Throughout my life I have been typically a very quiet, socially awkward and "Never knowing what to say" sort of person. I'm crazy around my friends, but with people I don't know I just don't know what to say, like there's awkward silences.
I'm also don't like to do new things, like my friends wanted me to try DDR (the kind they have at the mall or arcade) and I don't, just totally refuse. Lol.
It's not like I'm a happy shy person- I know tons of people who are happy and are just shy, but thats okay with them. I am shy and I'm not happy. How do I start coming out of my shell and trying more things? I'm also afraid to get a job where there's too many people- which really limits job opportunities for me. I feel as though my life is very limited because of my fears. Also, I'm 16. Any advice?
2007-12-26 16:33:22 · 4 answers · asked by Apple S 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Im sure you've heard this a lot but QUIT CARING ABOUT WHAT OTHERS THINK. Truly they dont give a damn and most of them you probably wont ever see again. And if you do then so what. By livin your life unhappy your not really livin life. do the things that make you happy, dont second guess yourself ever! If something sounds like fun then do it right then dont give yourself time to think about it. because if you do you'll prolly talk yourself out of doin it because it involes being social. treat most people like they're your best friend and like you've known them forever. you always have time to re-create yourself especially at 16 do you really want to be 40, shy, and regrettin a lot of your life? infact dont believe in regrets because at one time it was what you wanted
2007-12-26 16:46:52 · answer #1 · answered by Superad! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went through something similar- but believe me: it's best to just throw yourself our of your comfort zone... it's so easy to tell yourself that you are fine where you are (naturallly it's where you feel safe) but in the real world 10 years down the road, you probably won't still be hanging with these friends... keep your friends but try somewhere without them, like a camp or a new sport... interactive groups like these will guarantee you to meet others... after a certain point, you will get sick of being introverted and start interacting with others (it's also good to initiate conversation or introduce yourself to someone else- this will normally make them partial to you and give you another sense of security ina room full of strangers)
2007-12-27 00:46:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi i think u must boost your confidence with practice u must make eye contact with your audience smile a bit and ask open ended questions and don't scare because there is nothing to woory about be proud in urself and think all the time that u will achive every thing u want and every body love u
2007-12-27 00:44:31 · answer #3 · answered by *tornado* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Advice or no advice,the day you decide to go ahead,you shall be able to do it.You have what it takes to do it.So,take a deep breath and GO AHEAD.All the best.
2007-12-27 01:04:48 · answer #4 · answered by brkshandilya 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋