My Mother always said it takes a wonderful special person to raise a child with any kind of handicap.
Really put thought into it, like I said they always give the worst case senerio. Since I was little, I have helped care for and worked with handicapped children. From downs, to ADHD, to cerebal palsy, etc. And they are very special and have a heart of gold. Every single one I cared for or worked with were the nicest, loving, and caring children Ive ever known.They will do whatever it takes to make you happy. You will love that child no matter what. And that child will love you unconditionally no matter what. They may be alittle slower in a few areas, but excel in others. You have to also remember, those tests arent always accurate. But Good Luck and Best Wishes.
2007-12-26 17:42:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
That baby is still a person. It's not fair to kill the baby for having a genetic defect. Everyone deserves a chance to live.
I'm really sorry, though. I know it's not what you hoped for. We all pray for perfect kids, but no one is perfect. My mom's best friend has a Down's son. She is the most wonderful mother and he is so sweet.
There are great schools and programs out there now to assist mentally retarded people with the tasks of daily life, even helping some to hold down jobs and live on their own. This isn't the end of the world. I'd prefer Down's to giving birth to a fatally ill child, or having my child get cancer at like 3. At least your child is alive and has a good chance of a long and fulfilling life.
Please, just think of that sweet baby of yours. I know you'll love him once you hold him in your arms.
2007-12-26 17:32:21 · answer #4 · answered by Irritated Lactivist 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Only YOU know what would be best for you. Personally, I have no idea what I would do in that situation. I try not to think about things that serious until I'm faced with them. If you feel it would be too hard for you to deal with a special needs child, and you are OK with terminating the pregnancy, then by all means do it. But think about how you will feel in the future as well. I wish you the best of luck, and I hope you make the decision that is best for you and your family.
2007-12-26 17:52:26 · answer #5 · answered by Gage's Mommy :-) 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Honey, nobodies opinion from Yahoo Answers is going to really matter when it comes right down to it. What's going to matter is how your partner, family and close friends are going to think/feel. Yeah, it's not family and friends decision, but that doesn't mean you're not going to have to deal with it anyway. You need to ask yourself: can I live with myself if I terminate? Am I able mentally, emotionally and physically to care for this child if I keep it? Would I hate myself? Would I hate the baby? Ultimately, you're going to have to make the decision that's best for you.
2007-12-26 17:23:17 · answer #6 · answered by Snarky 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
well, that is a tough decision... I believe you should do what you heart tells you... Having a down syndrome child will keep you busy all your life... as they also have other health problems.... But only you should determine what you should do... I think terminating a baby would be such cases like deformities.. But sometimes down syndrome children can be great and do different tasks in their lives... Wish you luck and stay strong, as I believe your child will be healthy and will not have downs..
2007-12-26 17:28:15 · answer #7 · answered by cLaU 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Down Syndrome kids are the sweetest kids you will ever meet. It is up to you about you may want to do.
My best wishes to you
2007-12-26 20:09:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what you think is going to be best for you.
Don't let anyone else (specially here) make you feel bad about wanting to terminate the pregnancy b/c there's a high chance of the baby having downs.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting a healthy baby.
Talk with your partner about it, make sure to really think about wht you want, and well.. in the end, do what you think is best.
GL with whatever you decide to do.
2007-12-26 17:37:38 · answer #9 · answered by shollia 5 · 1⤊ 4⤋
That is a decision you will have to make on your own. I know I would have my baby no matter what. Those tests are not always accurate but sometimes they are.
I wish you the best in making the decision. I know it must be tough!
2007-12-26 17:23:07 · answer #10 · answered by busemomme 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋