she was always abusive and a drunk my whole life and now i have freedom and i can think for myself but my scars still sting sometimes will it ever go away?
2007-12-26 14:22:31 · 18 answers · asked by CarmenSoccerBarca 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Are you sure what you are feeling is relief instead of joy? My dad was abusive to both me and by siblings. Worse yet, it was not due to alcohol or drugs. He was just plain down right mean and hateful. We were scared to death of him. When he passed away, we all felt relief. Yet, we mourned his death. Blood runs thick whether it be good blood or bad blood.
Yes, the sting will go away. It takes time.
2007-12-26 14:31:31 · answer #1 · answered by Vida 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Gladness a the passing of a lost one is one I am familiar with. My mother used to tell me to call the doctor every time she felt I was acting funny. The truth of the matter was, the doctor released me, as a graduate of psychotherapy, a long time before that. Mom always insisted that I was crazy. I didn't agree with her unless she was will to accept the position You're Crazy-I'm Crazy. But, it was never that way. I still miss her. I've done some work in the Temple for her and am sure she has found out that I really am acceptable to a lot of people.... a lot of people. And, I know I will get to see her again and she will be freed from all that paranoia she went through.
2007-12-26 14:39:40 · answer #2 · answered by Armchair Nutritionist 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Must have had a bad relationship with your mother. I don't blame you for feeling the way you feel but I am sure deep down inside you are likely sad that she is gone but your anger towards the way she has treated you outshines the sadness. I would try and seek therapy as she might have caused damage to you mentally so the way that she treated you has trained you to numb your feelings and hide them.
I know this cause my dad was verbally abusive. no matter what I did, it was always wrong and felt like I was walking on egg shells doing anything. I suffer from anxiety now and second guess myself because of what i had to deal with. I am getting better though with therapy.
2007-12-26 14:29:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It’s wrong to be glad that anyone’s dead, especially one’s mother. But if she’s abused you a lot and caused you much pain, it’s understandable for a part of you to be “happy” that she’s dead. This mixed feeling is a normal response. So don’t go beating up on yourself. But I do hope that you find complete healing. The answer is in finding God, and letting Him give you hope and a new life with Him. He’ll bind up your wounds, give you the strength to forgive your mother, and turn your scars into marks of blessings for others who may be suffering from similar hardships and wounds. God could redeem any evil situation to use it for good. Best wishes to you.
2007-12-26 15:01:27 · answer #4 · answered by Jedidiah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your mother was a very unhappy person who had a hard time coming to grips with her emotional problems. She tried to deal with her issues by becoming intoxicated but this only made things worse for herself and you. Read about alcoholism and the effects it has upon the brain and how it changes a persons judgment and reasoning. This was no excuse for your suffering but maybe it will help you to understand where your mother was coming from. As strange as it may sound, she probably did love you, but didn't know how to show that love to you because she didn't really love herself. You have bad memories that will always be with you, now the best thing you can do for yourself is to forgive her and take a lesson from this example to become a caring person yourself.
2007-12-26 14:58:20 · answer #5 · answered by Marina 1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not wrong to be happy and yes, it will go away if you allow it to. Your mom has made your life unhappy when she was alive, do not give her the power to continue to hurt you. When you start feeling that sting..just say NO MORE and move on. Good luck to you.
2007-12-26 14:28:03 · answer #6 · answered by duffie_1999 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom and that i've got had a strange relationship for the final 6 to 7 years of my existence. whilst she develop into residing with us, she develop into never around through fact she develop into consistently depressed and unhappy. whilst she left, i develop into offended at her. She used to make me experience an identical way you experience. She nevertheless does at situations. yet my mum bipolar and psycho, has yet another area to her and that i'm happy I made the time to locate it. provide your mum a gamble, she is your mom inspite of each thing. possibly tell her the form you experience, you're 21 and you have an opinion, in case you like a relationship with your mum and understand why she is the guy she is, start up conversing...possibly there's a answer.
2016-11-25 02:45:39 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not up to us to judge right or wrong.
I understand the relief aspect - but the sting won't go away until you understand what lead her to live her life the way she did. With understanding comes forgiveness.
2007-12-26 14:47:50 · answer #8 · answered by flip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really cannot see how one can thing/feel the way you do about your deceased mother. The only thing that I can tell you in order to overcome your bitterness/anger against the one who brought in this world is to learn how to "FORGIVE and FORGET." Otherwise you will do much greater harm to yourself than that you think your mother caused you.
Good luck.
2007-12-26 14:39:48 · answer #9 · answered by Nikolas S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it stings because its youre mother n im sowwy
2007-12-26 14:25:42 · answer #10 · answered by WhoKnows. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋