I kissed my ex boyfriend while my husband and I were seperated . Should I come clean??
2007-12-26 07:39:40 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Part One: Oh yes, it's cheating. How would you feel if you caught him kissing another woman? Wouldn't you feel threatened?
Part Two: What is your goal of telling him? If you want to hurt him and make him feel like you are in total charge, then tell him. If you are serious about staying with him, then think long and hard about if you really need to tell him. If it was so innocent, keep your mouth shut and don't give it another thought.
2007-12-26 07:47:36 · answer #1 · answered by judy y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course that's cheating!
Your heart, emotions, attention and thoughts on any other man other than your spouse is cheating. Is is a full out sexual encounter? No. Is it unfaithfullness? To the core.
Even though you were separated, you were still married. Therein lies the ridiculous problem that the difference between separation and divorce come into play.
When people are divorced, they are free to re-engage in relationships. When people are separated, they are still married, and yes, by all means, it stings the relationship as it would simply being together.
However.... with all that in mind, the fact that you were separated does put a tad different light on the entire scope of things. Why and how long were you separated?
You must understand, that what you did during your separation will affect the two of you when you get back together. So, it's not a matter of right and wrong; it's a matter of restoration, forgivness, and rebuilding trust to make the relationship work this time.
Also realize, that separation brings devestation to the trust factor to both parties. You basically "gave up" on each other, which is among the most deadliest things one can do to sabatoge the other in a relationship.
make it work!
2007-12-26 07:48:56 · answer #2 · answered by splashdesign238 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter if it is cheating or not. When you are married to another person and plan to stay that way, kissing another person is stupid and wrong. Should you tell you husband? Are you in counseling now? If so, I'd talk it over with your counselor first Usually, people get separated because there is a problem and stray because they are looking for something. Hopefully, you and your husband are on the way to figuring out what those things are.
2007-12-26 07:47:39 · answer #3 · answered by kvcar2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that would be cheating anytime you place emotions or physical contact with someone other then your spouse family excluded of course unless they sleep with your sibling then of course that would be like hell no.
Really if you kissed your ex you cheated on your husband just because your seperated doesn't mean your divorced.
FESS UP AND LIVE WITH THE CONSEQUENCES OF YOUR ACTIONS.
2007-12-26 07:51:02 · answer #4 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would only be considered cheating if you lead your husband to believe that you simply needed time alone to sort through things but had full intentions of never working things out with him. You should not tell your husband but if he found out and asked, then you should come clean.
2007-12-26 08:00:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were seperated than there's no need to tell. Kissing is cheating but you were not with your hubby at the time.
2007-12-26 07:46:47 · answer #6 · answered by QuEEn B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you were wrong for kissing him b/c that will bring other things out. But, are you guys still seeing each other? If yes, then yes you are cheating. If No, then let it go and move on. It all depends on what you are doing right now.
2007-12-26 08:13:45 · answer #7 · answered by Tray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything you would normally share with only your spouse is cheating. Anything that should be for your spouse only (kisses, emotions, time, finances, etc) that you share/give with anyone else is considered cheating. Now, to your question, should you confess---the bible says to confess our sins one to another, unless doing so would cause harm to oneself or others. you could always pray about it, and ask God to forgive you, and make a vow to God that it will never happen again, if your husband does not know about it, why put him in that misery? If you are trully sorry, then you should suffer alone in this, as this is not his fault.
2007-12-26 07:49:41 · answer #8 · answered by oh really 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are guilty of cheating on your husband if you liked the way your ex kissed you.. or if you felt something during or after the kiss.. if not everything is OK.!.. you just realized that you love your husband more than you thought...
hope the things get fixed up...
luck
2007-12-26 07:49:03 · answer #9 · answered by [madeline] 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you were separated for anylenght of time ...the short answer is no. for whatever reason you two reconciled and thats that. what happened during the separation made you want to get back together and work out your problems. kissing the ex was part of what made that happen so drop it and dont ask him if he messed around. start from now and work on the relationship as if it were new.
2007-12-26 07:47:14 · answer #10 · answered by no religion know peace 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋