My brother is in a deep depression.He was engaged 5 months ago and his fiance was 4 months pregnant.Suddenly he called off the engagement and asked his fiance to make abortion and they broked up.Soon he started dating another girl but he had erection problems and was unable to have sex with her and he explained his problem with that she is unattractive(she is really).His ex is a very beautiful and sexy girl ,like a model,and may be he compares her to this girl.Now he wants his ex fiance back but he knows she won't back to him and recently she told him to stop pursue her.Now he is in a big depression and lost interest in everything.I would like to help him.Any ideas how i could help him.
2007-12-26 07:39:15 · 17 answers · asked by Natalie B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She lost the baby because of the stress she got when he left her.
2007-12-26 07:55:39 · update #1
His erection problem is likely a symptom of the guilt he feels about the abortion/lacking of stepping up to be a father....wimping out...He needs to do talk therapy to own his own actions and feelings about this...the sooner the better...he needs help immediately...
2007-12-26 07:43:10 · answer #1 · answered by angieblossom 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Slowly day by day his pain will lesson, he must morn loosing her. Really can't blame her for not wanting him back. Give him time, and just be the sholder to cry on without judging him. He was a fool, lessson learned time to move on!
If you feel he is becoming obsessive or Deeply depressed than a little help from the Doctor will do him some good. Short term anti-depressants. If you think he is suicidal, or pathological do not hesitate to contact the authorities. He is your brother, don't let me be that stupid. Tell him you love him lots and that no matter what a new wonderful person will come along when he is ready.
2007-12-26 15:45:41 · answer #2 · answered by leaann2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi I know whats it's like to have Depression. Basically he needs to go and see a Counsellor. He also needs to have support around him. Like loving family & friends that will listen to him when he needs someone to talk to or a shoulder to cry on. Even see a Doctor about his erection problem, he might need something to help him relax, before having sex. I was one day off see a Councellor for 4yrs. It helpped me out a great deal.
Judi
2007-12-26 15:48:59 · answer #3 · answered by Judi G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Karma
2007-12-26 15:52:10 · answer #4 · answered by LilSunbeam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that he needs to learn how to love himself first and that he shouldn't need to be in a relationship to be happy. You have to be complete before you enter a relationship otherwise things will go wrong. Help him develop other aspects of his life rather than rushing into relationships.
2007-12-26 15:43:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's natural to want to help those we care about. But this can only be accomplished by your brother himself. You might suggest he find a therapist who charges on a sliding scale--unless he has insurance coverage. Talking this out will help.
2007-12-26 15:43:17 · answer #6 · answered by beez 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your brother is in for a long ride. Too many issues here. Just ocntinue to be a support to him and keep him busy.
2007-12-26 15:51:50 · answer #7 · answered by KingDavid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay so is it just me or isnt it strange that you know so much details about your brother's sex life ?? oi i mean come on .......thats a little too close and person for a sibling relationship to me ........and as for him if he is depressed well we all make mistakes but your brother was an *** and well too late for him to make things better i guess and rightfully so .....
2007-12-26 16:01:38 · answer #8 · answered by thinker_belle* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG is it even legal to get an abortion at 4 months gestation?
I feel for you, maybe he should see a doctor.
2007-12-26 15:43:46 · answer #9 · answered by Geminat 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't mean to sound uncaring, but he made his bed and now has to lie in it. Time is the only thing that will help him get over it. 18 years of child support should be enough. Don't tell him though, he'll feel even worse.
2007-12-26 15:43:55 · answer #10 · answered by bikinkawboy 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋