Ok, I'm 16 and getting married. My fiance has been living with me for about 3 months. Most of my mom's side of the family say it's inappropriate and will not attend.
What should I do?
2007-12-26 13:47:13 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Why are you getting married? Do you want to?
2007-12-26 13:51:57 · answer #1 · answered by **** 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I got married at 16 also. Obviously your mom signed papers giving you permission and thinks your ready or you just bugged her to do it like I did lol she says that she is glad she let me now. I think its great to get married young it can be hard at first but if you are strong in your marriage it will work out in the end and just think when your 10 year anny will be when your 26 you could be some of few that have a 50 year anniversary. I support you in your decision but I also understand the wedding situation because a lot of our family members did not attend either just do a small wedding now and wait 3-4 years and have a big one and then they will come more than likely because they will have seen that its working out. That is what we are doing. I know it does not sounds a wonderful and such but its ok becuase it can still be a happy moment later they will be sorry that they missed it. good luck I wish you the best.
2007-12-26 22:23:17 · answer #2 · answered by moon_star_black 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you're too young to get married. Though, if you want to find out the hard way of how it is, go ahead. I can't stop you. The thing is, since you'll be married... you'll have a high chance of pregnancy - since you live with the guy.
High change of divorce - you're young and you are still changing in many ways.
Low chance of you not continuing your education - money for school? Where is it?
I think you better ask yourself and think for a minute about marriage at this age. Though, if you want to get married... I suggest you to stay engaged till your old enough to do so.
Your parents should have a talk to you on this the most. They're the ones letting you get married so young. Why do YOU think your mother's side will not attend? I wish you well.
Violet
2007-12-26 22:09:29 · answer #3 · answered by Violet 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wait 2-3 years to get married
2007-12-26 21:56:39 · answer #4 · answered by queenoftheworld 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you two are allready living together, which I dont recomend tell you marry the person. I would say get married, as long as both of you trully love each other. There is a strong risk of getting married that young, and actually staying together later on. Yall get older, differ, go seperate ways. But, if he's the one. You're family should try and understand. Try talking to them and tell them that you really love him and its the best thing for yall to do. And if they love you they should support you no matter what. Good luck.
2007-12-26 21:57:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Um...well, first of all, you should really evaluate if you should actually get married. I'm not saying that somebody your age can't be in love, get married, and stay married- my parents got married when my Mom was sixteen and my Dad was seventeen and they're still together today- I just think that when you're a teenager you can sometimes get a bit ahead of yourself and think that its "TRU<34EVR" when it's just infatuation or a crush. Do some soul-searching. If you actually, truly, really love this guy with everything in you, get married. If you're unsure...then don't.
If you decide to get married, try explaining to your Mom's family that even if they don't approve of your marriage, they should attend out of their love for you. Explain to them how hurt you will be if they don't come, and how much they matter to you. If they still don't come after that...screw them.
Have a great life!
2007-12-26 21:56:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
Wait!! I had a friend that got married at 16 and to her "true love". They divorced 2 years later..her senior year and luckily they did not have any kids. Wait until you are an adult. I got married in January and I am 25 and I can tell you it takes work. I love my hubby to death, he's my best friend but it's not all a bed of roses. I think you are too young. I know that is not what you want to hear but it's true.
2007-12-26 21:57:00 · answer #7 · answered by Clay's Mama 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why are you getting married at 16? You do know that the odds of this working out are slim to none? I was 19 when I got married and I think that was too young (we have come close to getting divorced several times)
2007-12-26 21:50:32 · answer #8 · answered by Van is due 5/8/08! 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why are you getting married at 16? If you really are going to do it and they will not attend do not worry about them. If you are set on doing it, do it without them. They are trying to force you to do what they want. It would be easier to answer you if we knew the details. Your family should be there to support you and yours is refusing to. They do not have to agree or even like it. I am sure that they do not consult you for approval of all of their decisions. I hope that this works out for you.
2007-12-27 00:39:59 · answer #9 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait, the person I was with for 6 years through high school and part of college ended up not being the person I wanted to be with. You are still growing as a person, if you end up with the him in the future that's great. Likely you will grow out of him though, you will not be the same person in the future.
Grow up some more, and live for yourself a bit, don't just jump from parents house to guys house.
2007-12-26 22:02:02 · answer #10 · answered by JMK 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why are you getting married so young? I think that you should have a long engagement (even living together is fine) but marriage is a huge decision to make at that young age. You both still have a lot of growing up to do and marriage may not work out.
2007-12-26 22:02:05 · answer #11 · answered by Valerie 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋