Can't people change? How long will you lable a person a cheater?
2007-12-26 08:15:52 · 38 answers · asked by Tray 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The saying, "Once a cheater, always a cheater" is an accurate remark. Once you cheat, you can no longer say that you haven't cheated. Therefore, you will always be a cheater. Everyone has the ability to change. Some people change, most do not. A person will be labeled a cheater when they exhibit the qualities of a cheater. Whether or not you are actually a cheater is of no concern. If you exhibit the qualities, there will be someone (with or without proper evidence) to label you a cheater. Overcoming cheating is a long and difficult process. Although it only takes one to cheat, it will take both to overcome.
2007-12-26 08:35:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the person and the circumstances. I believe that if a person has a good home life and still goes out and cheats because they are bored ... they will always be a cheater.
Some people are pushed so far to the edge .. it just happens. I believe that! We are warm blooded creatures and if the stress levels are high, the unhappiness is there and the sadness ... all of that weighs on us and makes us weak with decision making. That person I do not believe is a repeat cheater!
Then there are the people who are stuck with an extremely jealous person ... and they cheat simply because they are CONSTANTLY being accused of it! Many people have no idea that when they are so insecure and they are always accusing that person of being unfaithful .. when there is no reason to think that will actually cause them to cheat! Why take the greif without the glory!!
2007-12-26 08:35:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just takes the right person to tame a cheater. I have cheated on every boyfriend I ever had... literally. My last bf didn't do anything to make me stop (in fact, I cheated on him too a few times during the 1st two years of our 6 year relationship) but I wanted to be a good woman to him. I fell head over heels for him and didn't want to mess things up. When a cheater finds a good mate, that's usually enough to calm them down. And to answer your second question, I think that once you've been burned by a cheater, the trust is gone and to you, that person will always be a cheater.
2007-12-26 08:22:12 · answer #3 · answered by Just gorgeous dahling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't believe once a cheater always a cheater. Life changes people as well as experiences. Is it right to judge someone over a mistake they made in the past without knowing what was going on in their life?
2007-12-26 09:15:27 · answer #4 · answered by dreamer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People can definately change. So, once a cheater - always a cheater doesn't hold water.
But...you will always be a person that has cheated in the past.
99% of us have cheated in some form so it becomes your duty to make sure the people around you know that it will never happen again. Those who are unable to forgive you aren't worthy of your attention.
2007-12-26 08:20:17 · answer #5 · answered by thorno74 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A cheater is a person who is currently cheating. Otherwise, they're potential cheaters. I honestly gave up caring about cheating a long time ago. If you want to only see each other, then do that. If you want an open relationship, then do that. If you want one thing and agree to it, but do something else, it's time to end the relationship.
2007-12-26 08:31:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
F*** NO! Once a cheater not always a cheater! You can label someone anything for as long as you want. If the person realizes what they did and they paid a high price for it, then they can change if they really want to. Change only comes from within though. It doesn't take a new special person to have them see the light. They need to see it for themselves.
2007-12-26 08:18:35 · answer #7 · answered by nonameblonde 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What context are we applying to this question? Once you cheat, of course you are always a cheater. But also, once you cheat does not mean you will do it again. Yes, people change and learn much in life. Some are smart and take responsibility for their actions while others keep making excuses and blaming everyone but theirself.
2007-12-26 10:09:50 · answer #8 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Tray,
I believe that if someone is a cheater he will always be one.
I had a three year relationship with a guy and he cheated on me for all that time because I believed in him that he will change. A cheater doesn't know the right thing even when they first cheat. Guys cheat on girls because they have not found the right girl that fits them in their life. Once a man finds the perfect woman and he loves her then that man would become mature enough to change his ways.
I hope this helped you buddy.
......................................................your friend Hellow
2007-12-26 08:23:07 · answer #9 · answered by Hellow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a word no. People can change, unfortunately, it usually comes after a significant amount pain-full experience.
Young people, times cures all wounds. Trust an old cheater, once you've lost someone you truly love, being faith full isn't the challenge it was in your youth.
Like all of life's lessons, the best ones come hard!
2007-12-26 08:24:24 · answer #10 · answered by leftymike2002 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋