my mom always wants us to look like the perfect family (when in reality shes a phsychopath). we all have to be pretty and skinny and perfect and smart....im so sick of it!!
i broke my nose playing basketball a week ago....she asked the doctor if, while i had nose surgery, he could go ahead and give me a nosejob...i dont even have that big of a nose!! im only FOURTEEN!! BARELY!!
she so nicely pointed out to me yesterday that im the same size in jeans as my twenty year old sister and i shouldnt be (its only a size one for goodness sake!) she thinks just because my brother is 200 pounds i will be!
she bought me all two small clothes for christmas and i know she did it on purpose.
i cant even live in the same house with her anymore...she literally sickens me.because of her both of my sisters have had nosejobs.she makes everyone feel bad about themselves when all she does all day is sit on her butt. i cant do it anymore!! what do i do? this is during her downtime between breakdowns...
2007-12-26 12:11:49 · 11 answers · asked by karen 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
That's really bad. See if you can see a therapist to find out how to deal with this. If that isn't possible, see if there is a counselor at school that you can talk to about this.
2007-12-30 02:43:48 · answer #1 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Which thyroid condition do you have? Hyperthyroidism or hypothyroidism? I have hyperthyroidism and can tell you firsthand that this disorder causes depression symptoms not to mention the scare and heartache of knowing that you have it. But with proper meds and the condition being controlled properly, these symptoms should diminish. In extreme cases you might need an addtional anti-depressant but don't think this is something that you alone can control and your doctor should know better!!! Research the disorder and show the reasearch to your Mom. Chances are she doesn't understand it either and that's why she's acting like this. Education could be the key here. Good luck! Oh and by the way, unless you gave the doctor permission to tell your Mom the diagnosis, he broke a major law telling her!
2016-05-26 11:22:20 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw I'm sorry to hear that. Stay strong! Its unlikely at this point that your mom is going to change. I think the best thing you can do is talk to someone you trust about this. Your mom seems to need help...is she getting it? If she isnt, maybe you could talk to your dad or siblings about her behavior, and its effect on you. You should not feel so pressured about your appearance by people who are supposed to love you. Chin up. I know its hard enough to have good self esteem if you have someone you love being hard on you about it. Please go talk to someone about it if you ever feel blue, it would be awful to see you get a complex because your mom is putting so much pressure on you.
You're fourteen, so thats old enough to know what you want, and if a nose job is not it, then by no means agree to one. Its still your body and your mom cant make you have a nose job. If and when you get the courage, stand up to her when she criticizes you, and tell her you're fine just the way you are--because you are!!
Just try to stay strong until you can be on your own. Dont let her affect your self esteem!
2007-12-26 12:23:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. She is a controlling psychopath.
Can you talk to a counselor at school about it?
I hope you cans survive this relatively intact until
you can go away to college.
What does your dad think? Can he help?
Your whole family probably needs therapy.
What she needs is to be ignored when she behaves
badly and told her behaviour is unacceptable.
Like you would train a dog.
But tell her also that you are grateful for all the good
things she has done for you.
2007-12-26 13:47:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where is your dad? Is he unaware of all this? Or just in denial?
You mom is sick and needs help. And you sound like the sane one in this situation-don't let anything she does convince you otherwise.
Build a support structure around yourself. Friends, family, teachers.
Tell the doctor you do *not* want elective surgery and stand firm on it. 14 is old enough in most states to make that decision on your own.
Finally, if the situation gets too bad-get help. Talk to your school councillor or CPS. You have to take care of you and if the best way you can do that is by leaving, then do it. You aren't responsible for taking care of your mom or your family. Its bad enough that they aren't taking care of you!
2007-12-26 12:19:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, she has issues... what a terrible way to treat your kids..
I had a nose job at 15 - because I hated my nose.. my parents always told me aI was beautiful... rent " Spanglish: and tell her she is acting like that mother...
hang in there, in years to come you will begin to pity her more as you realize she has no self esteem and all her self worth is placed on how she looks to others and she must really have some self loathing going on...
you can not save her or change her... but you can react in a constructive manner for your own self esteem... see a counselor, at school church, or seek one out -- and go to it.. you are going to need it after years of her nonsense..
2007-12-26 12:19:14 · answer #6 · answered by astutewoman 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is your dad around at all or any other family member that you can turn to? Your mother sounds like one sick individual who needs alot of help. I feel so sorry for you that you don't have a mother that loves you unconditionally the way you are, sounds to me like she needs to work on herself not anyone else! If you don't have family to turn to maybe you can confide in a friend or school councelor but I think you should talk to someone who may be able to help you.
2007-12-26 12:20:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
lmao. i duno maybe get it if youll still look hot/ shes just a bit of an obsessovie phyco. we all ahve our issues. tell her no and that u dont wanna look like a plastic bit5h and that she can have fun returing the undersized todler clothes she bought u.
2007-12-26 12:59:01 · answer #8 · answered by sixxss 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
She's mental, but at least you're sane enough to know it. It might be time to tell her to shut the hell up.
2007-12-26 12:25:34 · answer #9 · answered by Lee Harvey Wallbanger 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
she is not fit to be a mother
2007-12-29 17:13:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋