Have you forgiven someone for cheating on you?

Question

What made you stay?

Answer 1

No, I haven't ever forgiven anyone, and I'm no planning to do it.

A person will stay if the person has low self esteem, using something like kids as an excuse to stay, in rality, they belive they can't find someone better than what they have, or that outside they wont be able to stand by themselves. A person that can't live by themselves, is someone who depends on someone, has a provider, and for being a provider most likey has rules, and that makes him in somehow, a dictator or a verbal/emotional abuser, hopefully not phisical. If he is an abuser of any kind, the other person is a victim, and a victim has low self-esteem, that's why the person stays, because of the low self esteem. If her self esteem was higher, would be able to move forward in life by themselves and wont have any need to have a cheater close to her/his children, because will be able to raise them on her/his own. If the person self esteem is low, well, a cheater will do fine, what else do you have in your life if you can't be stronger?.

A low self-esteem is what makes a person stay.

Answer 2

I have forgiven someone for cheating on me, but it is ten years after the fact and I broke up with him a long time ago. So no, I didn't stay with him but I did end up forgiving him, although I would never have another relationship with him.

Answer 3

I have forgiven.. but I didn't stay.
I believe that cheating is a sign of lack of respect and lack of love. I wasn't important enough or good enough for him obviously if he had to go out and do things with other women. It didn't make sense to me because we were dating for so long and I was making more money then him, giving him all of the things he wanted and needed material wise and our sex life was great. We argued a lot because he went out and did his own thing without even telling me and always turned his phone off which was disrespect towards me.
So, when I found out for sure that he was cheating I left his sorry a**. I'm thankful because I am now engaged to an amazing, caring, loving, sensitive, sexy, fun guy and couldn't be happier.
I did forgive that a**hole but have never forgotten the pain he caused. I don't associate with him anymore, it's his loss.

Answer 4

well...I am trying. For details you can find the one question I have asked on here. It's hard to do, even if they have showed a lack of respect for you, you should at least try weather you are still together or not.

I stayed in the relationship, I convinced myself to stay and give her another shot. Still don't trust her, and I fight the battle with myself to stay or leave every day. She has no Idea how deeply wounded I am. I am the type that shows no weakness. It is just my mindset. The whole "never let em see you sweat" thing. Yeah i try to avoid entertaining those thoughts of what she did, but I love her and I love my kids. They are really all I have. I know that life is easier to handle when you dont have others to care for, I have no idea where i was fixing to go with that. Anywho, dont let them make themselves the victim! Once you get in someones pocket it is hard as hell to get out.

Answer 5

I was cheated on by my ex-wife with a close friend. I had cheated a year before, but everytime she and I fought she was running off, so who knows if I was really the first to cheat? I stayed to work on a marriage that had kids. My parents divorced when I was 6. We lasted another five years after she cheated, but it would have been smart to have left then. It was bad for the whole family.
But a year after that she pulled my kids for 3 years (starte seeing them again when she moved back to town), so no. I hate her for cheating and much more, but I get along now for the kids sake.

Answer 6

Yes, He wasn't my husband, but I have forgiven someone for cheating. In fact, I really never thought it about it much afterward. I guess I just accepted it as something that happened and it was over. I loved him and didn't want to be without him.

Answer 7

The guy that I am currently with this is our third go round and he cheated on me and everytime I seem to take him back but not only because I love him but because I am in love with him it is harder to get rid of someone if you are in love with them and it hurts as well. But it is up to you rather you stay or go. I finally left but I keep coming back because everytime I think I am over him he comes back around and I realize that I am still in love with him even if it has been years so just follow your heart girl.

Answer 8

Some people Say "they forgive" , but it's the "Never being able to Forget", that gets to you !!! It's just the Nature of The Beast. I don't think Anyone should "Stay for the Kids". Kids know Way More than Parents give them credit for. Trust Me !!
Good Luck !!!

Answer 9

basically there is forgivness but you should never forget! I wouldnt personally take them back for while because of the fact that if i was cheated on that i obvisouly wasnt giving them what they needed. tell them to eff on, or tell them to get down and fi they really want to be with you. BEG !

Answer 10

NEVER i believe if someones cheats then the respect and faith and trust has entirely gone and you can never trust them ever again - if they loved you they wouldnt hurt you like that and obviously the relationship isnt what they want or they wouldnt have cheated. full stop.