Why Do you master bate when you are married or have A companion , Im asking because , well just lets say I need to know if it is normal , I'm Inbarest About this question , but I JUST NEED TO KNOW !and if you are married would you be mad if your spouse did it instead of with you.
2007-12-26 12:39:52 · 30 answers · asked by Home Is Where The Heart Is 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-12-26 15:54:34 · answer #1 · answered by Private I 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Fantasies excite us, and most people are just indulging their fantasies when they do it. There is also a physical release which assists in reducing tension or stress.
If one's partner prefers to do it alone, it shouldn't threaten the other. But, of course, anything carried to excess can be harmful to both parties.
People can be embarrassed about this and deny it, or downplay the extent to which they do it, and become defensive about it.
It's a normal question for someone to ask: "I am right here and available, why does he or she have to do this?" "Is there something wrong with me?"
If it has become a bothersome issue, it's time for an honest talk with your partner. Your question assumes that the other person is doing it privately, perhaps fantasizing with porn or his or her own internal fantasies.
It's intensely personal for most people, and it does take some trust to bring it out in the open. Make sure your partner knows that you're not judging him or her, and that you're not asking out of insecurity, but out of caring and wanting to be the best partner you can be.
Doing it together, watching each other, can be very exciting and intimate. Any discussion of this should involve the offer to make this happen, if it isn't already.
Good luck!
2007-12-26 12:57:20 · answer #2 · answered by jasper addleton 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lets get real and be honest that the woman in this story is YOU ! I think you are reading way to more into nothing. When a man is checking you out doesn't mean that he wants to sleep with you or is in love with you. Remember, we can look but not touch.
2016-05-26 11:33:00 · answer #3 · answered by carolann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is a pretty normal thing so do not be too concerned. The next time you know he is doing it why don't you say something to him like - hey that looks like fun why don't we do it together next time. Do not get mad at him because he will only try to hide it more. By sharing the experience you will spice up your sex life. Make the most of your opportunities.
2007-12-26 12:55:45 · answer #4 · answered by K K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes it is very common just as common as married women masturbating. sometimes men just need a quick release of sexual pressure without the the time actual love making requires. Most married women do the same thing but are not open as men are about masturbation. ask a close female friend that you know that masturbates they can answer this question more to your satisfaction.
2007-12-26 13:10:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my ex would do it in bed next to me, so he became my ex because I'm not into being in the same bed as a jackhammer every night, (kind of wearing and really not good when you're tired from childbirth) and because I felt more than a bit peed off with him when it was perfectly possible for him to get out of bed and do it somewhere else. A matter of simple respect I think. Sadly he wasn't the sort who would welcome any interference from me, I did try it and he went a bit weird on me.(Mmm, lovely husband. NOT) But generally I think we girls are always going to be polygamous with Mrs Hand and her five lovely daughters, which is OK as long it doesn't impinge on a good sleep. I know I like a good fiddle so why shouldn't anyone else?
2007-12-26 12:55:33 · answer #6 · answered by dionysos 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is very normal. You should not be embarrassed to ask a question that you need an answer to. Him masturbating really has nothing to do with you so do not feel that he is doing it because he does not want to do it with you. That is not the case. You should be able to talk to him about these things.
2007-12-26 13:36:10 · answer #7 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IMO, nothing is abnormal as long as it doesn't hurt anyone else. So if you know he's doing this, and haven't shut him out of regular sexual contact, they you should find a way to discuss it in a non-confrontational way. Like, don't start out by saying you know he does; but just ask what he thinks of it? That way, you can sort of ease into discussing it without making him lie about it!
2007-12-26 12:46:54 · answer #8 · answered by gwhillikers2000 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, this is normal. Mine does it quite a lot. Even before we were married, we discussed this and he said, "If it's alright with you, sometimes I'll ask for sex and if you don't want it, I'll play alone." I was like, "Ok, sure." And he said, "And sometimes I'll ask you to join in." And sometimes I do join in and sometimes I don't. Joining in can be quite fun! Where is my husband at now? (looks around with a wicked grin!) He's on this forum somewhere, so I won't mention his name!
No, to be honest, there are going to be some times in your marriage when you'd rather not be in the same room with a penis, let alone having sex with one. At those times, yeah, let him go take care of himself.
2007-12-26 15:32:37 · answer #9 · answered by The Illegal Broccoli Farmer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Totally normal and in fact there are nights when I wish he would take care of himself instead of bugging me! (we've been together 18 yrs and he still wants it 5 times a week!)
2007-12-26 13:36:15 · answer #10 · answered by Allyson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋