My husb and I have been married for going on 3 !/2 years now , Ive left him twice bcuz he cant get a job and keep it and he has anger issues-we do have a child together-we are now split up and have been since August, and ive been dating somone else who swears that he loves me.but hes got his own issues.I starting to miss my husb and think I would like to go back but I dont want things to end up like they did last time- and i dont want to break my boyfriends heart either. I just think that every man has issues you just have to learn to deal w/ them and if thats the case then why dont I just go back to him so my daughter can have her mom and dad. I do still ove him but Sometimes I dont think that im in love w him . I just dont know what im supposed to do ...any advice would be good.
2007-12-26 08:42:23 · 17 answers · asked by Hillary R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You first have to know what you want as a woman then you can think about your child. You are no good to anyone right now not your bf or husband and especially your daughter. Take a good look at yourself. what do you want out of life? Can your husband support you 100% in your choices? If he isn't a good husband is he at least a good father? Learn the meaning of key words respect, loyalty, kindness, and like. A marriage requires respect, loyalty, kindess and you have to like the person you are married to not just love them. You should seriously seek a marriage counselor. Above all else pay extra attention to your child she might be confused with the 2 men coming and going out of her life. You should try really hard to provide a stable environment for her. Stop worry about u for a little while and be a mom. When you are sure she is grounded concentrate on everything else.....
2007-12-26 09:14:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi understand your situation, what you have to do first is to make your own desission and stick to it and work it out Hovever in most cases you cant be the solver of others own issues they also have to make a desission and work on the relation and get a job. You also have to make clear to whoever you shose that they have to work on there problems, you can only be there and listen but they have to do the work or u will be used as a problem solver for any of them and thinking about that u have a daughter to no matter who u shose she have to be your most concern becuase the others are adults, just see to that your daughter not drags into anything and that no matter who guy you shose never give more then u can afford to lose untill u feel things are stable. You should follow your heart and still keep your sence, good luck.
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2007-12-26 08:53:10 · answer #2 · answered by Goran E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are married!!! You have no business involving another persons into this mess. Now you are confused in what to do? And you have a daughter? You broke your marriage and went an found another to make you happy at night,,What about your husband? You are supposed to be LOYAL and when you got married nobody forced you to take your vows. He wasn't rich then and he is not rich now,,so what?,,Go back to your husband,,hopefully he still loves you and want to fix his marriage. If not then keep jumping from men to men until you find the one that will really do a number on you,,I feel for your baby.
2007-12-26 08:50:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First,youve only compounded your maritalprblems by getting involved with another guy. That was probably the worst thing you could have ever done especially if you ever truly wanted to reconcile with your husband. If you did this to hurt him,all you managed to do is hurt your marriage now and dont expect him to take you back after this. You definitely need to figure out whether youre better off with or without your husband and go from there, but what your doing is doing no one anygood and start thinking about your daughter as she really does need both her parents. Good luck
2007-12-26 08:50:45 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should do what is best for you daughter and your self you did say your husband can not keep a job my question is why can he not keep a job what is the problem. And if you do not love your new boyfriend then why break his heart my other question is have you asked your daugther what she wants she needs to make the decision to she is in your love and she needs to be the one to decide maybe she just wants to be alone with you. Ask her and then make a decision how do you know she wants to be with her father how do you know that she likes you new boyfriend.
2007-12-26 08:50:11 · answer #5 · answered by Lost 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you should be a little more picky when it comes to men. As far as you marriage is concerned, unless you both can find a way to overcome your differences together, you are fighting a losing battle. You should have never taken on a boyfriend if you thought for a second you might go back to your husband. This, by itself, is another log on the fire. You may say, "Well, at the time, I wasn't planning on going back to him." You are the one to blame for letting instant emotion effect long-term decisions. Choose your battles and men wisely. In the end, whether they are good or bad, your daughter will feel the impact of your decisions more than you do.
2007-12-26 08:50:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Baji ji, i'm very sorry to pay attention your marriage concern. the main marriage are like that on and rancid. i'm married for a million 300 and sixty 5 days and four months hamdullallah so we consistently went like on and rancid as I recommend as quickly as we argument and different time we making a love. he's likewise my cousin. i don't understand what up on your husband. i'm specific there would desire to be something reason that he do no longer communicate with you. I additionally understand that your husband would not love you in that way. attempt to sit down down with him and conversing with him very nicer way and ask him what situation concern he have. Ask him a query as plenty you are able to. which you think of it substantial you to invite. pay attention, it may be somebody have placed the black magic on your husband because it take place load human beings have a concern over the moneys, the marriage, the domicile, the relationship, won't be able to have a toddler and etc. you would be able to desire to confirm approximately it if he have or no longer. Inshallah Allah (SWT) would be restoration your marriage artwork and provide plenty love between you and your husband, Ameen, Baji...
2016-11-25 02:11:11 · answer #7 · answered by butlin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anger issues or any other issues are bad news around a child.
You have left him twice, now you are with someone who "has issues" you say love him but you don't think you are in love with him. What do you mean THINK? what is there to think about clearly neither of these people are a good influence for your child and that is what you need to concentrate on, not two men that you clearly are not even sure of.
Make the right decision for your child as well as for you.
2007-12-26 08:54:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go back to your husband. No marriage is easy. Ask anyone whos been married for a long period of time and they'll tell you there were days when they didnt want to be with each other. but if you stick with it you'll be happier in the long run!
2007-12-26 08:49:00 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. Arnold 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You enjoy getting invovled with damaged men. Be careful, anyone you are attracted to will be this way... it's a pattern you must recognize.
In the meantime, skip the two-timing and focus on the child - they are the ones truly losing in this situation.
2007-12-26 08:50:21 · answer #10 · answered by St D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋