I have been married for 4 years now but we have been together for almost 10 years. l've never been with another man. Lately, i have been thinking of having sex with another man. just once. and cant stop thinking about it. is it an abnormal behaviour?
2007-12-26 09:41:11 · 39 answers · asked by Michinha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it's normal, after a while you get in a routine and wonder if it would be different.
I was in the same situation as you, after a few years of marriage with my first and only love, I couldn't help wondering if it would be different with another man. I'm on husband #2 now (I got a divorce from #1for other reasons than that, I didn't cheat on him and wouldn't advise you to!!), the act itself isn't that different, it's your feelings for the man that make it different.
Men do that all the time, they go to strip clubs, etc... We women feel guilty about having fantasies, it shoudln't be so :-(
2007-12-26 09:50:50 · answer #1 · answered by S007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's abnormal to think of other men, but just don't do anything stupid to jeopardize your relationship. After about four years of commitment this is where the relationship gets put to the test (not that I've ever been married). To make a marriage last both partners can't just put in 50% of the effort in. Both need to put in 75%. How committed to your husband are you really? Who do you have real feelings for? Like I said before, don't do anything stupid.
2007-12-26 10:02:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I have been married for ten years and together for 12. It is normal human nature to be attracted to other people. There have been times I have wanted to have sex with someone, but I think about all the drama it would cause and if you are really ready for that. Buy a rabbit!
2007-12-26 09:45:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, it's not abnormal, most of us wonder what it would be like with someone else. you just have to ask yourself some serious questions like; what if you did & you were found out? is it worth losing your marriage for an experiment? instead of letting the idea dominate your thoughts, why don't you use that energy to think of ways of spicing up your marriage? we all get comfy in our relationships, so they can get a bit stale. put some zing back, surprise hubby, & you'll soon stop wondering about the performance of others! hope it helps, diane.
2007-12-26 20:48:15 · answer #4 · answered by diquarry 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok...Psychological Abnormal Behaviour are:Neurosis,Paranoia...etc...
Now if you wish to have sex with other than your own husband,means that probably you wish to experience something different from your routine and that is not happening right now.
A good way to fix the problem is to go talk about your needs and fantasies with your husband.
2007-12-27 01:59:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not abnormal but please, please don't do it.
It's like drinking kinda, you have one, you want to go again and again.
Think of what would be the consequences of it coming out. Think what would happen if you got attached/fell in love.
Find some sex games. Meet up in a hotel bar, as if you didn't know each other then go to a room and make mad, passionate love as if it's with someone else that you just met.
Please think long and hard before doing anything rash.
♥.
2007-12-26 10:00:36 · answer #6 · answered by Paula R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You chose to remain a virgin until marriage...I commend you for this effort...however, now you are talking about thinking of having a sexual encounter with another...as long as this remains a fantasy and you do not act on it there is not harm..be very careful if you actually are thinking about breaking your marriage vows....one had time for this sort of activity prior to the marriage...please don't destroy your marriage because you think the grass may be greener on the other side of the fence...the grass is never greener...just different grass.....GOD BLESS and make decisions carefully
2007-12-26 09:45:39 · answer #7 · answered by sunbun 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok you have been with this guy for 10 years. you obviously love him! just because you have had these thoughts doesnt mean that you love him any less. why is it any different for a women to have fantasies when there are so many men out there who fantasize over women whilst they are in relationships? it is perfectly fine nothing to worry about as long as you dont go and actually do anything that would result in the end of your relationship you are fine. it is healthy to have some fanaties and sometimes its even fun to share them with your partner!!
2007-12-26 10:53:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not abnormal to have the fantasy, but it would never be worth destroying the marriage that you have for one time with someone else. Love is too hard to find to loose it that easily.
2007-12-26 09:49:05 · answer #9 · answered by Danny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not abnormal to be thinking about it. Just make sure it stays in your head and try to inject some passion back into your marriage.
2007-12-26 10:47:18 · answer #10 · answered by Sparklepop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋