so here is my proble. Im 18 and currently a full time student and fulll time employee. I met my fieance in june and we hit it off right them. Im very much in love with him and could tell him things that i have honestly never told anyone. His family loves me and my family likes him. thats the problem. Only his mom and sister and my two siters know we are engaged (out of our families) im scared to tell my parents because i think they will flip since i hvaent been dating him for that long. but once you know, you know. I dont know when i should tell them about this. any advice?
2007-12-26 07:24:30 · 12 answers · asked by danielle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Until you master the difficulty of the spell check, keep your mouth closed about your pretend engagement.
Good luck.
2007-12-26 07:32:55 · answer #1 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 4⤋
I think you need to wait a year before you even start thinking about being engaged. Whether you think you know or not, you haven't had the time to get to really know him and what he is all about. A few months doesn't do justice to what you will learn after AT LEAST a year of being together. Take your time, you're young!!! Too young.
2007-12-26 15:44:46 · answer #2 · answered by Blondee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you think you're grown enough to accept the marriage proposal, so why not go with that grown up thought and be honest with your parents... Take THEM to dinner, pay for it and have it as a coming out party for the engagement.
IMO, it would have shown respect if he had gone to your Father. Not needed, but it shows a great deal of respect.
2007-12-26 15:34:18 · answer #3 · answered by Beatngu 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Part of being an adult is making a decision and sticking with it, come what may. If you do not feel adult enough to tell your parents "look this is what I'm doing and I would like your support", maybe you aren't mature enough to decide to marry someone. I'm sure you're not going to like that response, but its the truth.
2007-12-26 15:41:05 · answer #4 · answered by Allison L 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell them. You are an adult and you do not need their permission. They will get over it. You are going to do a lot of things in your life that your family is going to complain and get mad about. I would not worry about it. They do not have to live your life and only you knows what makes you happy. Just tell them about the engagement and make no apologies about it.
2007-12-26 15:30:41 · answer #5 · answered by kim h 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your fear of telling your parents makes it apparent that even you aren't sure of this engagement. There must be something that makes you feel uneasy about this guy. Call off the engagement until you've addressed the areas of concern that you have with him. When you can confidently announce the engagement to your parents, then you will have come to terms with the issues you have with him.
2007-12-26 15:29:42 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well its sounds like your very responsible and in love. Its understandable to be scared since your so young but its YOUR life and you only live once. Tell them, and if they are upset, too bad, they will get over it especially since you say that they love him. Congrats! :)
2007-12-26 15:30:51 · answer #7 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the heck....tell them...it's not the end of the world and they'll find out eventually...They should be happy for you rather than upset. If you're happy...then why not?? It's your decision after all.
2007-12-26 15:34:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, Box is right. How can you possibly argue with logic like that. Learn to spell.
2007-12-26 15:35:22 · answer #9 · answered by Shadow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell them. They may or may not support you, but it is your life. If you are 100% sure about this, tell them. Just tell them how you feel. If they don't approve they will come around.
2007-12-26 15:31:33 · answer #10 · answered by contessa t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your fiancé did it the wrong way. He should have asked your father for your hand in marriage. To get respect you have to show it. That is what I did
2007-12-26 15:30:33 · answer #11 · answered by netoe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋