since he's been incarcerated, it's been about 11 months,
what should I and what should I NOT write him
2007-12-26 12:18:39 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Of course you can say you love him, but not what he has done.
I would say I'm praying for you daily...but I am a prayer warrior, and would be praying daily!!!
Do you think he is free of crack ... finally? I think I would doubt that he would NOT re-offend! It is easy to love, but harder to trust!!!
Will he take counselling to stay free? I fear that you cannot carry his load. As A.A. always says "the ONLY person you can change is you"!!!
When you swim out to a drowning man, he may take you down with him instinctively. Crack addicts can do that to loved ones, if you try to "bite off more than you can chew" trying to help them.
Crack is a horrible weapon, used against him by his arch enemy, the devil, who is called "The father of all lies" in the bible.
I do not know if you dare say that, but I think I would risk a bit of tough love to help him stay free.
You need to keep yourself well. Rest. Eat healthy and exercise. You will do him no good if you are not at YOUR best.
He needs the same things. He should exercise to the point of addiction (which should be easy for an addictive personality) which keeps him busy, healthy, and even happy!!!
He also needs to eat healthy and get enough sleep, so he faces his personal battleground in tip top shape.
Drug addicts tend to re-offend. I would get conselling yourself, even if he thinks he does not need it. Having a crack addicted brother can mess up your own life too, if you are not alert and informed!!!
God bless you and yours!
Listen to that still, small voice in your heart, whether it is God's leading, or your own wisdom.
Good luck, and God be with you.
2007-12-26 12:39:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Drug customers are large manipulators. they're additionally large at denial. "Why do you assume he did this ?" What? grow to be it because of the fact he took you off the visitation record, or did no longer respond on your letter? Do you sense undesirable? responsible? Ashamed approximately what you probably did? that perhaps you injury his thoughts? it quite is drug person manipulation. So what's the plan for next month? Will your brother stay with you and mom? Will you help him hit upon a place to stay, perhaps provide him some money? Will he promise to stay sparkling? Will he injury the promise yet ask for "one greater danger?" Will this ensue persistently? What grow to be it like till now he went to reformatory?
2016-10-09 05:29:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've always believed in tough love. If your brother was stupid (No offense I have a father who does drugs also) enough to do drugs, he probably needs a reality check, but make sure that it is obvious that you love him in the letter.
Good luck and God bless,
ihatedeerpark
2007-12-26 12:22:28 · answer #3 · answered by MzActr3zz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest. For the most part let him know that you are there for him and that you love him no matter what. Thats what family is for!
2007-12-26 12:21:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and write whatever you feel.
2007-12-26 12:20:51 · answer #5 · answered by emesumau 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
avoid the whole crack subject, not yet at least
2007-12-26 12:22:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say what you have on your mind. and whatever you want to tell him. good luck to him and your family.
2007-12-26 12:22:11 · answer #7 · answered by littlebotas17 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no right or wrong and you know him far better then anybody on this thing.
2007-12-26 12:21:32 · answer #8 · answered by wind champ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and be nice, he probably needs family support.
tell him you hope he comes out clean, never uses it
again and you and him can reunite.
2007-12-26 12:22:08 · answer #9 · answered by Jerry S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
VENT LET HIM HAVE IT AND MAYBE WHEN HE IS RELEASED HE WILL THINK TWICE BEFORE HITTING THE PIPE AGAIN.
2007-12-26 12:22:05 · answer #10 · answered by KYMBRLEE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋