well mainly my dad. i live with both my parents. my best friend invited me to go with her to ottawa thats only 3 hours away by drive for 3 days on new years eve. im 18 years old turning 19 in 2 months. my mom said its okay but my dad said that bad things happen on new years eve and that i cant go. every year at my house on new years eve we always do the same thing..stay home and watch a movie and he says we should do the same. he says i cant even go out to a party my friend is having cuz bad things happen on new years eve. he says he trusts me but he just doesnt trust the people out there. ggrrrrrr im sssoooo mad i really wanna go on the trip what do i do? advice please!
2007-12-26 12:40:28 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
So i asked my dad if he would let me go up their (I live in New Jersey USA) if i was 18 (I'm now 14) and he said no. n I asked him why and he said basically the same thing your dad said, and when i asked him his reasoning and he said that he wants to protect me in the world and even though he does want me to grow up his still wants me to be his little girl. He still wants to control everything about me growing up as much as he can and he said that bad things' could happen on New Years eve and that protecting me from them is his sole purpose in life. Well i hope that that helped.
Monique
2007-12-27 09:17:27 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Monique♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 18. you're an adult, YOU CAN DO WHAT YOU WANT! But I think your father is right, New Year is dangerous, something could happen and those people will be so wasted that they won't even know you are there - would it not be nicer to spend that one night with your family, the ones that actually care about you? I'm sure it'd mean a lot to them. Maybe your dad feels like he's losing his little girl on a night he wants all the family together. I'm sure it's just because he cares about you.
P.s. If it's 3 hours away...how will you get home without someone drink driving!? Haha
I hope you make the right decision and have a fun New Year, whatever you do.
2007-12-26 13:34:39 · answer #2 · answered by J| 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to your father that while he may not trust the people you are with, he should have faith in your ability to make proper decisions and you are 18 years old now. You no longer need his permission to go somewhere, unfortunately though living under his roof means he could make consequences for your actions. Have a long talk with him. He may be feeling lonely for New Years Eve and wants to keep the old traditions alive, either way you have to reassure him that you are ready to branch out and have fun on your own, but that you still enjoy what you used to do with him.
Don't be angry at him, that will just make him look at you less and less mature, if you come at him like an adult he should treat you like one.
2007-12-26 13:41:33 · answer #3 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever I did not obey my parents I did it because I knew they were being mean and not looking out for my best interest. If you having a loving caring father who is only doing this cause he wants you safe then I would obey him,,,,,,,,my mom did not want me running around with anyone who had morals or money so any event that involved either I was not allowed to go, my sister however was allowed to go to many pot parties and orgys....so go figure
2007-12-26 13:31:02 · answer #4 · answered by Ginger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad is being unreasonable. You are not a child anymore. Tell him you respect his feelings and that you can't be happier that you have such a caring dad, but...
It is time for a bird to leave it's nest and you can't sit by his recliner forever.
Be polite but firm. Don't make a spectacle out of your departure. It will help to preserve your future relationship with your dad if you leave unnoticed :) Good luck and be careful over New Years!
2007-12-26 12:49:36 · answer #5 · answered by Darya J 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds extremely abusive to me. When I was 18 my parents became upset when I stayed out all night at my friend's house. They decided I ought to have a curfew, which I'd never had before and there hadn't been a need for. Luckily they were seeing a marriage and family counselor at the time and I told them I'd go with them next time and we'd ask her. She agreed that the precedent had already been set and they couldn't justify setting a curfew now.
If you're willing to move out if they don't capitulate then by all means just go, and if they try to stop you physically, then you can call the cops. I doubt you're willing to take those steps though.
2007-12-26 13:54:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You're 18. They can't tell you what to do anymore. I wish I was 18, but alas, I am only 13. :-)
2007-12-26 13:37:16 · answer #7 · answered by Princessofpie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU ARE GONNA GO THE MORNING BEFORE NEW YEARS. BECAUSE PEOPLE GET DRUNK ON NEW YEARS AND SOME MIGHT DRIVE. I DON'T KNOW IF YOUR CITY IS LIKE CHICAGO BUT HERE BUS RIDES ARE ONLY A PENNY ON NEW YEARS TO REDUCE RISK OF DRUNK DRIVING.
2007-12-26 20:08:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Praise be to Allaah.
The importance of honouring one’s parents is:
Firstly: it is obedience to Allaah and His Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And We have enjoined on man to be good and dutiful to his parents” [al-‘Ankaboot 29:8]
“And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honour. And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: ‘My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was young’” [al-Israa’ 17:23]
In al-Saheehayn it is reported that Ibn ‘Abbaas said: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) was asked which deed is the best? He said, ‘Faith in Allaah and His Messenger, then honouring one’s parents…’” And there are many other Aayat and Mutawaatir Ahaadeeth which say similar things.
Secondly: obeying and honouring one’s parents is a means of entering Paradise, as it was reported in Saheeh Muslim from Abu Hurayrah that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “He is doomed, he is doomed, he is doomed.” It was said, “Who, O Messenger of Allaah?” He said, “The person whose parents, one or both of them, reach old age during his lifetime but he does not enter Paradise.” (Saheeh Muslim, 4627).
Thirdly: Respecting and honouring them brings friendship and love.
Fourthly: respecting and obeying them is a way of showing gratitude to them because they are the ones who brought you into this world. You should also show gratitude towards them for bringing you up and taking care of you when you were young. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And We have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents” [Luqmaan 31:14]
Fifthly: if a person honours his parents this may be the cause of his own children honouring him. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Is there any reward for good other than good?’ [al-Rahmaan 55:60]
And Allaah knows best.
Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid
2007-12-27 12:56:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
recite the lyrics to iron man to them. if they don't like it, tell them they must hate rock.
2007-12-26 12:42:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋