I'm panic stricken. I think, (maybe, possibly?) that this guy isn't the one i'm supposed to settle down with. When we put the deposit down, I was sure he was the one. He's lovely and has always treated me so well, but deep down, I want more from a relationship. I don't like his family (but that's besides the point). Do i live with and marry a guy who i'm averagely happy with, or do i end it all (house, engagement) and hold out for someone who is everything i could possible wish for.......? I've been unsure about this relationship for about 4 months......we've been together for 4 years and engaged for a year. I feel desperately confused, unfulfilled etc. HELP!
2007-12-26 08:18:17 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ask yourself the following:
Can I see myself having a family with him?
Can I see myself growing old with him?
Do I think he will make a good husband and father?
Do we have the same goals?
Sounds like nerves to me but only you know how you feel. Life is not like a fairy tale. There is no happy ever after.
Marriage is work. Good Luck
2007-12-26 08:33:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure it's not just cold feet. Do you see a future with this man? Do you think you will be happy with him? Are you always going to wonder what you could have had? These are questions only you can answer. I've seen people make a marriage work whether they were happy or not. It all depends on what you want your life to be like. I would not stay, though, because you feel like you have too much invested. I would listen to my heart.
2007-12-26 16:24:09 · answer #2 · answered by KC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your gut is unsure, listen to it. Hold off on the house and marriage.
Don't buy a house with someone without a formal agreement for the purposes of splitting the asset if you two part ways.
2007-12-26 16:27:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No-one can really help you with this one. It all depends what you want out of life. If he is a good person and doesn't do many things that irritate you, then it sounds like a good potential marriage. If you are very young, then you may not be ready for commitment and need to think again.
2007-12-26 16:23:11 · answer #4 · answered by resignedtolife 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say slow it down,you dont want to jump into somthing like marriage if you are not sure because you will be causing more problems in the long run so why do it if its not going to be what you really want.Its easier to wait and see then to go through all the hurt everyone goes through in a divorce.If you are not going to be completely happy please dont do it,you will thank me later.Good Luck
2007-12-26 16:28:50 · answer #5 · answered by wanna know 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then back out of this now before you say I do and later it will cost you about $50,000 for a divorce, been there done that.
2007-12-26 16:24:28 · answer #6 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listened to your heart......
you already know the answer......
your looking for somebody to tell you its ok to back out........
you are about to make to of the biggest decsions in your life......
I would want to be sure.......
2007-12-26 16:29:18 · answer #7 · answered by ஜღÐïåMóñdღஜ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋