i know there are some who will think this is a no brainer, however there is a girl who i have had a love affair with for 2 years. it has put my life on hold and left me so depressed at times. i am so tired of it cause she is married and she has not left cause of finances on their part. i am sick to death of it all cause i am tired of missing her! i met her and fell head over heels with her in the beginning when she had separated from her husband. now time has passed. it is sad, so sad. i am tired big time! i want to be strong and pull away for myself and for her. she always comes back. i am ready to start a life, but its like i am waiting for her to say lets go! and it sadly never happens. i am tired of the situation. not her. i know like i said most will think it is cut and dry, however my mind and my heart believes my life was to play out with her. can someone refer me to a site that can build me up and help get through this. i am single
2007-12-26 14:07:29 · 14 answers · asked by wiskers43302 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You must be a very competitive man. When you understand she is not available, you understand perfectly that she doesn't love you but use you to pass her confusing or difficult time. You miss her and want her so bad because you can't have her. I suggest you to pull out a paper to write down the reasons that you want to be with her, and the reasons that you can't be with her--- she married, she can't keep her commitment to anyone (her husband and you) and she considers money is more important than you are, etc. After making up you mind, you move on, that is, cutting off all the communication with her no matter what she will say to you.
2007-12-26 14:27:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
next time THINK before you let your emotions sling you across the room by your balls man. The woman is married so it IS A NO BRAINER!!! You messed up. Fortunately for you , you're single and you don't have to worry about breaking any vows. Shame on you.
Keep your antennae up fr SINGLE women SINGLE SINGLE SINGLE! You won't have to worry about the conundrum you're in now( unless she cheats on you with a guy).
Leave her alone dude. There's nothing like having the angry husband of the wife you're cheating on looking for your blood (and rightfully so).
2007-12-26 22:26:16 · answer #2 · answered by stjoseph5 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's not staying with her husband because of finances. She's staying with him because she wants to. She's telling you otherwise because she's trying to make you feel like you're the one she really loves. I can tell you right now, if you were the one she wanted to be with, she wouldn't give a rat's butt about the finances; she'd just want to be with the man she loves.
Sorry to sound harsh, but you need to face reality. She's not going to leave her husband for you. She's stringing you along. You make her feel good because of your adoration, and she's probably somewhat addicted to that, and that's why she keeps coming back.
Move on. Find someone that loves you back. Don't date any more married women.
2007-12-26 22:14:53 · answer #3 · answered by Jess H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Build you up?? You are dallying with a married woman, who has no intention of leaving her husband for you. And if she did, would you really trust that she would STAY with you? Finances have NOTHING to do with it...why should she leave her husband, if she can carry on with BOTH Of you?
Your life will pass you by as you wait for her and you have allowed this to happen by giving her control over you. Please get some counseling and determine why you are so willing to be this woman's doormat. Please....life is too short to waste.
2007-12-26 22:21:01 · answer #4 · answered by that judi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this question: What makes this a good relationship for you?
If you are honest with yourself in your answer, then yes...this is a no brainer! The only thing stopping you from leaving and having a happy life is you.
2007-12-26 22:13:10 · answer #5 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound sweet. She doesn't treat you like you deserve, so chin up. Be strong and fight the urge to take her back. It might feel painful now because you love her, but once you are free of her, you will realize when you look back just how much better your life will be with someone who is really ready to commit to you.
2007-12-26 22:15:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'd move away and start a new life fresh without the constant reminder of her so close to you. If you don't see her or are reminded of her everyday, it'll be easier to move on and meet other women.
2007-12-26 22:25:45 · answer #7 · answered by karisob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi hon.. sorry for your pain.
you need to sever all ties, even if it means changing your cell phone number, regular phone number and having calls screened at work (if you have someone else answering).
you have put your life on hold for someone who is not available. you are right, it's time to move on.
you can do a yahoo search for
SURVIVING A BREAK UP
SELF-ESTEEM SELF-HELP
SETTING PERSONAL BOUNDARIES
these might help in some ways. i hope so.
2007-12-26 22:12:50 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So you DATE single women AND keep getting together with her . . . . what's the big deal. Be a MAN about it.
2007-12-26 22:12:22 · answer #9 · answered by Gardner? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a excuse not to commite to u ur good enough to do but not good enough to b with all the tim u r right sad very sad
2007-12-26 22:13:21 · answer #10 · answered by DAVE H 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋