Just found out 2 days ago I was preggo, im 23, Im not married but I have been with my b/f for several years, and we have known we are going to get married just havent planned out when. He knows and is being supportive, not freaking out or anything. We haent told anybody, b/c we know our parents are going to freak out b/c we arent married or anything. I havent planned a trip to the dr yet b/c i dont have insurance. Im not real sure how to tell my parents, and im not sure what to do about the no insurance thing. I would also like to know how other people who werent expecting it reacted b/c I know any thoughts of the accual baby really kinda freak me out. Im not really exicted and i feel like i should be. any advise?
2007-12-26 09:53:23 · 14 answers · asked by Landon's Mommy! 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Hi, I just found out I was pregnant 9 days ago and boy I have a lot of the same feelings you do. The first couple of days I wasn't sure if I was excited either, more than anything I was freaked out and It took a few days to actually sink in. I mean I'm still questioning the results. I have taken 7 home pregnancy test and they have all been positive. After the 4th one I made an appointment with my Doc but it's not until Jan 7th so for now I'm still going crazy, I don't know if I should start getting excited or lay low, so far my B/F and I are not telling anyone. If I were you since you have no insurance you should go to your local planned parenthood they normally work a good deal with you. Once you do that and know for sure then it will probably be easier to think of a way to tell your parents. I'm 25 and I live with my Boyfriend of 2 years and even though I'm old enough I'm still absolutly terrified to tell my parents too. I guess I'm just afraid that they will be disspointed with me for some reason.
Believe me in just over a week of me knowing I have gone through tons of emotions and things that I felt when I first found out are not at all what I am thinking now. I first questioned myself as to if I want all this and if I'm ready for all of this.... Now I can't say that I'm ready but I know that I do want it, and just that idea of wanting all this is what is starting to excite me. Even knowing that my B/F want's it too makes me feel alot better about it all. It looks like you and I are in the same boat so if you need to talk about anything email me at jennaonna2000@yahoo.com.
It's not easy for me (mentally) but I'm hoping it will and I'm hoping it will all get easier for you as time progresses. It's just all a shock right now but I think it's gonna be great. CONGRAT and be happy :-)
2007-12-26 10:24:55 · answer #1 · answered by jennaonna2000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would see if there is a social worker to talk to in your area. You can find them at hospitals, or any community agencies to get set up with some sort of insurance. A baby is a big responsibility and I can see why you feel so overwhelmed. It's great that your boyfriend is being supportive. You will need a lot of support to get through this. But just give it time and tell your parents. This may make you feel a lot better. You are 23 years old its not like you're a minor. When your pregnancy gets further along and you start experiencing the kicking and the movements, you'll be so enthused. Good Luck and Congratulations on everything.
2007-12-26 18:09:07 · answer #2 · answered by angenico5920 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have insurance, apply for medical assistance. Almost all pregnant women are eligible if there is no insurance available to you and your income isn't too terribly high. Even if you think you make too much money, apply anyway. Since you and bf aren't married, his income probably won't factor in. Schedule your doc appointment in the meantime. They will probably want to see you for the first time when you are around 8-10 weeks (dated from your last monthly period). Once you are approved for medical assistance, it will retro-pay up to 3 months for any pregnancy related doc visits. Tell your doc you have an application in process and they will not make you pay up front, they will send a bill.
As for the parents, they might freak out a little, but that's their problem, not yours. The world is changing and there are MANY couples who have babies when they are not married or before they get married. It doesn't make you a bad person, it doesn't mean your bf is any less committed to you if you know what is in each other's hearts.
You're an adult who has made your own decisions, and your parents might not like it, but you aren't a child anymore. They will get used to the idea. And once that baby is here, how can they stay mad?
Good luck, and congrats!
2007-12-26 18:01:26 · answer #3 · answered by Take A Test! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am also 23 and I have 2 children. My husband and I got married while I was pregnant with our daughter. We were not sure how to tell people at first, but everyone was very supportive. As far as insurance, check with your state to see if they could cover the cost for you. For example, NC has a baby love program and they provide you with medicaid which covers all of your pregnancy related DR visits, the delivery, and the postpartum check-up. Other states offer a variety of programs similar to this one.
Don't stress out just yet... the delivery is a long ways off... just be sure to take a pre-natal vitamin every day with the pregnancy to ensure good development. As long as you are taking care of yourself then you do not have to rush to the doctor. My first appt with my 2nd child was not until I was 12 weeks pregnant because the DR had so many patients.
You will become more excited as the pregnancy continues... usually after morning sickness has passed....lol.
2007-12-26 18:39:11 · answer #4 · answered by Chris_nw 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't get excited until I felt my son move, then it hit me, and how could I not get excited. Getting pregnant when it's not planned is always stressful. But if more people were honest they'd tell you a VERY high percentage of pregnancy's are a suprise! If you really are going to get married why not just do it now, you can always have a big ceremony later, like on your first or fifth anniversary. Does he have insurance, if so that will take care of that! There are free clinics everywhere, find one, get a check up, take care of you and your baby first, worry about the rest later.
2007-12-26 18:23:46 · answer #5 · answered by velvetca1972 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As far as the no insurance part, you should be able to go to your local social services office and apply for medicaid. You should be accepted because you are pregnant.
Right about now, you may just be going throught a little bit of denial and that's why you feel the way you do about your unexpected pregnancy. Add on to it that you are kinda scared to tell your parents that you are expecting because you are not married could worry anyone who has parents that feel this way and you don't want to be an upset in their eyes. When it all boils down to it, it's about what you want and how you feel you should tackle the situation. When I got pregnant unexpectedly, I was a wreck and worried also, but I also knew that despite what my family, friends, and anyone else had to say about it, I had to do what I felt was right in my heart and not theirs. Give it some time, the pregnancy may grow on you, and when you realize that you have this defenseless little person growing inside you, it's not going to matter what anyone says because your focus will be on protecting you precious little one.
Many blessings to you and your b/f, and remember, you are not the only one this has happened to and things will eventually work out!
2007-12-26 18:10:19 · answer #6 · answered by BRIDGETTE R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are 23 years old and pregnant how exiting its ganna be fine its okay if ur not married its good that u been with ur mAN that long ur parents have to understand ur a aldult now and ur ganna give them a grandchild soon they will be happy with that
my sister was 17 when she first found out taht she was pregant with my now 1/12 year old niece she was not married then and they understood
go to the doctor and try hard to get insuance keep fighting to get it ur ganna need it
everyone gets scared at the bagining but u might not be exited but wait till the baby gets bigger and u get to feel it move and see it for the first itme is great
please what ever u do take care of it might be little now but ull see in a few months ill change ur life being a mom is great
well i hope i helped u out a little
take care
2007-12-26 18:16:14 · answer #7 · answered by One Lov3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get on state help and to the doctor right away. Good prenatal care is very important. As for your parents, you are old enough to make up your own mind......hope your boyfriend stays around....
2007-12-26 18:01:22 · answer #8 · answered by deb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
congrats.... dont stress thats bad for you and your baby but there are several ways of getting insurance while pregnant you arent married and if you arent making much money if you are working then you could possibly get medicaid
2007-12-26 18:00:34 · answer #9 · answered by mirnmirc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a job? Because if you don't you need to get one. I would sign up for some type of insurance, like what your parents have or whatever.
2007-12-26 17:59:51 · answer #10 · answered by Golf Fanatic 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋