My husband and I have his children every other night and every other weekend, so it is split 50/50. His ex does not have a phone, she lives with her bf and he is so jealous that when she uses his phone she dials star 67 so the number shows up private. This is so ridiculous to us, cuz we have no way of contacting the children on days they are with her or if something happened. She also does not have bedrooms for the children, they moved into the house in April and have been working on finishing the basement ever since so they can have rooms, so now they sleep in the living room together. They are 11 yr. old boy and 9 yr. old girl. Is there anything we can do about the phone situation or anything else?
2007-12-26 07:53:18 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have talked about getting him a cell, but we also don't want to pay for a cell, when it should be her responsibility to have a phone that we can reach her on. We have always told them they can get a cell, when they have a job to pay for it. I mean really if that is what it comes down too, then we will, but that is a last resort. I also, have told my husband numerous times to take her back to court and get full custody, but he doesn't think he will get it. I disagree with him, we have a stable home with all together 3 children and every child has their own room, we both work. She does not have a job, she was fired in the summer and would rather mooch off her boyfriend than get a job and grow up.
2007-12-26 08:04:42 · update #1
She declined child support in the divorce decree, so I really don't think she could get back support could she? We pay for everything for them anyway, besides the food they eat at her house.
2007-12-26 08:13:04 · update #2
Look, don't pay any mind to that ex of his. My husbands ex is crazy too. She brings up things from months almost years ago. The first time I saw her I said Hi and that was that. I saw her for all of 5 minutes. She called my hubby's cell about 30 or so minutes later to yell at him how ugly and gross looking I was. LOL RIIIIGHT.
Anyway, pay her no mind, and in the end only she looks like the A hole.
As far as his children are concerned he NEEDS to seek an attorney. My hubby has it in the COURT order each party MUST answer the phone where possible for contact purposes. Not only that but each party has to disclose living locations.
He needs to do that and do it fast. He also needs to start paying child support. Even if he has the 50/50. There is NO court order showing that. She could go to court and say she has them 100% and he has never paid a DIME and he will be charged UP THE *** in back child support. Anything he spends on the kids KEEP THE RECIEPT!!!!
The law leans on the woman...plain and simple!
My hubby's ex makes 12.00 and hour and she gloats about staying home raising her kids on his earned income. Its nasty, but he can get burned really badly. Email me if you have any questions!!!! Good freakin luck...I hate having to deal with baggage. UGH.
2007-12-26 08:08:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving children from house to house every other night sounds like a very confusing and inconvenient arrangement. Plus at that age children of opposite gender should not be sleeping together. Talk with the ex and ask if the children can stay at your home until the basement is finished so that they can have privacy. If the kids are uncomfortable with the arrangement mention that too. Maybe they could spend one or two family evenings with the ex, and days on weekends. Also ask if you can provide the oldest with a cell phone so you can reach them. Make it sound as if you are doing her a favor.
If this doesn't work talk to your attorney about your views and discuss the inadequate accommodations. He will know if you are able to take legal action to get permanent custody for a while.
2007-12-26 08:14:18 · answer #2 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had had troubles with my Samoan wife; I tried to get custody for my two daughters there. The Samoan judge could not care less for the wellbeing of my girls. But finally they won the case; I left my wife in Samoa, moved to NZ and my wife let my daughters go with me because they wanted to. So if the children are free to express their wishes, they should decide! The parents are there for the kids, and not the other way!
2007-12-26 08:05:47 · answer #3 · answered by Joe from around the world 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really should be asking these questions to an attorney not a bunch of strangers on Y/A. I normally don't answer questions that way but I would be highly upset if my children were living like this and I would DO something about it!
2007-12-26 07:57:42 · answer #4 · answered by LilSunbeam 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buy the 11 year old a trac pre-paid phone for them to use and for you to be able to contact them. That way there is no useless contract and they cannot complain since you are paying for it.
Yoda out
2007-12-26 07:58:17 · answer #5 · answered by Yoda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they have a formal custody agreement, she is probably in violation of it. Most custody agreements set rules for this kind of thing. If she's in violation, he should take her to court, ASAP. You need to seek professional advice.
2007-12-26 08:14:25 · answer #6 · answered by sarah jane 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋