I have two best friends and I don't know what to do about the maid of honor position.
My friend Cory and I have been friends for six years now and we have more in common then anyone I have ever known. She has never intentionally or unintentually screwed me over and she rocks ... the problem is I have another best friend named Sarah.
Sarah and I have been friends for 11 years and she is practiacally part of my family. But when she got married she hid it from me for about two weeks (they eloped and are now divorced) and before that when we were in High School, she had sex with my then boyfriend. Although her and I have had issues in the past she remains to be my good friend. I know that Sarah will be hurt if I do not ask her to be my maid of honor but I really don't feel she deserves the position and would perfer that Cory was the Maid of Honor ... what is everyone's opinion on what I should do.
2007-12-26 09:57:36 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I would definatley choose your friend Cory. She has never done anything to hurt you, and it would probably hurt her if you didnt choose her because shes been such a great friend. Sarah sounds like she doesn't deserve it. If she would do something like have sex with your boyfriend, there is no way you can really mean that much to her. Cory definatley sounds like the best choice here. Just explain to Sarah why she didnt get the position. She should understand why shes not the maid of honor after everything shes done. I mean at least she will be included in the wedding, even though she hid hers from you! I hope i helped!! =) Good Luck!!
2007-12-26 10:02:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would go with Cory. You said it... Cory has earned the title.
Of course Sarah will be hurt and likely expects that since she has known you longer that she deserves the honor... but as you've pointed out she's not been the best of friends to you. She will get over it... and if she doesn't then you needed to cut ties with her anyway. She sounds pretty self involved.
EDIT: As for the person suggesting that you have a "matron" and a "maid" of honor... that's not what those titles are meant for. You call your MOH "matron or maid" depending on whether she is married... not to have two separate titles.
2007-12-26 10:04:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The choice is your because it is your day. Do not let anyone ruin it. My sister couldn't chose between me or her best friend. I was her matron of honor and her bf was her maid of honor. I held the flowers when she got married and stood next to her. It is just a title. You could have Sarah be the matron of honor and have Cory the maid of honor and have cory stand next to you and have more responsibility and let Sarah have the title of maid of honor.
***To Green eyes, I know what the maid and matron of honor difference is. I am married and my sisters best friend is not. I meant that it is a nice way to have two people honored. han way they both feel like they are your something of honor. My sister did it to not hurt her friends feelings. I was merely suggesting that since there is a married frined and a non married friend you can use the two different titles, have basically two maids of honors and give the one less responsibility like my sister did.
2007-12-26 10:03:20 · answer #3 · answered by rnfast2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You told your sister, and I'm assuming when your best friend told you that you said you'd be there. So you should go to your best friends and your sister (and your mom) will just have to deal. Your sister should hav emade sure that the most important people could make it before selecting a date. She knew you had a previous engagement so that's her fault. Some people are amazingly selfish when it comes to weddings thinking the world revolves around them and that people should just make it happen. I'd say regardless of who you are closer to you should go to the one who set a date first. The fact that she's the one you'd also rather go to makes it that much more of the right decision. Tell your sister now that you did inform her and that she chose that date anyway so you can't make it. You could maybe try to go to things with her (like dress fittings) and the rehersal dinner maybe but if she's bitchy about it i wouldn't even do those.
2016-05-26 10:27:49 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The choice is yours and no one elses. When one of my best friends got married, she picked a girl that she barely met in college to be her maid of honor (I've known her since 7th grade). I felt a little hurt but I got over it after a day because it's her wedding! For mine I picked my sister, so no friends. Don't worry about others, it's YOUR wedding.
2007-12-26 10:02:28 · answer #5 · answered by PYT 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tradition sucks. Two maids of honor.
I'm making all of my groomsmen best men. And were all going to stand on the same level. Not on steps like rankings.
2007-12-26 10:01:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
u should choose Cory as if u don't must hurt her. but ask her before whether she is interested or not. otherwise choose other right person . i think must not hv problem in doing that, its Ur marriage all should be done acc. to Ur wishes.
congrats,
take care.
2007-12-26 16:51:36 · answer #7 · answered by Lonely heart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should ask the person you want, Cory, to be your MOH. How Sarah reacts to your decision is her problem, not yours. Good luck, and congratulations.
2007-12-26 10:02:28 · answer #8 · answered by eldots53 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think for the sake of arguing that its your wedding and who cares what others think. If you like one more then the other, then choose that one. It's your special day and it should be stress free and you should be happy. Go with your heart.
Best of luck and Congratulations!!!
2007-12-26 10:12:10 · answer #9 · answered by luvae3187 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was going to say do the one you've known longer...
But know I say Cory because she is better
2007-12-26 10:02:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋