How do you continue to work with a co-worker, after you know you have been backstabbed?

Answer 1

Well I would be super nice to them all the time and every now and again throw these words into the convo......Well I know you would never do anything to hurt my feelings or to hurt me in any way your just not that kind of person are you? .....makes them feel like crap. And besides who cares what others think anyways...I feel like it what I think about myself that really matters in the end.

Answer 2

This is a really good question because this type of behavior occurs in most professions or work settings. The best answer for me is to MAKE SURE the backstabbing really occured and not just someone else stirring the pot through gossip. If the issue is important enough and you have determined that someone really did backstab you, then you have a few choices. 1. you could confront the person and basically state how you feel. You could say that this backstabbing had an ill effect on you, if it did and say that you'd appreciate if this backstabbing STOPPED. Then, leave it alone. 2. You could consider the source of the backstabber...these people generally feel insecure and need to put others down so they feel good about themselves. Of course, this approach fails miserably because the offender NEVER has long term gains when engaged in this negative behavior and needs to repeat it over and over. I usually stay far away from people like this because I prefer to use my energy for more positive relationships. If you have to work with this person on a day to day basis, it may be prudent to remain courteous but distant. Choose how you want to expend your own energy and dont get caught up in office politics. Good luck.

Answer 3

I would strongle suggest Let go and Let god! There was a person who backstabbed me so many times this year I lost count. I just had to put things in perspective. I had to turn an enemy into a friend. So I did. For christmas I gave this person a xmas card with $25 in it. He wanted to return the gift and I refused to take it back. What happened there I killed him with kindness. I guess he must have felt bad for all the crap he talked about me to the point where he felt guilt. And I also demonstrated to that person that I have no ill will towards anyone. Remember successful work environments can function correctly without the backstabbers. What you need to do is learn how to use them

Answer 4

I would do so by realizing that the reason I'm at work is to do just that - work. Although said co-worker would feel the cool breeze coming off me & know where they stand.

Dis me once shame on you - Dis me twice shame on me!!

Wouldn't happen twice!

Answer 5

Treat the person like a coworker and plan your revenge. As Dryden said, 'Beware the fury of a patient man.'

Answer 6

just hold ur head up high n act as if u dont care or acknowledge u r the winner if they backstabbed u .they were no friend

Answer 7

You do not work for them. You work for your boss. My co-workers complain how they do not get along with me to the boss. But the bosses (a couple) like me and favor me because I am very intelligent and think the others are intimidated by it.

Answer 8

Treat the person like a coworker and move on. I got too close to a woman coworker and she was not very friendly to me. I only talk to her about work and keep my distance from her whenever possible.

Answer 9

I keep my interactions to a minimum. I don't share anything personal. I am polite but very standoffish.

Answer 10

keep work as work & every thing else to your self. only talking to them "IF & when" you "have to" & remembering they are "Coworkers not Friends"