"Hypothetically," lets say your husband worked with a girl. Right? And you've caught your husband in multiple lies when it comes to this "girl." You've never had any evidence that suggests physical cheating, but just random pointless lies. You've confronted him with his lies, and he becomes defensive, calls you controlling, and continues to lie as you continue to catch him. As a wife, what would you do? Would you do everything you could to keep this girl away from your husband? And... would you agree that the only reason people lie is when there's something to cover up? Why lie if he's doing nothing wrong? What is your opinion... If you were this wife, what would you do??
2007-12-26 10:31:46 · 22 answers · asked by Stefanie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
okay well i read this twice and had the same feelings. My feelings are this.................
If you have something to cover up then you are hiding something , yes!
My opinion is if i was the wife, I would tell him to be honest and tell me the truth about her and IF NOT that I would go to her myself and ask questions of her. I would demand answers and not stop until I have all the crap out on the table infront of me without lies! That is what I would do. Enough games are being played here and with him being caught in so many lies, and no answers, I would stick it out long enof to get the truth even if it bothered me to no end. I would have that right to be treated with dignity for heaven sakes. I have been played by a man who lied and lied and lied. Finally I broke it off and he is still lying about his lies LMAO! Sometimes people just don't know when to stop.
Good luck
2007-12-26 10:39:08 · answer #1 · answered by MOM OF ONE 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would be upset too. If it was about nothing then why lie? But I've also found that men think if they tell the truth we'll get mad so they lie as a way to solve the problem and keep the commotion down. They don't realize that we always find out the truth and that it makes us forever suspicious. Now your guard is up, and rightfully so, I'd just keep a tab on the calls this Amy and he have - times of day - weekends, etc. I don't get the vibe that he's cheating, but still, a lie is a lie.
2016-05-26 10:38:45 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever happened to trusting your partner? Lying does not necessarily mean he has something to cover up. Perhaps he simply feels you are over reacting and blowing things out of proportion. Maybe his defensiveness is a way to preserve a tiny bit of privacy on his part. Why does the wife feel threatened? If she does not believe there is anything physical going on? Maybe it is an innocent flirtation....LOTS of married people flirt, men and women, does not mean they have any intention of cheating. If I were the wife, I would back off. If she is secure with her marriage, she has no reason to feel threatened or 'do everything she could to keep this girl away from her husband.' Often times, acting negatively against a potential threat has exactly the opposite effect. If he's going to cheat with her, there is nothing on the planet you can do to stop him. They will find a way around it.
2007-12-26 10:44:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yes keep girl away. Can only lead to something bad. As to lying, sometimes people lie not necessarily because something that your fearing the worse is going on, but to avoid the appearance that something such as cheating is going on. However, the mere fact that you have had to ask your husband numerous times about he and this "girl" and the fact he has lied numerous time, tells me something is not right there. Get a private investigator or watch him
2007-12-26 11:27:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Call him out on it.
If nothing was going on then he wouldn't have any reason to lie about anything involving her period.
If there wasn't anything going on or any feelings attached to her then he would be 100% honest with you.
My fiance has some female friends and he tells me everything without me even having to ask.
Your husband is hiding something.
2007-12-26 10:35:31 · answer #5 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If there was nothing to lie about then he would not do so. I would make a request of him to leave this woman out of his life. If he does not follow through on the request hire a private investigator to put your mind at ease. The torture of wondering all the time makes it worse. A significant other needs to make you feel safe, sane and secure. He is doing none of those by telling lies.
2007-12-26 10:38:59 · answer #6 · answered by pamperdiva03 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am actually going through the same thing but my fiance is talking to them on the computer. Anyways just let him know how you feel because you are right if he wasn't doing anything than he would not have to lie to you and you know that is what makes it so hard because now you can't believe anything he says. As far as the girl goes you need to tell him if keeps talking to her than you will disappear. but remember they do work together.
2007-12-26 11:57:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i don't think i'd try to keep them apart because the more you try, the more they may try to get around it. i think i'd kind of watch them for a while and make sure what you're thinking is happening, really is.while i don't believe that cover up is the only reason people lie but in this case it all sounds a little fishy. it could be nothing and he just feels guilty about having her as a friend but you know him best.
2007-12-26 10:39:10 · answer #8 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your right there is no sense in lying if there is nothing going on. I hate when someone lies to you. I think you need to get creative. Make special trips to his job site, like show up with lunch for him. Does the girl know that he is married? Is so you may want to confront her also. See if stories match.
2007-12-26 10:40:35 · answer #9 · answered by Viking Fan 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Even if you try and stop him from being or seeing the girl hes going to go to her and be with her and why would he lie? answer because hes cheating on you it sounds like it and to save you from pain later its best if you divorce him and get him over with
OR you could keep him do what your doing now and have a husband with 2 wifes! hes prolly done things too......!
2007-12-26 10:38:04 · answer #10 · answered by <3 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋