everynight before bed my daughter removes her clothes and tosses them on the floor. I have to hunt all her clothes down everytime I do laundry. if I didn't pick them up she would be out of clothes in a few weeks. I done everything from grounding her to making her wear the dirty clothes. still no change, any more suggestions....
2007-12-26 16:22:09 · 65 answers · asked by tamara 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I saw an answer of throwing them away and making her go naked. what are your thoughts on that
2007-12-26 16:52:49 · update #1
give her a basket and have her throw the clothes in there and if she does this all week than she gets a reward
EDIT- if she threw them away and went naked than thats a waste of YOUR money because u used ur money to buy her clothes
2007-12-26 16:34:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Make her do the laundry. Not just hers everyone's.
or stay with the dirty clothes. Eventually she'll get it if every outfit is dirty on the floor.
Some people might be offended by this one, and might be a little angry about the cost. But every night that she leaves clothing on the floor. Tiptoe into the room and put an ugly shade of green paint on them. She'll figure it out eventually and will either put the clothes in the right place or she'll wear some ugly colors.
My other suggestion is to wake her up every night in the middle of the night to get her to put away her clothes. And keep her awake until she does. It's only sleep deprivation if they have less than five hours so you are all right with a few midnight wakeups.
Lastly. Ground her. permanently. And stick to it. Every time she wants some new thing or something special you and anyone else in control of this deny her. Only buy her new socks and undies. Everytime you say no tell her calmly that she doesn't get what she wants until she does what she is supposed to do.
2007-12-26 16:31:48 · answer #2 · answered by qris 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Does she have a mother, or a nanny? Usually, girls are more obediant towards women.
To me, youre child seems to be a little spoilt. You need mroe discipline, and grounding definitely has no effect on many children. If she wants to go out shopping, school, etc. let her go out on dirty clothes. From all the embaressment, she'll try thinking. NEVER PICK UP HER CLOTHES. This is the reason why she usually doesn't listen. You've got to take some action and discipline her. Not too harsh and don't set too miuch rules. Yet again, dont use the "If you do this, I'll give you this" method. Ever.
Try giving her a laundry basket to plop her clothes in, or make her do the laundry herself. When she does the laundry, then she'll hate hunting down her clothes, and do something about it.
So, remember discipline.
Dont:
*under-discipline
*over-discipline
2007-12-26 16:30:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you gave into the stinky clothes thing a little pre-mature. After a while the racing stripes in the underwear would become a little much to take, and the clothes would begin to grow an odor, and no one wants to wear those things. No way would I ever let her wander around naked. I won't let my five year old son walk around naked, thats just weird to me. But anyway, I would let them accumulate. Eventually she won't want any friends to go in her room because of the mess, and she will have to do something otherwise, she will be forced to be naked or stink. I think she'll then realize that its necessary to put them where they need to be, in a hamper or clothes basket. One thing that might work is, put a laundry basket in her room. Tell her, this is the day I do laundry, I will be by to pick up the laundry basket, if its not in here, its not getting washed. And if you walk by her room and its empty keep on going. After a while she'll get the hint that maybe when she's down to one pair of underwear that it might be time... hope it helps...
2007-12-26 19:16:06 · answer #4 · answered by Living In Fast Forward 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a similar problem with my 13 year old daughter and it started when she was walking (I feel your pain) I will go through some things we have tried. 1. we collected all her toys and moved her wardrobe into our room. The toys/books etc were bagged up and put in the shed. When she kept her room tidy for a week she was allowed to pick one toy to put back. In 12 months she got to choose 1 toy. So, they went to the op shop. 2. grounding, banning, etc....just didn't work. 3. extra jobs & no pocket money (didn't work) 4. signing contracts (didn't work) 5. presently being threatened with being moved into the backyard and living in a tent. The tent is going to have a big sign put on it "Alena's pigsty" and that is where she will live. Yes, it is harsh, but they really have to learn.....I keep thinking of when she leaves home, I am not going to want to visit her because I will be visiting a dirty yukky mess. I am not even that picky when it comes to keeping things tidy, I just want stuff picked up off the floor, drawers pushed in, nothing under the bed, you know...normal stuff. My only suggestion with your daughter is to get her to do the washing of her own clothes....make it a job, see if that works :) Good luck and let me know if you find something that works!
2007-12-26 23:21:56 · answer #5 · answered by kimbathewhitelion02 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but no 11 year old needs an iphone so you have the right idea leaving that one off the list. Hmmmm clothing vouchers maybe? so she can pick her own clothes if that's what shes into. Hmmm....11 is a difficult age. A season of her fave program. A camera if she doesn't have one. Perfume. Movie vouchers, fast food vouchers etc. I'm sure you'll find something!
2016-05-26 22:14:04 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's eleven and at the age to learn some responsibility, honestly... the people telling you 'she's just a little girl', in a few years, that 'little' girl isn't going to be so little anymore and when she's wondering WHY people treat her like she's STILL eleven well...
Anyways... my mom always told me my butt was padded for a reason and it wasn't to sit on.
Grounding doesn't work and she doesn't mind wearing the dirty clothes? Take away her favorite thing, a toy, an activity, whatever, remind her it's a privilege and she needs to earn it.
Or you can take a page out of my friend's book. She bought chalkboards for her sons and ran cord through them to hang from the boy's necks. When the boys do something bad, like lie; steal; refuse to clean, she writes down: I Lie, I Steal, I'm a Sloth, etc; and makes them wear it. Embarassing, yes. Traumatic? Well... depends on the kid and if you force them into wearing it outside the house.
2007-12-26 17:02:08 · answer #7 · answered by Snarky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, be a parent and make her wash and fold laundry for a month. If she does not keep up with the clothes, remove something she likes to do.
To punish my 11 year old daughter, she is not allowed to go any where with any one for a week. This motivates her to do the things she is supposed to do. That includes Backtalk, cleaning her room and her other chores.
I also take away her TV on her second offence.
2007-12-26 16:31:55 · answer #8 · answered by Bones 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would make her sit in her room day after day and do nothing. I would make her change before bed to what she is going to sleep in and take care of the clothes that she has had on. Do not let up until she does as she is told. Being grounded should mean she gets to do nothing. That means no TV, computer, the telephone, no going anywhere, nobody coming over, NOTHING. She will get the idea soon.
2007-12-26 16:28:04 · answer #9 · answered by kim h 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Don't do her laundry unless she puts her dirty clothes in a laundry basket. When she runs out of clothes she'll get the idea. But, if she tries to be stubborn and wears dirty clothes...let her, she's the one who will be embarrassed.
2007-12-26 17:13:39 · answer #10 · answered by murigenii 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋