well thats what happend to me the letter came in the post with the hotels name on the envelope addressed to my husband so i opened it.i got a shock as i read it and it said the time date and area on it also for a room for 2 people.so i waited for my husband to get home from work i asked him about the letter he said he had booked the room for his mate because he had met a woman and he had no I.D and that he still lives with his mum. i said that is a bit weired and i dont believe you because the date on the letter is the same as when my husband said that he was going to devon u.k.to get a car and that is a 12 hour drive there and back from where i live in england so.i also phoned him 3 times at different times that night to see how he was and all the time he took his time to answer his mobile phone and i couldnt hear the car it was very quiet.he got back to his garage quick within 12 hours.he says he has not been with another woman it was a favour for his mate who he wont let me talk to.
2007-12-26 12:35:52 · 24 answers · asked by Summer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the area of the hotel is a 1 hour drive away from where i live...
2007-12-26 12:37:43 · update #1
If it was me, i would have checked the clock to see how many miles was done in the last while, if u know how many was clocked up before then, also i would go to the hotel, bring the letter with u and ask to see the receipt for this room, the last hotel i stayed in i had sign for it on payment and if room services also, if they are willing to show u footage of the area of the time the room was paid for, then u can catch him out, or even better fib him, tell him u went to the hotel and they personaly showed u the footage and he was on it, then watch his face drop.
If u like, check around for phone bills, credit card bills and things of like, check his pc/laptop the cookies shows everything and if hes on a dating site, make fake profile and go chat to him and if has msn, set it up where it saves all conversations and that way u can see what he is sayin and who to.
watch to see if he brings his phone with him everywhere, if he brings it to the shower and bathroom then u know hes up2 no good defly, and if he leaves it down, even wait for him go sleep at night and have peek at his phone, go through nums, texts and calls to see. and if u have to, stage where u tell him ur going away for the night but watch the house or follow him if he leaves.
Wish u the best of luck.
2007-12-27 11:27:19 · answer #1 · answered by Mum of1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to know..? if you do, then did your husband use his credit card, do you think at the hotel ? if you think so, then you could ring the hotel, and say that you stayed there with MR.? on the ?date... and you think you've dropped one of your earrings in the room, but can't remember the room number, however it was a double room booked on the ? date..
If the answer is they will look, and phone you back.. you have your answer, as only your husband could use his credit card, not his friend..whilst at the hotel, but hang up, and use the number that restricts anyone from tracing the call ( I think its 1470, but not sure) , you will have to wait for your bank statements to find out your expenditure, around this time before you can do this.
But this is not a decision to take lightly, it could mean the end of your marriage, and if he is being honest, well, it would be a total breakup of any trust between you.
Think hard before you make this call... or if you can't ask a friend to do it for you.. or don't do it at all, and watch and wait to see if anything happens again.. it will soon if he is being unfaithful.
I do hope you find out that all this is legit, and you both can work this out.
a friend x
2007-12-26 13:02:28 · answer #2 · answered by CARAMAC 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You actually believe him? Come on he was gone the same day the hotel was booked? Why would another man book a room for a "mate"? Wake Up it was his room he is having an affair and if you want to believe it when he says he wasn't with another woman that only leaves that he was with another man.
You obviously had doubts in your trust or you wouldn't of opened the letter in the first place right. This is just proof of what you already knew.
2007-12-26 13:29:40 · answer #3 · answered by blueeyd_princess 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you, your instinct and i, know that there is no mate. If one needed further proof, you could take his picture, go to the hotel at the signed in time and ask the clerk on that shift, or tell him you have done it, but what good would it do, you know the truth. He might come up with a mate...given time, so don't be surprised to a later voluntary introduction. And from here on in he'll become angry at your suspicions, your questions, your distrust, your checking up on him. Can you handle wondering every time he walks out the door? Can you live with the constant resentment, anger, it will either destroy you and/or your relationship.Can you live with the distrust and suspicions? Can you live with the knowledge of this lie? Can you live with the fact he is taking you for a fool? Have you started to suspect friends, acquaintances, neighbours, those he smiles at? We are all so different, i could never live with such blatant lies. I know what it is like to try share the same space, breathe the noxious heavy air, to have it weighing down on you so thick a machetti could not cut through it, while the hurt, anger, confusion, spreads and grows like a cancer, poisoning the spirit, consuming everything you were. Not i, my dear, i chose to bow out gracefully, to save and reclaim what i had left of myself.
2007-12-26 14:57:55 · answer #4 · answered by ferochira 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems too much of a coincidence that he was away on the particular hotel booking date.
If he has nothing to hide he would want to put your mind at rest and let you talk to his friend. He will by now of course have primed his mate up with the story - so it may be a waste of time trying to get the truth from him.
I would confront you husband again, his alibi and cover story are lame.
2007-12-26 12:55:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This sure sounds fishy to me, but you have no real proof of anything. It would be very stupid of him to give his home address to the hotel if he was planning to meet someone. I think there is some smoke here so there is probably some fire too. Keep a close eye on him, if he has someone on the side there will be clues.
2007-12-26 12:51:12 · answer #6 · answered by K K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not believe him. Track down his friend and ask him if you must. He won't let you talk to him because he knows the man will not lie for him. Honey, everyone has an ID. If you lose your license you have to get a state issued ID. He would not even be able to cash his paycheck without one. Dig further, he is lying.
2007-12-26 13:45:19 · answer #7 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your husband has cheated on you. my question is did it come through the door like someone slipped it in for you to find or did it come in the regular mail? there would be no way that he could have booked a room for a friend if he was 12 hours away so there is absolutly no doubt about where he was and what he was doing. in my mind kick his *** out asap
2007-12-26 12:40:58 · answer #8 · answered by tamara 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yup your husband has cheated on u,what r u gonna do now cause that is the begining of a whole new can of worms sounds like he will probably cheat again sorry to say.he wont let u talk 2 the mate because the mate is a girl who he cheated on u with.good luck
2007-12-26 18:32:03 · answer #9 · answered by kim27 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A huge red flag for you. He's cheating and the lies to cover it are pathetic. Check his credit card or bank statements (don't let him know you're going to do this). You'll find the payment for the room there.
2007-12-26 18:56:28 · answer #10 · answered by Sun is Shining ❂ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋