i feel so lonely. i lost my girl to another guy. he's at her apartment $$%% her. and i am so lonely. i just don't know where to meet attractive women. most women find me an 8 or 9 on looks, but i'm kinda shy in groups. i do better in small groups or one-on-one. my profession i don't meet anybody. i'm just so lonely. i've really reached the end of everything. please HELP!!
2007-12-26 15:53:57 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i guess i'm just wondering where to meet a woman i could be attracted to on the inside and out. the last three years have been so lonely. i finally meet the girl and then i lose her to another guy. i'm just at the end of it. i can't take being lonely. you know i hate the bar thing. i just wish i knew where to meet a woman i could fall in love with, or share some great evenings.
2007-12-26 16:03:38 · update #1
Sorry about that, but I don't think you are going to find what you want here. Get out and socialize.
2007-12-26 16:02:54 · answer #1 · answered by Torrey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've had a loss .. so give yourself time to get over it.
Think it out .. then don't allow yourself to dwell on it .. that is the worst thing you can do about something you cannot change.
Remember this ... "Attitude is Everything". And you are already beat if you allow yourself to think that you can't help yourself .. because you CAN help you. You just have to try .. and never give up. Just about every single person in this world has experienced what you are going through with your girl .. so don't feel alone .. it happens to just about everyone.
Come to the point where you STOP yourself from thinking on her. Then .. have confidence in yourself. You say you are an 8 or a 9 .. so you have a LOT going for you .. that is a great assett.
Extend your boundaries .. and go out in crowds some .. go where there are lots of people .. and excitement is in the air - because the excitement can be contagious.
Next .. you may be lonely .. but learn to like to be with yourself - and don't be co-dependant on a mate. I love to be alone .. and I have so many interesting things which I do and keeps me involved. So .. find interests. In my town - many of the guys are addicted to hunting, fishing, sports, etc. Discover new things .. find new interests .. and first learn to be alone .. then you will never be lonely.
Give yourself TIME to get over the hurt. TIME .. is the healer for most things. Don't wallow in the hurt.
This is true .. know that you can "do" whatever you want to do. Lots of things may seem impossible .. and they might be improvable .. but not impossible.
Make a plan for yourself which will give you hope. You may have to make yourself do this. Get over her. Be determined. Give yourself time. Look for new things, places, people, hobbies .. and go forward with it all. Don't let yourself fall back into anything negative. Develop a positive attitude about it all.
You can achieve whatever you want to. You just have to try.
2007-12-27 00:17:45 · answer #2 · answered by Tara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing to remember is that you are a wonderful guy just as you are and there is no need to put yourself in uncomfortable situations / environments to find a girlfriend. Some people are just naturally introverted and there is nothing wrong with that. Don't go looking for a girlfriend. No woman wants to be with a man who had to hunt for a girlfriend! Just work on building a good self-image. Women are drawn to confident men. And being confident doesn't mean being some macho motormouth. A quiet confidence can be ever so charming.
2007-12-27 04:10:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand very well what you are going through as i too have been in similar situation. all i can say is that if u truly wish to not feel so lonely.... and put in your efforts for it........ though not immediately, but with time.... definitely you will be better.
in the mean time to ensure that you move on the path of over coming the loneliness ...... try what you feel like from my suggestions -
1. DONT BE ALONE. this is very important as if you continue being with yourself, this loneliness will get into you and you will eventually get into a shell and then it will be difficult to get out of that shell and will take more time.
2. do not do things or go to places that you can do or go alone.
3. keep yourself busy
4. try and take a vacation. that will refresh your mind and you will feel better.
5. take up a hobby.
6. do things that make you happy
7. join the gym
8. spend all your free time wiht friends and family. that way you will not feel lonely.
9. tire yourself to the max so that you fall asleep as soon as you are in bed.
10. try and do things and meet people who make you happy and with whom you are comfortable. since you are uncomfortable within, its better that atleast you are with the people who make you comfortable atleast on the outside. Else there will be a lot of discomfort around and inside you.
12. cry if feel like but do it once and for all. cry to your hearts content and get it all out of you. this wil llighten up your heart and will make you feel better. One should never let your emotions all bottled up within as it will make you acidic and keep troubling you a lot.
Hope some of the things that i have mentioned here helps you.
take care ... all the best .
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year !!!
2007-12-27 00:09:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
John, you have to first calm down.
Next, quit thinking about your ex and whoever
she's with. Just quiet all activity and thoughts of
her and relax.
John, it's over with you and her. If she #$%@#$%
some dude, then forget her. Just move on. It's
her LOSS.
Take 2 weeks and get into de-stress and release
mode...work out, run, lift weights - Do anything to
release your negative energy. Spend time with
friends and family...people who love you and like
your company. Go to movies, parties - just do
anything to get your mind off hurting.
After the 2 weeks, get into attack mode...go out
with friends, check out, flirt and pick up women.
Give yourself a goal of meeting and getting the
phone numbers of at least 3 women a day. You
can meet women anywhere:
* at a bus stop or transit station
* at a laundromat
* at church / religious service
* at a bank or grocery store
ANYWHERE!
Do the math...3 girls a day x 7 days = 21 girls in a
week.
You'll have at least 21 phone numbers of girls to
choose from to call and meet up with.
If you are shy, do it with a friend.
The point is to quit your pity party, get out there,
get active and go after the hot, beautiful women
you deserve.
Email me if I can help you in other ways.
Take care.
2007-12-27 00:41:15 · answer #5 · answered by joseph t 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need something great to come into your life. Set another goal, get a hobby that takes effort, meet someone great(which would mean getting out of your comfort zone). Know that eventually you will get out of this hole. Think of the future.
2007-12-27 00:29:52 · answer #6 · answered by Me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tDescend your testicles!
Quit being a mommas boy!
Nobody can help you accept yourself. You need confidence... not fake confidence, but the real thing.
Get off your butt, get yourself into shape mentally, physically, and emotionally, and act like a man!
You'll probably want to quit smoking all that herb too. That's no helping you at all dude.
Good luck.
2007-12-27 00:01:52 · answer #7 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where did you meet the first one.
2007-12-27 00:19:28 · answer #8 · answered by Bantree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have money, take the next flight to Amsterdam. If you cant woo em, pay for em.
2007-12-27 08:25:30 · answer #9 · answered by Jelise 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what can we do to help? I really dont know what you are asking help for??
2007-12-27 00:01:39 · answer #10 · answered by primalclaws1974 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋