he also makes my children stand on the wall for hours and they never have any adult supervision. when i call i talk to them for hours and the only time there is an adult around is after someone gets hurt. i feel so bad i want to call cps or go back to court but i dont know where to start or if it will even help if i call cps will they put into foster homes im so confused on what to do please help me
2007-12-26 08:18:43 · 16 answers · asked by Jessica A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
did i mention he scares the crap out of me and so does his family if i try to fight him. him or some one will try to hurt me or worse so that is why i didnt fight it til now when i found all this out
2007-12-26 10:52:49 · update #1
If the case is over, sew him for custody and you will have a better position and you will definatly win the case. He is smoking pot in front of them! I guess you are supposed to get the custody back.
Record everything, film it, audio tape it, write it. but i am not sure if you can film them without court permission have the kids complain about every thing that is wrong.
You can get a restraining order too.
Ofcourse there is the normal way which is talking him out. Sit down and talk to him.
Hope that helps you
Good Luck,
2007-12-26 08:25:50 · answer #1 · answered by HiddenLakes 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Start by calling CPS and asking for guidance. The last thing you want is for police or CPS to blow you off and assume you are just a resentful ex-spouse. If you ex has a criminal or drug record they are more likely to listen to you. You can petition the court to restrict visitation and you'll need an attorney for this. If you are going to work on this, and I suggest you do, it is also a good idea to make sure your own house is in order and that you are making responsible choices about the way you conduct your own life.
2007-12-26 08:32:52 · answer #2 · answered by kvcar2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call CPS. They will tell you what might happen if you file a formal complaint. Without a doubt you need to get your butt back in court and save the children. Having a documented CPS complaint might help, but they can answer that far better than I could.
2007-12-26 08:23:13 · answer #3 · answered by TexanBrat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Begin by documenting EVERYTHING. If you speak to your children on the phone and they tell you something that amounts to neglect (being left alone, drug use in front of them, etc), write it down and log what day/time/who/what/where. Once you have a substantial log of these things, then call CPS and see what they can do for you based on that information. They should at least want to interview the children and visit the home unannounced.
2007-12-26 08:23:35 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There not going to put the kids in foster homes unless you are doing this to so ARE YOU? If not then get off your computer and start protecting your kids. If you call the cops they may or may not do anything about it and they would have to find drugs in order to arrest him. Family Services can be hot lined anonymous and he wouldn't even know it's you but again they would have to find pot around the kids to really do anything about it. The kids would be hair sampled and if their hair indicates they have been exposed his visitation rights would either be terminated or supervised.
2007-12-26 08:29:50 · answer #5 · answered by LilSunbeam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you be a bigger person and do what is best for your children. Go out and work get yourself together and do what needs to be done for these children. Talk to your family parents someone these children should not be left if he is doing these things to them. Talk to legal aid. Make sure you have a job and apartment and do what you need to do to help your children. Speak with there father let him know you want more time with them during the week. U need to do something about this now.
2007-12-26 08:23:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to call CPS, and the DA to get the kids away from your ex. That's child abuse, and if you know that's going on but don't do anything then your as guilty as your ex. My heart goes out for you and for the kids. Good luck and I hope everything works out for the kids best interest.
2007-12-26 08:43:18 · answer #7 · answered by Crystal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not only wrong to smoke pot in front of the children it is wriong to be looking after them while under the infuence of untoxicating substances. If you must smoke the stuff then do it while you are alone or in the company of like minded adults. While under the influence you are mentally unfit to be in charge of children, you are subjecting them to your smoke and you are giving them the message that taking drugs is a normal and acceptable way of life. A responsible parent would want more for their children.
2016-05-26 09:53:01 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isnt it better to have the kids in temp custody of CPS instead of being with him? This can be considered child endangerment and by doing nothing makes you a bad as he is.These kids cant do it by themselves so call the authorities and now before something happens
2007-12-26 08:26:48 · answer #9 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well you must have done worse things than smoke pot in front of your kids since you don't have custody; assuming you have cleaned up your act, get a lawyer, unless you have seen with your own eyes the behavior you are talking about it is going to be difficult to prove (especially since you are the non-custodial parent; if it is true...it is worth getting a lawyer for
2007-12-26 08:32:26 · answer #10 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋