I have come across people who, when talking to you, feel the need to drop things into the conversation like, what they bought and how much it cost. I, personally, think maybe they are insecure and feel the need to prove themselves. What do you think?
2007-12-26 15:37:19 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I think the same as you. They are insecure. They feel the need to impress other's... and think that if something they have is better than mine, then it validates their ego. If by some chance we have the same thing, well, then they know this guy... and got theirs cheaper.
Oh, pull--eeze!
I know some people like that... its all about what they have and how much it costs.
2007-12-26 15:46:50 · answer #1 · answered by bakfanlin 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some people are just plain extroverted and speak what's on their mind. Yes, I agree that some feel powerful when they talk about what they had spent. Ask them about their retirement fund? How are they going to spend their retirement?
Respond "cool" and "thats great". Can I see it? How has it enhanced your life. Maybe they want people to show an interest in them and maybe it could spark a new found interest with others.
Some may have not been taught to save. Hense that is why it is important to expose children to saving, taking them to the bank to deposit even the littlest amount and see there balance, and one important thing is to talk about BUDGET throught out ones early years.
Mom to four under 10
2007-12-26 23:53:07 · answer #2 · answered by modelkindess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you to a point. To some, these "things" define who the person is and in that sense, I'm not really impressed, just SAD. On the other hand, I dont have to do or say anything to them...I can just feel grateful that I am not my car, my job, my kids, my education. These all contribute to the quality of my life but I am not them. I sit content knowing that I am a beautiful child of a loving god.
2007-12-26 23:48:11 · answer #3 · answered by Barbara A 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i hate it. my best friend does it and it drives me insane. after we had a big fight over a lot of things i wrote her a letter and explained that i dont like it how she says that stuff and how she brags about all these a+s on her reports and what her family gives her.. and since then iv hardly heard anything of it.
but yes i agree with you, she did feel insecure, and she started copying me to the extreme.
xx
2007-12-26 23:49:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right. They are insecure. Just listen and then move the conversation to a more significant subject when they are done talking. Your kindness (by just listening) will help them feel better.
2007-12-26 23:46:01 · answer #5 · answered by Doctor J 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would think it's time I found some more interesting people to talk to.
2007-12-27 00:09:21 · answer #6 · answered by niceguyswlondon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think, "Hello, Mr. Shallow!"
I have actually had a man say to me, "Appearances are very important to me," as if that were some kind of virtue that made him better than I was.
2007-12-26 23:44:02 · answer #7 · answered by Ultraviolet Oasis 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For some reason obviously they absolutely love the fact that their better than you
2007-12-27 00:06:54 · answer #8 · answered by animalz63 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In the whole broad spectrum of life, it just doesn't matter. If it makes them happy, be impressed.
2007-12-26 23:45:04 · answer #9 · answered by Mollyismydog 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, we often create our realities more often than we perceive them. Perhaps you are seeing a reality where they are braggring because you are insecure. Food for thought.
2007-12-26 23:46:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋