only friends who are close, and he has pet nicknames like sexy this and pusy that, for them. it's between him and them, a few messages i read, look like they are being friends and keeping in touch. they know he is married. what would you make of this...
Thanks, God bless
2007-12-26 16:26:09 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes, it's harmful, or you would not be asking this... obviously it's bothering you, and if he does not stop, he does not care about you... he should only be calling you sexy and calling you these pet names, and that's the truth... don't settle for his excuses or reasons... he is hiding on the internet and he is a coward for running from you...
he does not need friends like this on the internet... marraige is sacred, and he's not forsaking all others by flirting with these women (calling them pet names), and that's the truth... if a stop is not put to it now, it will get worse, I guarantee it... these women are too close for comfort...
and if he gets mad, too bad, your feelings are more important than these other women...! he will only get mad because he can't have his way, not because he thinks it's ok to really keep in contact with these women...
2007-12-26 23:14:00 · answer #1 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi hunny not making a pass at you either I wish you knew this before you got married. since the internet this is causing more family problems, I'm 48 years old and i know some history on these matters it began with more channels on t.v and t.v dinners never in human history has people had more to take them away from the dinner table than ever before.
We no longer have a real dinner time to just talk, ask eachother how was you day dear. We as men don't have the say so that we did and to set rules live no t.v. at dinner time! x-box 360 play station, just more to take away real family time, husband and wife time. I'm divorced and have abit more time than you do, If he's doing this, Just after two months of marriage it was going on way before you where married to him
Now you can see why I'm single!
You have a problem that's a fact, You can talk to him and he will think your over reacting nothing that you have to say about it will hold any merrit what so ever.
People will say the default answer go on dates with your husband and have so much advice you will scream!
The fact is we all have lost the ability to really be family oriented. It seems that we have been taken away from what really matters. So you are up against alot. This isn't going to be easy. The question here is Love enough? yes it is as long as both agree without that it won't work.
Is what's bothering me is the women and the nick names the nick names are what the other person picks for their internet name. If he's changing that to something else then that a different problem...
The more you try to take him away from it the more he will want it. This is computer addiction! and chatting is an addiction If he's using a web cam and your not at home gee I wonder what's happening on web cam? I know what to look for on a computer and where to find it in folders You don't .
This is a problem talk to him for 2 minutes if he has excuses then say oh ok cool then that means you're going to have to live with it.
2007-12-27 01:03:52 · answer #2 · answered by Tony Burke 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What I make of it is that you obviously haven't learned the facts of life but you will:
1. There is no Santa
2. There might be a Bigfoot
3. All men cheat, almost all women cheat
4. Marriage ruins all relationships (moving in is the same)
5. Everyone lies (you even lie to yourself)
6. Life is not fair
Good luck and Happy Holidays. Email me
if you want to hear the truth. I don't lie.
2007-12-27 10:14:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have been married 2 months and he is flirting with other women? I would be concerned, unless these are women that both of you were friends with before the marriage.
2007-12-27 00:38:20 · answer #4 · answered by hamrrfan 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeeah! It's harmful to your marriage. That is wrong and outrageous and out of line and and all of the above for a married man to do that. Tell him to stop or he's history!
2007-12-27 00:37:21 · answer #5 · answered by Rose girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't like it one bit and I think he would be feeling the same way if some of your guy friends were addressing you in a similar fashion. He is married now, and that means that you forsake all others.
2007-12-27 00:31:49 · answer #6 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
he is probably having cyber sex with them, so therefore he is cheating on you. It's totally inappropriate for him to have an online relationship with another woman. Have you asked him how he would feel if you had a few guys you chat to regularly and have nicknames like spunky or stud muffin or something?
You will need to discuss it with him.
2007-12-27 00:31:30 · answer #7 · answered by Ben J 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My man doesn't have any girl friends that he talks to outside us having friends that are couples. Hes a gentleman. Your hub is probably gonna cheat in time if he keeps talking to them.
2007-12-27 00:31:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I never worried about it, that was about seven years ago. We filed for divorce this year after 10 years of marriage.
Trust me, pull the plug on his PC quick!
2007-12-27 01:03:23 · answer #9 · answered by Martie Ann H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have a secure marriage, I see nothing wrong with it, but on the long run you will find out, won't ya!
2007-12-27 00:31:56 · answer #10 · answered by live4_2day 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋