He's great I love him, he doesn't ever pressure me. Our wedding is about 2 years away due to school and money, my town is full of teenage girl getting pregnant but yet everyone else is pressuring us. I guess I just don't see what's wrong with waiting if it's what we both want.
2007-12-26 08:10:01 · 50 answers · asked by Sapphire 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We are both virgins but we are mature about the situation and we've talked just about everything through.
2007-12-26 08:10:46 · update #1
whoever is pressuring you needs to stay out of your business. if you and the other half are ok then you are a whole without sex. I can think of reasons I would not want to marry as a virgin, but I can understand and respect your stance. If someone keeps saying something put them in their place. Let them know that your relationship is involving two people, not the third person.
2007-12-26 08:14:19 · answer #1 · answered by #2 in the oven 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
that decision is solely on you two and just because everyone else is not of the same mind set that's on them. You are being very adult like with your position as you are both in school and I'm sure you want your careers and a stable lifestyle first. Because when a baby is involved your lives will change dramatically. Don't follow the crowd as they might not have the best examples to live by. Besides it's your body and not theirs. Congratulations on your upcoming wedding and stay true to yourselves and not peer pressure. I was married at 18 years old and have raised 2 boys so I can aspeak from experience once baby is there you will have no choice to do anything but give your attention to them.
2007-12-26 08:19:15 · answer #2 · answered by cc's bad 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with it, do what's right for the two of you. Those pressuring you sound like they question their decision to have sex, and thus since they can't undo it, they want you to do it so you won't appear better than they are....others may find it quite enjoyable and want you to experience what they feel you are missing out on.
Definitely don't do it until you are ready to handle any possible repercussions (including pregnancy and/or STDs)...as for marriage, don't be in a huge rush for that either. The younger you marry, the higher chance it won't last too long (people often change once they reach adulthood, and not in the same way).
2007-12-26 08:20:26 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If this is what you two have decided, then good for you! Don't let other people try to pressure you or influence you into doing something you don't want to. A lot of the times, people do that just because they want to see you fail at what you have set out to do.
2007-12-26 08:14:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres nothing wrong with it. If you have both discussed waiting till marriage and are happy with that choice then more power to you. Ignore what everyone else is pressuring you to do. Its not their bodies or their life. Take what they say with a grain of salt. As long as you two are happy who cares what anyone else thinks. Its your choice not theres. And your being responsible so even more kudos for you.
2007-12-26 08:14:20 · answer #5 · answered by Danika T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing wrong with it, its just foreign to the world today to have that standard in your relationship. I saved myself for marriage and have never regretted that decision! I will comment about waiting 2 years to get married though. There will always, always be something that can stop you from getting married, and you will never be fully ready for marriage, so sometimes its not rational to make sure everything is accomplished and stable before you get married, because most likely-it never will be like that. I was engaged for 2 months and am happily married.
2007-12-26 08:14:52 · answer #6 · answered by andichica6 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with that. I think you're very smart to be concerned about an unplanned pregnancy. You should NEVER have sex because someone else pressures you (your partner or your friends)-- only when you're ready. Congratulations on your engagement, and good luck with your marriage.
2007-12-26 08:14:24 · answer #7 · answered by Terry H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who the hell would pressure you to have sex??? some other teenagers I would think. Its pretty simple, you dont want to and neither does he so dont. Heres the thing... are all those other people gonna take care of your child if you DO get pregnant? are all those other people gonna pay for the doctor bills are all those other people gonna provide the childcare? And the major question, ARE ALL THOSE OTHER PEOPLE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP..... question solved.
2007-12-26 08:15:09 · answer #8 · answered by VMG 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, there is nothing wrong with that decision if it works for both of you. A lot of people don't understand that different things make different people happy. People tend to judge everyone else's relationships based on what they want in a relationship. That and everything else in your relationship is really your business and your decision.
2007-12-26 08:13:26 · answer #9 · answered by KC 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't let anyone pressure you into sex. It is a very personnal thing and the decisions you make concerning sex will be with you forever. If you want to wait, then wait. Your the one who has to live with your decisions!
2007-12-26 08:14:25 · answer #10 · answered by amccr916 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋