My husband has an unusual sexual fantasy. He likes to imagine that I'm a giantess, as he calls it. Like the 50 foot woman. Only lots bigger. He likes to call me the 50 mile woman. Or 500 mile woman. And I'm always wearing 4 or 5 inch heeled sandals with my toes painted. This never happens in real life.
He'd like me to pretend, or role-play, I'm a giantess going on a rampage. Destroying cities, armies, etc. Pretending to crush him like a bug. While I'm telling him what I'm doing, he's 'satisfying' himself.
I don't share this fantasy, and in fact, I find it a bit silly. I'm not that violent, or mean. But he really seems to find in enjoyable. It seems harmless, but it isn't my thing. He's offerered to reciprocate, but I my fantasies don't involve him. I think my biggest problem, is I honestly have no idea what to say!
Am I being selfish? Or should I grit my teeth and try?
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2007-12-26 13:54:41 · 10 answers · asked by KarlaKayC 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband is a great husband. In speaking with my friends, thier husbands do a lot less for them than mine. (A few even wished they had mine!)
I just wish I could get past the somewhat silly situation of the fantasy.
2007-12-26 14:57:26 · update #1
My husband is a great husband. In speaking with my friends, thier husbands do a lot less for them than mine. (A few even wished they had mine!)
Due to a medical condition, sex is difficult for us without some pain for me. I just wish his fantasy were a little more 'normal'.
I just wish I could get past the somewhat silly situation of the fantasy.
2007-12-26 14:59:00 · update #2
I dunno Karla. Seems to me, if you're going to do some sexual fantasies, *both* people should be on the same page.
OTOH, since this seems relatively harmless, I don't see why not. Yeah, it's a bit foolish, but I don't see how it would hurt anyone.
And since your fantasies don't involve him, that segs into something else: Why does he need fantasies? Why can't the two of you find a fantasy that works for both of you?
Sex is complicated. Fantasies have an illogical wrinkle. .... Best I can think is "Try it and see what happens."
2007-12-26 14:29:48 · answer #1 · answered by going_for_baroque 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-18 09:01:34 · answer #2 · answered by latia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds weird but whats the harm in
doing it ? As long as the rest of your
sex life is OK make him happy & do it.
2007-12-26 14:06:12 · answer #3 · answered by Ski Freedom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but that seems like a ridiculous fantasy. No wonder you can't get into it.
2007-12-26 14:09:05 · answer #4 · answered by Tin C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do it, have him build a lego city, then put it on the floor and you can crush it!! It's not going to hurt anyone for you to do this for him!
2007-12-26 14:01:10 · answer #5 · answered by YUMMY1 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because you really love him i think you should try it to make him happy and you never no you could really enjoy it!! this site should help you get started if you decide to go for it!!
http://sexuality.about.com/od/sexualroleplay/ht/sexfantasyroles.htm
Good luck!!
2007-12-26 15:00:27 · answer #6 · answered by Becky D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Couldn't you just rent some 'Godzilla' movies?
2007-12-26 14:00:50 · answer #7 · answered by LaMariposa 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness
2007-12-26 14:21:22 · answer #8 · answered by Ali that girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sit on his face and show him your man eater
2007-12-26 14:01:16 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do it or his mistress will
2007-12-26 13:57:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋