how to get out of a relationship?

Question

was in this relationship for 7 years now have a child together through the relationship I was really pushing for it I accepted all the BS he gave and was not being apperciated at all. 1 year ago on x-mas I found out he was sort of cheating just telling a coworker how he wanted to be with her and they would talk on the phone and text for hours I just thought it was a problem on the phone bill never thought he was cheating but he was. now the tables have turned Im no longer in love with him!!! I want to just be friends and date other people but I believe since he is shy he hasn't meet anyone else so he is really beginning to stress me out by calling 1000 x a day saying he loves me and we should be together but im done with him im just no longer attracted and in love with him. how should I deal with him he is really stressing me out .ps. we have a child together but I believe we can raise her well and not be a couple

ive told him this already he keeps saying it can work but my mind is made up

Answer 1

Poor child. She doesn't have much of a chance.

Answer 2

Some people have open marriages but he doesn't seem the type that could handle it. So why did you fall out of love, because you found out he was cheating or this would have happened anyway? Do you think counseling would help? It will be really hard on the little one, divorce is never good unless there is domestic abuse or drug use (that affects the parents judgment and care to child). I would say avoid divorce at all costs.

Answer 3

Move out and move on. I would change your phone service to show a "private phone number" when you call him...that way he cant call you anymore. I think you can arrange this with your phone company, they will need to change your number also. Stop answering his calls, and confirm with him ONE LAST TIME that you no longer want a relationship with him, that you only want to be friends for the sake of your daughter, and that you will not answer his calls or texts anymore. Say no more, you probably have already given him tons of reasons why you dont want to be together.

If he persists, call the cops and get a restraining order.

Answer 4

Unfortunately he's going to learn the hard way what happens when a woman's fed up. Now in days, people take their partner for granted and don't realize what they have until its gone. He didn't care when you were there and hurting b/c he was possibly cheating on you. He cares now that you don't care and your beginning to move on without him. Personally, I don't think you should sacrifice your happiness for him, as you can see, he wouldn't either. As long as you two act maturely in front of your child, everything should be fine. Don't fight or scream in front of the child. You have to look at it like this......If he had a girlfriend or someone he was sleeping with, would he be bothering you now? No he wouldn't. As far as leaving him goes, he should've known the consequences before doing what he did, therefore he got rid of himself. Look at it like that.

Answer 5

First if he cared he wouldn't have cheated, and he wouldn't be trying to push you into a relationship that you don't want now. Be firm and stand your ground. If you have to, cut off all contact for a while. You're going to have to let him know that you are serious and that he is only making things worse. Hounding you is only going to push you further away and make it difficult for the two of you to raise your child.

Answer 6

But if, like the winter cat upon the hearth, the lover clings when he is dismissed, and cannot bear to go, certain means must be taken to make him understand; and these should be progressively ruder and ruder, until they touch him to the quick of his flesh. ....../ She should refuse him the bed, and jeer at him, and make him angry; she should stir up her mother's enmity against him; she should treat him with an
obvious lack of candor, and spread herself in long considerations of his ruin; his departure should be openly anticipated, his taste and desires should be thwarted, his poverty outraged; she should let him that she is in sympathy with another man, she should blame him with harsh words on every occasion; she should lies about him to her parasites, she should interrupt his sentences, and send him
on frequent errands away from the house. She should seek ocasions of quarrel, and make him the victim of a thousand domestic perfides; she should rack her brains to vex
him; she should play with the glances of another in his presence, and give herself up to reprehensible profligancy before his face;
she should leave the house as often as possible, and let it be seen that she has no real need to do so,

All these means are good for showing a man the door.

Answer 7

You just answered your self girl, No Love no trust it means Move on....You don't need the drama in Ur life or Ur baby's life. As a child of a strong single women i can assure u i have no regrets......Your Child do sent need this drama he had his chance and he didn't appreciated u and Ur baby. There's Real Men out there that raise kids better than the own parent, you and Ur baby deserve to me Happy move out of this relationship Cu's there no love, and well second chances don't apply because 7 yrs was enough......Women Don't forget what Ur worth,.......

Answer 8

Why not take a break and see how you feel after some time apart...

You may find you still love him and it can be worked out... or he may find he no longer loves you..

Its hard when you are all into a relationship and find out that when you were into it - they were trying to be with another.. it hurts, build up distrust and you feel so taken advantage of and used... and this is HIS problem... not yours,

he opened the door of doubt - all you did was walk through it..

Answer 9

seven years is a long time, but he blew it by cheating on
you. thats his fault, not yours.
tell him in a polite fashion exactly how you feel and to
not call you so much, make it plain to him even
after seperation, you can still raise the child in a loving
and caring environment and not be a couple. good luck!

Answer 10

First off if you are not in love with your husband then just stop playing games and tell him the truth.....That will only hurt worse if he found out you were only hanging around cause you feel bad...good luck to you....

Answer 11

You have to tell him how you feel but try to let him down easy,you did love him at one time so don't be to mean.Make your plans for how you will live right after you split up so that way you are not stuck in a bad situation.Don't waste anymore time just do it...