The family will kick this person out and will not help her the boyfriend has no job and cant support this baby. its sad
2007-12-26 14:53:09 · 26 answers · asked by soufsidechoppas 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
It's a good thing. I mean you've already listed the reasons why she should.
2007-12-26 15:13:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 3⤋
Just for the record, there is no medically held notion that having an abortion dis-enables the mother to be pregnant in the future. I have no idea where they heard that urban legend, but hopefully that's just her stupidity and not a commonly held belief.
Anyways, on to this hypothetical situation you have conjured up. Everyone is screaming ":adoption, adoption, at leas the baby can live, my friend was adopted and she's happy,etc." That's probably the /right/ thing to do considering that abortion would end a life, or at least the possibility for it. In this scenario you're talking about, the girl cannot legally be "kicked out", that can only happen at age 18 or older, so that part of the scenario is de-facto. Basically, she got knocked up by some looser with no no job or income, so there is no money for an abortion anyway? Is she going to save her milk money and put it into an abortion fund? If there's no money to support the baby, where is she getting the money to pay for an abortion? By the way, anyone know the average cost for a healthy abortion? It's over a thousand dollars. I thought there was no income in this situation, so where is the money magically appearing from to pay for the abortion procedure?
I rest my case. This is a hypothetical situation. This is not yours or someone else's pregnancy, there are too many loop holes to be an actual occurrence. Of course there are young mothers who are faced with the choice to abort their pregnancy, and many don't have the financial stability so support this child, but usually if that is the case, the parents help the mother until she can get on her feet. If they pay for an abortion, then she aborts. If they don't, they help her while she goes through those 9 months, and then gives the baby up. If they don't help her, she would probably go to a crisis pregnancy center or a backstreet abortion. Whichever choice she had to make, it wouldn't easy and she would have to make it in such a desperate situation, but what you're talking about is boarderline unrealistic.
2007-12-27 01:21:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's bad if the family are trying to force the girl into having an abortion against her will. The decision should be entirely up to the girl. It's a very sad world we live in if people are saying that the only way she can live a good life is to get rid of her baby - as that could potentially mess her up emotionally for the rest of her life. When did people grow so cold? We all make mistakes. It sounds like her family need a kick up the backside. Poor girl.
And where is her boyfriend's family during all of this? If he is not yet an adult - then surely they should be willing to take on half of the responsibility until he finds a job. It shouldn't be so easy for people to walk away from situations like this. :-/
2007-12-26 23:26:34 · answer #3 · answered by Butterscotch 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's sooo disgusting when people kick their pregnant teens outta the house with no money or a place to live. I know it's not a good idea to being getting pregnant during your teens, but you just don't leave a pregnant woman out on the streets, that's just wrong.
And of course there's always adoption if they don't want the baby, the option I would prefer. I hope everything turns out okay for them.
2007-12-27 21:25:19 · answer #4 · answered by S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she should have the baby and give it up for adoption but if that is not an option then i think an Abortion is the right thing to do.
2007-12-27 02:09:03 · answer #5 · answered by believe.dance.inspire ; 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, is it even legal to kick a 16 year old out? I though it was 18 when that is legal. Secondly, the girl should give the baby up for adoption, which means she will not be struggling to care for it, yet her baby can still have a chance at a good life. I know a girl that was given up for adoption immediately after birth. She has a happy life, and is grateful to the mother she never knew for letting her live. Which is pretty surprising, because as it turns out, she got cancer when she was like, 11 or 12. But she is still grateful.
2007-12-26 23:03:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 4⤋
Abortion would be bad... it could have negative emotional effects on them, I would have her look into an open adoption, she will still be there for her child, but another family will provide the child with his home, clothes and other needs.
2007-12-27 08:59:37 · answer #7 · answered by stacielb06 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on her own views, outlook, and feelings on the situation... It would not be bad if she had an abortion, but it might be bad -for- her... or it might not be... If you know someone in this situation, direct them to Planned Parenthood - they have counselors who will be able to take her through all of her options.
Edit - Also, what Nikki Sep's #1 Fan stated is a flat out lie.
2007-12-26 23:19:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
well im only 14, so i dont know much about it yet, but i will try.
yea i think go ahead with the abortion since she is so young and there isnt support,, but if you can get support then keep it. abortion is a sad thing,, but if u know that there is no way you could ever keep the baby then yes.. no more babies need to be put in adoption homes.
well this is really something you and her should decide together....
2007-12-26 23:07:44 · answer #9 · answered by ♪ its just me ♫ 3 · 4⤊ 3⤋
Well, that's the consequences of being a sexually active teen. Teens don't realize that what they are doing can affect other people than themselves (including an unborn child). Sex is a big responsibility, and was meant for marriage....(i'm one to talk....but the reason why i know this is BECAUSE i AM a teen mom....19 with 2, so i've been there done that. just hope others can learn from what i've done). Some people think that it's better to kill, and illiminate any chance of life for this potential child....i personally don't think it's right...."it wouldnt have a good life" ?? How do you know? If the precious little one was given to a family that wanted kids but couldnt have them....i bet that the baby would be that more appreciated! And she would be giving a loving family the most precious gift anyone can give! The baby deserves a chance at life. Just think if you're parents were young like this....would you rather them have killed you...or given you to a loving family who wanted you? Think about it. She shouldnt take the "easy" way out. They made the decision...and it's not as bad as it seems...i promise....If I didn't think i could raise my children, and give them all that they needed and wanted....I would have done the responsible thing, and gave them the best life i could, by giving them to a stable family. Her body is no longer just hers any more. That's a life in there! A little baby! And she is now responsible for him or her. It's a hard thing for someone so young to deal with.
(i was 18 when i had my first...still prego with the 2nd....so i was in a better position to raise my precious ones.), but it's still hard. And if i couldnt do it....i would have given them the best life that i could....hope this helps. :)
ps: I didnt get any help either, so i know its hard on her.
Edit: .....it pisses me off that people are saying just abort because it wont have a good life....no more need to be put in adoption....how do you KNOW it wouldnt have a good life???? There are plenty of adoption agencies that are REALLY strict on who they give these children to. I wouldnt reccomend anything else! And you get to pick the people whom receives your child! There's even open adoption...where you can stay in the child's life, but don't raise him or her. .....there are other options than just eliminating that baby's chance at life.
2007-12-26 23:11:38 · answer #10 · answered by Jada and Ty's mommy 3 · 3⤊ 5⤋
Abortion is a personal choice that only she will be able to make. Personally, I am against abortion and would much rather prefer that she make an adoption plan for the child if she feels she is unable to care for a baby. However, the first thing she needs to do is get herself some counseling of some sort to determine what it is she truly wants to do. There are programs available to help her if she chooses to parent the child on her own. It will not be an easy road if she chooses to parent, and she will face obstacles, but there are systems in place to help her with that.
If she does decide that she wants to make an adoption plan for her unborn child, she needs to speak with a reputable adoption agency in her area to insure that she gets the necessary support during the process.
Good luck to all!
2007-12-26 23:05:16 · answer #11 · answered by BPD Wife 6 · 3⤊ 4⤋