I asked a while back, and counseling was the best logical answer. well now we are trying that and of course he really does not want to be there, and is not shy in saying that. I'm kind of scared cause I can't afford to be on my own with kids yet. considering he depleted my savings account for his hunting trip. he has said that he pretty much wants me home 24/7 to be there for him and the kids! NO FRIENDS ALLOWED!!!!!!! what is up with that. the counselor has not told me everything he has told my husband in private session, but in so many words it is all my fault. any other suggestions????
2007-12-26 09:59:51 · 6 answers · asked by lilyjo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you're not happy in your situation, which to me it sounds like you're not. Please write down all the terrible things that you think might happen if you leave this situation. Write down all your fears and all your doubts and really look at them. If you look at the situation at what it is - that you're not happy and you want to be because it's your right and your privilege as a human being, then you will know that the only thing you have to fear is fear itself. Counseling can do so much until you have to look deep within and find the answer. Take some time for yourself, no matter how impossible you think it will be and get on a path you want to be on - the path to bliss. Good luck.
2007-12-26 10:11:22 · answer #1 · answered by whatif 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From experience counselor's don't lay blame on one or the other spouse in these situations. They would defeat themselves, and you, if they did so. They often have group and individual sessions to get at the real issues, and to suggest alternate ways of dealing with conflict etc. I think you should ask your counselor what the hope is for you being able to resolve your differences and what changes both you and your husband should make in order to do so. If your husband then refuses to try to make changes you can consider that he doesn't want the marriage to work.
He will have to provide assistance to you and your children should you separate until you can find employment.
2007-12-26 18:07:52 · answer #2 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not satisfied with the councelor you are with then change to another one. A woman. If that doesn't work then tell your Hubby that you are going to leave if he doesn't straighten up. Demand fairness. If he is alloud to go out with friends then you are too, if he hangs around the house with buddies then you do too. If he gets mad then tell him he doesn't like himself very much because you are doing what he is doing.
2007-12-26 18:10:57 · answer #3 · answered by Karen A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's time to move in with your parents. He sounds very controlling. True, divorce sucks for kids but your happiness means the world.
2007-12-26 18:05:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not all your fault it takes two people to make a problem. And for counseling it will never work if his not willing to participate and make an effort of it
2007-12-26 19:00:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd rebuild the account, put it in my name only and then split. And he can cry to any counselor he wants about that for all I care.
2007-12-26 18:07:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋