Im already married, but having an affair with a man who is single, he doesnt know Im married, we have been dating for 6months and we love each other. we meet every weekends and sometimes on weekdays bcos we are 2 hours away.
I think he has been suspicious for a long time, bcos I never let him get into my hourse, I never let him meet any of my friends, I never let him in my workplace, he has my mobile but not my home phone, I refused to stay overnight for the last 3 months. I refused to move in with him when I was on the holiday. he complained about it all the time, and he joked about me having another man, I think he really have doubts.
he is a very intelligent man, I just wonder since he has all the doubts, why didnt he try to find out himself? he knows where my workplace is and where my house is. I just never let him in.
2007-12-26 09:11:17 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What I do not know, cannot hurt me. Well, it can't hurt me until I find out about it. Am I naive? Possibly. However, if I am constantly searching for ways to prove she is cheating, then wouldn't I only be searching for the negative? His heart more than likely cannot bear the thought of knowing you are cheating. It is easier for him to just suspect it.
2007-12-26 09:16:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure if you understand the concept of being married! It means that you are faithful to him (you husband) til death do you part! Or did you miss that part of your vows? If you don't love your husband anymore then end that relationship before you do any more damage! As for your other man (boyfriend) he obviously doesn't want to know what he suspects because he truly cares and it would devestate him to find out from any other source than you that you were not honest with him. How would you feel if all of this was reversed? Would you want to hear it from anyone other than the person you love? Look it is time to step up to the plate and take on the responsibilities of being an adult and the consequeses of you actions. You need to be honest with you husband and your other man.
Momma_Bear
2007-12-26 09:38:40 · answer #2 · answered by the_morris_bears 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like the saying goes 'out of sight out of mind!' he knows and because he knows he doesnt want to be certain. the truth is your married and no mater what the husband usually has more power than the lover, if he didnt then you would have left your husband before getting involved with another man. right? He doesnt want to be another bump in the road and is probobly waiting for you to make a decition. A smart man thinks of time as a virtue so the longer your with him the better his chances are of winning the game. that, or he just doesnt give a damb and is just letting himself be taken along for the ride and doesnt care that your married as long as he doesnt see it once again "out of sight out of mind"
2007-12-26 09:37:00 · answer #3 · answered by theoretical 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8.Love never fails
That's is true Love not a relationship built in Lies, and no solid ground...No Man or Women deserves to be cheated on, if they were cheating on u you wouldn't like it.....Ur boy friend knows u have someone else but he himself probably has someone else too that's is why he docent try to find out!...just remember what goes up has to come down and it hurts more when u fall.....i don't know how is Ur marriage but consider a divorce if u want to full around or in love with this other person....much luck God Bless u
2007-12-26 10:17:36 · answer #4 · answered by JESUSBEAUTIFULLDOLLY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably don't care as long as you put out. Most single men rather have married lover because if he slips up and fires a live round she is already got a man to fall back on.
Before I got married I dated a lot of married women for that very reason.
2007-12-26 09:24:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Lady you have no respect for either your husband or this man you say you love. How do I know this? Because you are not prepared to offer either honesty.
Why should your lover have to "find out" for himself that you are married? Why wouldn't you just tell him when things became serious? What do you think he's going to do when he finds out you have been lying to him this whole time? How do you think he's going to feel about it?
You will probably lose both of them, and its nothing less than what you deserve. You are cheating both you husband and your lover.
2007-12-26 09:19:54 · answer #6 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh he KNOWS you are married, but that suits him just fine.
See, he doesn't love you, you are just a piece of azz to him--he couldn't care LESS about anything but your time in the sack.
I hope your hubby finds out and you lose everything--that's what cheating whores deserve!
2007-12-26 09:21:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
He didn't care dear. He's getting what he wants pretty much with no strings attached. He already knows you're a cheat. Why would he want more to do with you. I sure hope you are a good lay.
2007-12-26 09:16:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's amazing. How did you keep up the facade for that long? That's pretty smooth. I think he didn't try to find out because he trusted you to be telling the truth. And now that you haven't been, I hope you don't lose them both.
2007-12-26 09:28:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
"he is a very intelligent man" No he is not!
You have a lot of cojones to come here to ask such a stupid question. Be a women and tell your husband about this. Then also tell your "true love"..Come on,,,you are women enough to be lying all this time,,,let's see if you have enough gall,,,come on,,,tell your men what you are! Let them see the real you! You will end up without eighter one of them,,,,and guess what!? I hope it was worth it!
2007-12-26 09:17:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋