ok so i am pregnant and my soon to be husband well not any more left me?

Question

ok so i am 24 days pregnant and my not so soon to be husband left me because i am pregnant. What should i do. I cant raise a child by myself and i wont have enough money and it was his fault that i got pregnant.

HELP...

Answer 1

Well, if he is going to leave you because you are pregnant you are better off alone. It won't be easy, but you can do it! God doesnt give you anything you can't handle. There are plenty of financial aid for single mothers. Pray about it! God bless.

Answer 2

okay, well, no offense, but 'it takes two to tango'. you have some responsibility in getting pregnant as well, so it can't be his fault. first, women raise children by themselves all the time. family and friends will help out and the government can help as well. second, you say you won't have enough money, but for the first 6 months the biggest expensises are diapers and wipes (about 30-50 dollars a month), formula (about $30 a month if you go with store brand [which has the same ingredients as name brand and costs half as much]), and doctor's visits (if you don't have insurance, this'll be about $50 a month on average for the first 2 years... actually a little less). so if you can feed yourself and you have an extra $200 a month, you'll be fine. also, cloth diapers save LOADS of money and breastfeeding is FREE!
i know the idea of taking care of a baby is terrifying (when i was pregnant with my first child, my new husband was out of town 6 months out of the year and we couldn't afford a home so we had to live with his parents), but an innocent child deserves a loving mother and you are the only one who can give that to them.

Answer 3

First off, I am really sorry that he was a coward and left you.
But to correct you, it was his fault you got pregnant.. Sweetie, unless he forced you and/or raped you, it is not just his fault for you being pregnant.

You need to sit down and think about what you have to do to raise this child. It is not going to be easy, and it is not going to be pretty. You will have to sacrifice a lot of things for this child. It is time to step up to the plate and take responsibility and try to make the best for you and your unborn child. It is no longer about just you. You have a child coming into this world soon and you need to start making those steps now to give this child a proper life.. As for the "guy" who got you pregnant, he is really not worth the air you breathe if he would just walk off and leave you just because you are pregnant.. If he left because he was scared, he should of sat you down and talked to you, not just leave like a coward! You should prepare yourself to be a single mother, but if he comes back and wants to be a part of this child's life and means it, well good for him. You two work out the problems. But it is better to be able to support yourself and your child, than it is to sit around and wait on someone who may or may not come back into you and your child's life.
Good Luck Sweetie and keep us all updated!!

Answer 4

I am a single mom with two boys. I been never married or in engaged. My oldest going to be six. I been taking care of both of my boys myself. you can get help. You be able to get insurance for paying the medical bills and welfare by the government if you not working. When the baby born no matter want he will have to pay child support and it will be court order has well. My kids dad are paying child support. When the baby born go file child support and they do dna test first and it says he the father which you know he is he will have to pay child support and that will help you out. I know you can do it. I been six year being a single mom and rest of my life I probably be. It might be hard for a little while but it get easier.

Answer 5

Take a deep breath and relax! Don't worry about what you can't change. I understand your fears and it may seem like it is impossible but all you need is a plan a support system and determination. For starters don't point blame of who fault it is wasted energy save all your energy for yourself and soon to be baby. Whatever money you have save. If you are working continue to do so until 2 weeks before your due date or whatever the doctor states. If by chance you aren't employed apply for state help just to get you on your feet. Young lady never solely depend on anyone taking care of you other than yourself. Life is not kind and in your situation it certainly isn't fair but life goes on. God never gives us more than we can handle I'm a firm believer in that. When you get a chance say this out loud today god granted me serenity to accept the things I can't change the strength to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference. Now start planning your future.

Answer 6

Take him to court. He can't just up and leave and think he is going to not have to pay. Too many women just let it slide. He HAS to support his child no matter what. Have the judge garnish his wages. Most states are doing this now to cut back on the amount of deadbeats. Don't let him get away with it.
BTW: It is not only HIS fault that you got pregnant. It takes two people to make a baby.

Answer 7

It's his fault? As for your future: get proof he's the father and get a child support order, then find a boyfriend who's good enough for you and your baby. If you don't feel your ready to be a mother you might want to consider adoption, but most children are better off with their natural mothers.

Try this link. It will give you information on raising children and child support.
http://www.thebeehive.org/Templates/Family/Level3NoRight.aspx?PageId=1.528.1477

Answer 8

I am sorry for you situation...but it's not "his" fault you got pregnant. It takes two. This is why it takes a mature adult to committ to a sexual relationship. I am sure you won't like my answer...but this is why you save sex for marriage. God wanted it that way for a reason. Whatever you end up deciding at least give the child a chance, whether it is adoption or having someone you know and trust help you with the child. Abortion is NEVER the answer.

Answer 9

First, he's a complete JERK!!! I think it's better that he left now, and not later. Now you know what type of man he is, a worthless one.
I know you can make it on your own, my sister got pregnant at 14, and had her baby six months shy of her 16th birthday. The babies father wasn't around, we guess because he was waiting for things to calm down because he didn't want to go jail because he was older than her, and she actually didn't admit to us it was him until later on. Anyway, a year or so after having the baby, she pressured him into getting married, and they moved to another state. He gave her a horrible life, treated her bad, physically and mentally abused her, until one day she had to leave, basically escape from him because he was going to kill her, we had to get her a plane ticket, and the story is long.
She went back to where they were living (he wasn't there anymore, his parents took him away, and they got divorced) and now she's living there on her own, with my nephew and she doing O.K. for herself, and she's only 18 and didn't finish high school.
Basically what I want to say is, if someone so young can make it on her own, I know you can. God sent you that little gift with a special purpose for your life. Be grateful and love your baby, it's a wonderful gift that was given to you.
There is also plenty of government assistance for single mothers.
Best of luck hun!!

Answer 10

It has been my experience in life if you do the right thing that God will bless you. He is giving you this child and you are responsible for being pregnant too. God promises to be a father to the fatherless so trust Him and have that baby. It will all work out. Don't abort it.