do you ever have the feeling people laugh and ridicule you when your backs turned & howd you handle it ?

Question

if they were or if it was happening ?

in society its not generally accepted to get angry or aggressive so what are some other ways ?

i have borderline personality disorder to...but also ive met alot of antagonizing, patronizing people through life...the type, when your backs turned or your not around....they laugh and make jokes about you.

theres honestly been times when ive wanted to slap a person hard in the face and call them stupid, idiotic moron......but then, i get in trouble.

so i have to remain cunning and use guile but its hard when people are naturally provocating and insulting.

what is your opinion and how would you deal with such situations ?

especially when your not around to defend yourself

Answer 1

Unfortunately you are describing very typical human behaviour and your response is quite normal, wanting to hit back. If it helps, the only thing I can say is that you are not the only one that experiences this type of behaviour. In a working environment you will notice that there is always a dominant character that attracks the most attention and sways peoples opinion. One person leads and the rest follow like sheep. In a single office different people will be targeted at random, not because they're bad but simply because they can be targeted. I think it makes other people feel better about themselves and thankful that it's not their turn yet.

Answer 2

I had quite a bad year last year, and so i was constantly on guard as my "friends" would take everything i did/said and make it into the funniest thing on the planet, well it was funny for them anyway. I couldn't help but get a bit paranoid when the people i was with a lot of the time were out to get me, and so as i knew they were laughing about me behind my back, i thought everyone else was.

Now, however, I've kinda realised that, 1) I don't actually care what people think of me that much anymore, it isn't ruining my life or anything, and 2) most people actually aren't talking about me behind my back, and i look like a total prat if i get the wrong end of the stick.

My advice to you would be don't let what others might or might not be doing/saying rule and ruin your life. Who cares, they obviously haven't got a life if all they can do is laugh at other people. They will be more annoyed if you completely ignore it, because then their little stupid plan to wind you up has failed!

Good luck!! x

Answer 3

I don't spend a lot of my life worrying about other people's thoughts about me. Look at it this way, are they worth impressing in the first place, are they responsible for me getting and keeping a job, do they put a roof over my head and clothes on my back? If the answer to all of these is no,then they figure pretty low on my radar. It's even worse if they openly dislike me without knowing me, my response is always " Take a number and join the line". Life is short to waste on small minded people, it's a big wide world and when you don't fit in one place you'll fit somewhere else. Getting all angry and worked up when someone gets you upset is giving them control over your moods, and isn't it pretty silly to give someone you consider idiotic control over your state of mind?
I really don't spend too much time justifying myself to others either. If someone hears something, come and ask me I'll tell you the truth. Gossiping I hate. The truth always comes out and in the mean time you get to see what people are really made of. As long as you can tell when someone is just being a pain in the you know where and it's not your perception because of your disorder, why bother?

Answer 4

Sadly it happens all the time in College,at least the things i've heard,we all do it to each other whether intentionally or not,I figure if the students do it to everyone else there they must also do it about me when i'm not around.And yeah sometimes it hurts and kind of makes me angry.But at the end of the day,why should I care?
The people I become good friends with arn't going to be gossiping and talking behind my back and those that arn't...well screw them,why should I care what they think?
Besides as long as I don't have to hear it it doesn't bother me.

Basically what i'm saying is you shouldn't care what other people say or think,because you're not the only one they're talking about.
It's best to be yourself and feel comfortable with yourself then worry about what others say or think,because at the end of the day it's your life,how you choose to live it is nobody's business but your own,if you spend your life trying to live up to others expectations,you'll waste your life not living at all.Just ignore them and what they say behind your back,it's not important.

Answer 5

You shouldnt ever care what others say for you. If you have a high amount of respect for yourself then you will get a long way in life. I know some things people say can be hurtful but its because they are jelous of who you are and who youve become. I wouldnt worry about what others say at all just be yourself and everything will turn out ok in the end!!

Answer 6

What evidence do you have that this is happening? Or is it a symptom of your paranoia?

If in fact it is true then ask yourself why? Is it the way you speak to people? Or look at people? Or react to people?
What I am getting at is what part do you play in all of this.
Nothing happens without reason.

If it's because of your reactions - you must be aware that the more you react and carry on - the more people will get stuck into you. The simple thing to do is stop reacting.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

If you act different, people will pick on you and laugh. That is a fact of life if you let it bother you, you can go crazy. The more you show you are offended but do not let them know you will not stand then it will continue.

Answer 9

the problem with people is that we all have a weakness. GOSSIP. that is what poeple thrive on. even your own best friend WILL stab you in the back at one point or another, so my advice to you is that instead of stressing yourself, always allow room for disappointment that way you wont get emotional about it.

Answer 10

Christians have been persecuted all their lives, much worse that you descibed, to be honest..but much alike...in olden days, they were fed to the lions, because of their beliefs...even today, satan has gotten so desparate, that Christains worldwide, are constantly being abused, lied on, attacked, murdered, and abused for their simple beliefs...they are laughed at, beat down, hated among nations..but they can perservere, because they have the one thing to keep them going and that is the promise that God and Jesus will interviene and those that endure, will live to see the results of their loyalty..their faith, and strong convicions,