please only answer with real advice - no rudeness?

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QUESTIONS:: My friend Stacy told me that she starts to think "What if" her mom meant "Oh I think you would pick out things that look like crap." even though Stacy knows that isn't what her mother meant. So what do you think? (1) So do you think Stacy overreacted and (2) do you think Stacy read into what her mother meant

STORY: Two days ago Stacy and her mom stopped at the 99 cent store at her mothers suggestion. Stacy grabbed a beautiful dark green cardigan and two other items (which her mother did not like). Those two items Stacy looked over and decided she didn’t like either. Well actually one her mother did not like the other one her mother said was too short (and Stacy hates short items) Then Stacy also saw a royal blue turtleneck to wear under a sweater. When Stacy was on the line to pay her mother noticed the royal blue turtleneck wasn’t in great shape so her mom pointed that out. Stacy got upset and in her mind she thought that her mother was saying that Stacy would only buy ugly things. Stacy said “I just wanted to wear that under a sweater - this one I just needed the collar” Her mother said “Maybe so but you would be able to see that it wasn’t in such great shape” As they were walking to the car her mother said “The dark green sweater you brought is gorgeous” Stacy said “But it sounds like you are saying that I would have brought crap as well”. Her mom “Well you were going to buy that turtleneck. I even told you to get rid of things like that” Stacy “I was just going to wear this under something.” Then about two hours after they got home her mother came into Stacy’s bedroom to ask her something. Stacy said “The dark green sweater I brought is gorgeous” Her mother said “Every thing you brought in the past at the 99 cent store is gorgeous - I even told you that, you just have to stop being so insecure.” (Keep in mind Stacy brought many sweaters in the 99 cent store and each item would have sold in Bloomingdales, etc for $100 a piece. These were closeouts. I saw the sweaters: Ralph Lauren, Talbots, etc. NO THEY ARE NOT JUNK. AND her mom loved every sweater Stacy brought at the 99 cent store. Stacy even wore one of the sweater two weeks ago when her family had a fancy dinner party to go and every one wanted her sweater)

Answer 1

It sounds like they have some minor "issues" that they need to resolve. Most families have these minor squabbles, it's all pretty normal. It's only a problem if either or both of them get excessively "wrapped around the axle" over it.

Answer 2

okay