If your parents suspect you're gay, but you haven't come out to them yet, what would you want them to do?

Question

Come right out & ask you? Or, just keep playing along?

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Answer 1

I'm not really sure, it's been so long since I was in the closet. I think mostly I would want them to ask me, or maybe hint to it and give me ample good opportunities to come out?

I know that when I was younger my maternal grandmother told my mother that she thought I might be gay, so I suppose my mom eventually suspected, but she never said anything to me. When I came out my family was very supportive.

However, if I had known that they suspected it, maybe coming out wouldn't have been as petrifying? It's easier when others start things for you.

Answer 2

Well if I was gay, I'd want them to ask. My parents suspected I was gay for a long time and I kept hinting because I couldn't work up the courage to tell them outright. If they had asked outright, I would have felt like it was okay to talk about instead of thinking that they didn't want to deal with it.

On the other hand if I weren't gay, I might be quite embarrassed by the question. I guess I'd advise you to do whatever you do very delicately and supportively, perhaps in a light-hearted manner so that they know it's not a big deal. They may not even know the answer yet, so don't push too hard for one. I'd say the best thing you can do is make it clear that you love them no matter what.

Answer 3

My parents are very closed minded when it comes to this so I would want them to just pretend that they didn't suspect a thing.
Now if I had more open minded parents I think I would want them to just be my parents and make me feel that I could tell them anything no matter how big or small.

Answer 4

First of all its not what you want them to do!!!!

Its what you want to do!!!

If your comfortable with yourself and you have a loving family then you should just tell them..

If your not gay and you suspect that they think you gay correct them its really that simple.

Its not a big thing !!!!!

As long as you have the right support circle GOOD LUCK

Answer 5

I've got one of my best buds over. He says he wishes his parents would have subtly showed open-mindedness to the idea, and given him opportunities to come out without fear of being rejected. He would not have liked them to come to him and ask him outright before he was ready to come out, but he would have liked to feel safe to come out when he WAS ready.

Instead, they took their suspisions along with their religious beliefs, and put up a wall, essentially, so that he never felt safe to come out.

Hope that helps!

Answer 6

If you're POSITIVE they suspect that you're gay, you should totally just come out to them before they ask you. It definitely puts you in a better position instead of one where they're just interrogating you and you're in a defensive position.

If you're NOT SURE, then just hope they play along and then forget about it.

Answer 7

I would want them to continue to love me that's all

Answer 8

I'd want them to ask so that it would make it easier for me to come out.

Answer 9

Keep it to yourself and give them a little more time to respect you.

Answer 10

i would hope she dis-regards the suspicion. my mom isn't exactly supportive of gays. i can only hope she doesn't find out till i leave home, cause she would go berserk!