My husband is sarcastic about everything, I get very angry, I almost can't take it. If he doensn't like something he will refuse to participate no matter the consequences. I pierced our daughters ears, he didn't like the aftercare so he now will not clean her ears, which is bad because I was gone to work from the afternoon until she was in bed- so they didn't get cleaned but once, should have been 3 times. I bought some disney princess ceiling fans for the kids x-mas- he doesn't want to put them up so its been nonstop grief!! I bought each child about 6 things- 1 big 5 little- we have 4 kids so that looks like a tremendous amount of stuff when put together under a tree, even though it isn't. He ruined my x-mas w/his comments about me running the family under financially, and about me brining back the fans to be able to buy groceries, by the way we have plenty of groceries that were not bought with credit! Constant comments about my mothering too- I can't deal. what will make him stop!
2007-12-26 16:42:29 · 14 answers · asked by Ferrari 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
punxsutawney phil - I dont' get it??
2007-12-26 16:59:15 · update #1
He refused to go shopping - tried to get him to as he always complains about the gifts I give. I am not "Running the show" on my own accord, if I don't do it, nothing but feeding the kids would ever get done.
2007-12-26 17:29:55 · update #2
its quite obvious whats happening. he is unhappy. and he probably doesnt love u anymore. seriously. a man who loves his wife will not treat his wife OR kids like that. actually, now that i mentioned the kids too, i think he doesnt like his life. he is VERY unhappy about something and he is taking it out on the first thing at hand--you guys.
talk to him about it. he is ruining ur family.
2007-12-26 16:51:04 · answer #1 · answered by switbaby9 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a negative person. And - it seems that he takes you for granted .. and is very judgemental.
Only "he" .. can make it stop. However - he could be given an insentive to make himself stop. And the insentive would be tuff to acheive.
I knew someone in a marriage like that. The negativety, and the saracasm almost destroyed the wife .. and just about washed away her self-esteem. She had to get real serious with her husband to get him to stop.
You need to have a serious talk with him. Problem is .. I have to wonder if he would really talk & listen to you. Sometimes, a husband like this will not listen until the woman has packed her bags & walking out the door to leave.
Anyway -- simple ask him WHY he is so saracstic .. and WHY he treats you so badly. He owes you an explanation.
If he won't communicate with you .. then he is taking away more from you .. kinda like you don't have any rights.
Try many things to get it solved. By doing this - you will eventually know you really tried.
Ask him.
2007-12-26 17:28:01 · answer #2 · answered by Tara 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweetie he doesnt this because he knows that it upsets you to no end. STOP allowing him to have that much control over YOUR life. if he doesnt want to put the fans than find somebody your brother, cousin, a neighbor. pay them a small amount and keep on getting up. dont allow him to stop the show. continue to do what you do and take care of the kids. and ignoring him as much as possible, but at some point you will have to face his mouth head on and deal with it. meaning you will have to even learn how to ignore him, seek professional or LEAVE HIS BUTT right there by himself. you dont deserve to be constantly disrespected and think about what his mouth and attitude is showing the kids. and how the boys will treat their wives and the girls will accept this behavior from their husbands. so be prepared to get the complaints you have about dad from the future daughter in laws, your daughters talking about their husbands. the change starts with you. GodBless
2007-12-26 18:01:25 · answer #3 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say this, but he's not a sarcastic husband, he's an a**hole husband. Parents should NEVER undermine each other's decisions in front of the kids. If you want a disrespectful a**hole kid, that's the best way to get one. They think because they see daddy doing it, they can to. Time to nip it in the bud. Tell him he may not like your decisions, but you expect support and support is often a matter of simply shutting your mouth and allowing each other to make mistakes or whatever.
It's not the end of the world that his children has a princess fan. If he loved them he'd put the damn fans up and shut his face. In a few years he'll be painting over black walls and tearing down god-awful posters of rock bands with horrible names like Pinched Labia. He should enjoy the innocence of his children's decorating wishes now.
2007-12-26 16:58:45 · answer #4 · answered by N S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here's an idea,,if he is so concerned about you "running the family under financially" you go get yourself a nice fulfilling job outside of the house,and make him do everything that you do...maybe if he has to do all the shopping,and taking care of the kids he will grow up and learn to appreciate his wife a little more...good luck with this one...
2007-12-26 17:54:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry your dealing with a sarcastic asshole. I know that type. Was married to one before. With my experience, they don't change, they just get worse and worse. Its not fair to you that he;s acting like a prick, andin the long run will do serious mental damage to you. What I did, was fight fire with fire. If he want to be sarcastic, give him a dose of his own medicine. Be sarcastic to him, and then act like nothing happened. Keep doing it and when he complains, ask him how it feels!
2007-12-26 16:48:31 · answer #6 · answered by ★♥AJ♥★™ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps him coming home to an empty house on day with a divorce summons on the table will straighten his a ss out.
2007-12-26 16:51:17 · answer #7 · answered by MHnurseC 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are controlling. You know he didn't want your daughters ears pierced, but you went ahead and did that anyway. Did you buy the gifts by yourself? It sounds like you don't include him in the parenting and he resents you for it.
2007-12-26 16:48:49 · answer #8 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did it ever occur to you to consult your husband about these things you want him to do instead of just expecting him to do them? Why don't the two of you purchase gifts for the kids together instead of seperatly. Sounds like you are trying to run the show.
2007-12-26 17:13:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have one like that. It is part of his personality. I am sure there are things they don't like about their wives. Maybe they should learn to be nice or you will leave.
2016-08-28 21:02:19 · answer #10 · answered by Kathy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋