i mean teens go do it regardless and as long as you wrap it up what should it matter.i think im missing something cuz people maken it bigger then what it is...its just SEX and nothing less!!!?????
2007-12-26 13:08:12 · 35 answers · asked by sexctaurus_gapeach 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
No matter how many times you tell a child wait to have sex they still go do as they please...its not a bad thing sex is something you grow and mature from.
2007-12-26 13:52:52 · update #1
there isnt a right or wrong answer 2 dis question....if u have commited a vow 2 abstinence...kudos 4 u if not hey its nothing wrong with it...everybody learns fom there mistakes so sex is something that can make or break you....n the long run teens r gonna do what they want so just becuz sum ppl got pregnant at a young age doesnt mean everybody will becuz dey have sex at a young age..but everything happens for a reason so why live ur life having regrets(dis goes 2 da ppl saying they regret haven sex) becuz u never knw when its ur time 2 go so you shuldnt live ur life thinken what if i waited? you decided to lay down and open ur legs so make the best of ur decision!!!!and if u think it was a bad decision its not nobody fault but ur owns...but anywayz everybody have their own opinions...and like my teacher used 2 say its all about choices and the choices you make...sex isnt a bad thing but hey everyone has their own morals and belief...
2007-12-26 14:11:33 · update #2
as long as you have a good boyfriend not a complete stranger from school or what not, im fine with that. having sex is your own decision, and theres nothing wrong with deciding to have sex. its a experence you can learn and grow from. i totaly support your standpoint
woah i forgot to ad, AS LONG AS YOU USE A CONDOM.
2007-12-26 16:25:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sure sex isn't as big of a deal as it used to be when parents actually taught their children morals and discipline, but its not just sex. Saying it like that takes the entire meaning out of it. Sex at a young age has no meaning to it, and it shows that nobody has much respect for themselves anymore. Sex is meant to be shared between a man and a woman as a representation of their love for each other, and now its just all about glorifying and pleasuring the male while the female becomes the new **** in town, or the next pregnant teen. Young teens are just not ready to deal with the physical and emotional stress that comes along with sex. An unwanted pregnancy or an STD could potentially ruin a 13 or 14 year olds life (no offense to anyone that age with any of the above). I mean I'm not sure what some teens have against using a condom, but something has to change. I really don't want to read another headline in the near future of a 11 or 12 year old pregnant.
2007-12-26 16:12:56 · answer #2 · answered by ♫♪2 kids+1 wife=magical♪♫ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 17 years old, I'm a guy, in high school, hang out with my buddies all the time, and one of the constant subjects is sex, either the fantasy of it or what happened the night before. Getting a girl to sleep with me would not be hard at all, to say the least. I wouldn't really get affected by it emotionally, it would be enjoyable and what's the big deal so long as I have a trojan?
With that in mind, it is really sad that so many chicks would be willing to subjuagate themselves to something like that. It seems like a girl thinks that by having sex with a guy, pleasing him in a sexual way, he's going to love her. And that's a huge mistake to make. No guy my age or otherwise will love a woman because she can satisfy his sexual appeitite, and any guy who says so, is a liar. Maybe you don't care personally, but that's why so many young and attractive young girls sleep with guys. It's not fair nor is it right that a girl should have to go through that just cause she has the hope in her heart that this guy will love her if she has sex with him. So that's really why sex is wrong before a substantial relationship. If you take away procreation or STDS, that can be taken out of the picture somewhat if they use birth control/condom, the real reason why teenage sex is wrong because it really does emotionally effect a girl and her self-confidence. Because she will either have her heart broken when she realizes that he never really did love her, or because she's sex and that's it. Nothing more than a hot pair of legs, boobs, and you know what.
If a guy and a girl have been dating for awhile, they trust each other, and it's clear that they do have legitament feelings for one another, adolsecent sex isn't as big of a deal so long as they are really adolscents. There's still the chance of pregnancy, and seeing it is how they "love" each other, they really shouldn't be sleeping with other people, so that takes away the STD danger. They shouldn't be doing it unless they are older, like 16+, but there's no real reason why sex should wait for marriage, that's an option some people may choose to take and that's probabaly the best time to do it, and sex shouldn't be for procreation only--if that's the case then a husband and wife should really only have sex a few times.
2007-12-26 14:28:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sex is not just sex! And only the people who say it is haven't really experience the ordeal that comes before, during, and after sex. I'm 16, virgin, and proud. Just this past Friday, on December 21, 2007, I made a promise to not only myself, but to God that I would save myself for marriage and got my purity ring which I'm wearing as I type.
Yeah, you are missing something...Intelligence. Listen to some of the things that other people have spelled out for you.
To you, sex might just be sex and that your virginity means nothing to you, but if you use that mindset in life and you do what you preach, I can guarantee, you'll never be treated as a women should be treated. When you save yourself for marriage and give it up then, sex will be more that it was made for. It'll be a promise to love and make love.
I seriously hope you change you views on sex.
TO WILD_GURL: The only reason that you don't see that sex at a young age and pregnancy isn't such a big deal is because you haven't had the child yet. Just wait. You'll lose sleep because you have to get up late at night to feed and change the baby. You won't have enough time to do you homework because you have to take care of the baby. You need to get a job to pay for the baby's needs and so on and such that. Just wait. You think the pregnancy is nothing, until you start to have the baby, then it's downhill from there to the dark, tiring path to motherhood. Good Luck!
2007-12-26 13:58:10 · answer #4 · answered by ~A Musician's Dream~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex holds a lot of implications. It's not just a physical thing, it's emotional too. Especially for girls. Most teen girls are not mature enough to have a sexual relationship with no strings attached whereas boys live for one night stands and long hit list. Girls get dependent and boys want to run away from attachments so mentally, it causes problems. Also, from a scientific sense, sex is very damaging to a young girls body. It stretches the vaginal canal and of course it rips the hymen which protects the developing vagina from infection, and if a girl happens to become pregnant (because no form of birth control is 100%) then a pregnancy can ravage the body and may even result in fetal and/or maternal death. That is why teen sex is not socially acceptable to the majority of America.
2007-12-26 13:18:45 · answer #5 · answered by Nikki G 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no hun, it's not just sex. There are alot of emotional issues that are tied to it. Sex makes things alot more complicated than they have to be. And "wrapping it up," doesn't protect against ALL STD's. Just some. Condoms don't protect against genetal warts OR herpes....and those...you can't just take a pill and get rid of. You're stuck with them the rest of your life. Not to mention that condoms are only 80% effective anyway.....and they break! So unless you are emotionally ready to go through all of that (including raising children)...then i'd wait. My fiance waited until he was almost 19, and he was really popular! I was his first....and u know what,....we used a condom....and i still got pregnant! His first time! imagine that. He didn't tell me until MONTHS after, that he was a virgin when it happened. I really respected that. I think that's more attractive than someone who's "really experienced." I ended up regreting everyone i've been with except him. If I would have known then, what i know now....i would have definately waited. And ALL of my friends (that are girls) feel the same way.
I wish i could have waited...because it's not just something that "feels good." It's something that, when you do fall in love...and i don't meant when your a young teen (because i really didnt know what love was until i met my fiance, ...i thought i did...lol....but as a young teen...i thought i knew alot more than i actually did...and ive only grown up now because i have a child!) ....and it's something that you want to share with ONLY one person. It has emotional ties because thats the way it's supposed to be...sex is never "just sex" ....no matter how much you WANT it to be.
and ps: not that it matters NOW, because we have two kids together....we are now "waiting" until marriage. :)
2007-12-26 13:20:01 · answer #6 · answered by Jada and Ty's mommy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
as soon as a girl starts periods it is time she can fall pregnant sex is a natural way to reproduce that is it and with it being a experience and is with the opposite sex it has become good but at twelve or under the age of sixteen it is illegal and young people for a few moments of pleasure can ruin their lives not because it is not nice having a baby but are not prepared for it mentally or physically it is hard work bringing up young children and you have to sacrifice your youth time for fun good luck and be careful use a contraceptive if you plan having sex Dave
2007-12-26 20:35:57 · answer #7 · answered by Psycho Dave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a big deal because at a young age some people aren't ready for the emotions that go along with sex. If somebody's especially mature and they want to have safe sex, there's nothing wrong with that. But if somebody's emotionally immature but physically mature, they could be very hurt if, say, they get involved with somebody who later breaks up with them when they thought that *sob* they'd be together forever. They would feel just *sob* soooo used.
2007-12-26 13:17:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
sex is not a bad thing for any age maybe if the goody two shoes of this world stopped raving on at teens having sex and just thaught them how to be careful ther would be a lot less teen pregnancys. sex is in our nature my mother always told me from a young age to come to her if i ever wanted to have sex and she would get me the pill or get me protection and today i can say i came from a very bad area where all my friends have babys from a young age and i have one friend with h.i.v but because of my mother i am totally healthy and have no babys and i enjoy my sex life.
2007-12-26 18:55:28 · answer #9 · answered by leah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are intelligent and self-controlled enough to deal with sex on a matter-of-fact fair trade level relationship between two mature people.
Other people think they own each other for life once they have sex and become heavily dependent on the person they had sex with, and are especially hurt when so-called cheating and break-ups inevitably occur.
I think the problem is partly due to the natural dependency of young people which they're supposed to grow out of from healthy parenting and the extended childhood popular these days where parents try to hold on to and befriend their children rather than kick them out to take care of themselves.
The other problem is that kids aren't taught anything these days except to become simpering followers to their more mature friends. They don't learn how to deal with their emotions, nor to love themselves, nor to focus on anything, nor to think. They don't have hobbies or interests or goals. They're depressed, just want to be taken care of, want to blank their minds with alcohol, drugs and recklessness, and ultimately, if no one loves them, to die.
2007-12-26 13:44:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your way too immature to realize how big of a decision it really is. You could A.) Get an STD B.) Get Pregnant or C.) get used and feel horrible about yourself. I lost my virginity when I was young. It was a huge mistake. The guy I lost it to ended up going crazy and shooting a cop! Now I'm with a wonderful guy and wish I would have saved it for him. Most teens just don't think things through. I don't think its too big of a deal if your in a serious relationship, with a condom, and birth control. Just sleeping with somebody though, it does a number to your self esteem. Sex is supposed to be between two people who love each other, not just for one night stands. I hope this helps you understand more.
2007-12-26 13:16:03 · answer #11 · answered by Shelbi =) 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋