hi there, anonymous female in her twenties here. I have a friend who is staying with my husband and I in our two bedroom home. Having no children and a spare room, we run into quite a few visitors who end up asking if they can "stay" with us from time to time.
Under the circumstances that my good friend had been going through (with her "fiance") I agreed to let her stay for 3 months. all of OCTOBER, NOVEMBER, & DECEMBER. I even wrote a friendly short one page lease of expectations etc
Halfway through the lease I found out she had been PREGNANT even before she moved in. Well as soon as I confronted her she was a little embarassed, and since mid Nov, Ive only seen her for a total of 4 days.
Well the time has come for her to get her stuff out of the room, she has only dropped by, and I want to respectfully have her get her items out ASAP so we can turn it back into an office, we REALLY need the space, and I am SOOO not good at these things!! Please help.
2007-12-26 15:45:55 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell her that you need your office back and would like her to get her things out by Saturday. You'll be glad to help her move them.
Be prepared, she doesn't have any place else to go.
2007-12-26 15:51:35 · answer #1 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you're so bad at this I'd suggest writing a note. Then you don't have to face her and start stuttering and feeling embarrased and unable to actually KICK HER OUT. Just write a nice note saying "dear X, please keep in mind that the lease expires this month (aka in 4 days) and, as much as we've enjoyed having you as our guest, we need the room by the 1st week of Jan because apparently some relatives will be coming over and we really need the space. I'd really appreciate that you could make arrangements to move before then -- I'm sure you must have checked on some options by now". Period. She isn't that good of a friend if she hid such an important thing from you. So I wouldn't worry that much about her either.
2016-04-11 02:21:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happens more than you think it does and as far as you staying friends don't count on it because you won't be you tried to help her now help her Out....
go get some boxes then call her and tell her you have some boxes and she has to come and get her things and if she waits more than one day no matter what and make it clear no no no matter what she's gotta go.... Let it go for 24 hours then if nothing happens pack her stuff up and take it to her Change all DOOR locks no matter what Change the door locks she has the law on her side so get the law on yours her lease is up Change the door locks.....
2007-12-26 16:02:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her respectively ,, but assertively .. that you need the space badly, to turn her room into an office .. so please come get her things by Thursday.
Just act like it is ok to tell her these things. Which .. actually, it is ok.
Just be friendly ,, and kind ... but hold firm that you need the room in a hurry .. and don't back down.
If she says she can't come .. then ask her what you want her to do with her things .. because you HAVE to have the room now.
2007-12-26 15:55:16 · answer #4 · answered by Tara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough! I think the best thing to do in these kind of situations is to politely explain your situation to her. You need to be open to her so she'll be understanding and she will respect you. If possible, since she's been having issues as to where to live and such, try helping her out as well, help her find a job if she needs financial help , help her find a place to live, and she will appreciate it.
There is no need to be shy in these situations. If something is really bothering you, you're not comfortable with, you need to talk--don't keep the problem to yourself.
Remember: You are in control of your own household.
2007-12-26 16:04:06 · answer #5 · answered by ES 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her flat out "I'm sorry you were going through hard times, but since I've rarely seen you the past couple of months, I'm assuming you've been able to make other arrangements. We need this space now, so if you could please have all of your belongings moved out by _____, we would really appreciate it." That's as polite as you can be for someone who has taken complete advantage of your hospitality.
2007-12-26 15:51:37 · answer #6 · answered by jalvarez626 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best approach. Take some time one evening after dinner and bring up the subject - politely but honestly and sincerely. Ask her for a commitment to move out. Let her know you expect her to honor that commitment. Offer to help her find a place and move. However, do let her know that you think it is time for her to be on her own.
I think you are kind by offering to help her. Just let her know that you think she is ready to move out on her own and you expect her to do so. If she does not move out, start charging her rent if you want or contact some of her other friends or family to help her as well.
2007-12-27 02:49:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her that your going to be going out of town for a couple of weeks and when you return your going to need the room for whatever...Since you will not be there, ask her if she can get her stuff out before you leave so the room can be ready for when you get back...say just as long as you get it out by friday night it's cool...
2007-12-26 16:35:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her and tell her the room is going to be rented by the 1st to another person and would she like to come and get her stuff or should you donate it to a local charity.
2007-12-26 16:16:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should already know that the time has come cause you said "OCTOBER, NOVERMBER AND DECEMBER" so this is already expected. Just ask her "so when are you getting your things?" It should be ASSUMED that the time frame is UP.
Hopefully she isn't a good friend.
Good luck!
2007-12-26 15:53:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋