my friend hates the way i talk, what music i listen to, my face, what i wear, how i think. should i just change myself and dump her and what should i say to her?
2007-12-26 11:05:53 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell her that she is NOT the boss of me.OK....Lets say her name is....Ashley.Say this.
"Ashley u r not the boss of me,if u don't like the way I dress,or act,or anything,then why did u even become my friend?You need to get a life a stop dissing on me.All you want is attention,thats all u ever want.OK?I can't take this anymore I am not ur friend anymore because I'm not changing just because u say so.If u don't like that,then thats ur problem k?I don't even like u anyway,u have the ugliest little head I've EVER seen"
Say that and trust me things will be....ok!Just don't be her friend.
2007-12-27 04:55:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is what I think about a friend's advice. Take what you feel is right and throw out the rest. If your friend can't accept that you are happy just the way you are, then it is time to throw out the firend. It's not that you need to dump the friend, it's just that you need to fill up your time with supportive friends. The good will naturally push out the bad. In the end, you must ask yourself, why do I keep around a friend that hates everything about me. . .
2007-12-26 11:13:14 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly Jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that friend of urs is not ur real friend. but tell her nicely that i really like u and all but i can't stand u trying to change me, cause that'll never happen and if u cant accept me the way i am i dont need u.
hang out with ur other friends and make new better friends!!!
2007-12-26 11:15:51 · answer #3 · answered by lalalalala 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is telling you that kind of stuff then she needs to stop being so vain! Dont change anything about yourself. You are how you are and DONT EVER change that. It sounds like you need to find a new friend.
How to do it.
If she has been saying that stuff to your face then you need to confront her and tell her how you really feel.
If she just hints at it then you could hint back that you think she is stuck up and just start ignoring her.
2007-12-26 11:12:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
omygosh dump her. You should never have to change that much for a friend, if she doesnt like you the way you are then you don't need her.
2007-12-26 11:20:22 · answer #5 · answered by Arielle T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well thats not a good friend. a good freind is someone who likes you for who you are.... you should never change for anyone~ unless its advice to make you a better(nicer) person. not like someone else wants you to be....i wouldnt nescessarily dump her... i would tell her she shouldnt tell you to be who you are. YOU define yourself. thats what life is, finding who yo uare, not having someone else find you... i went through the same thing. and talking about it made it better, and i realized who i am =]
2007-12-27 12:14:10 · answer #6 · answered by Maggie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friends accept each other for who they are. yeah, of course when they see something wrong in a friend, they would tell them, but this is going way too far! when my friends see something wrong in me, it's usually something that is harmful to me or someone else and they talk to me about it, but when someone is just picking things to make wrong in me, it's cause they're scared to see the wrong in themselves. talk to her and tell her how you feel and if she doesn't listen, then you need to distance yourself from her. but don't change...you are who you are :)
2007-12-26 11:12:59 · answer #7 · answered by blessedmarie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should never have change ourself for anyone. Shes not your friend so move on and find some real friends.
2007-12-26 11:12:33 · answer #8 · answered by luvcaramel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesnt sound like a freind hun. A freind does change you to be them. They care for you because of who you are. I say Pick a new freind
2007-12-26 11:10:25 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her how you feel, and it sounds like shes not really that great of a friend, so tell her the truth if shes a real friend, she'll understand
good luck!
2007-12-26 11:12:15 · answer #10 · answered by illypie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋